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Sibling Loss / Re: New here - lost my brother two years ago
« on: March 29, 2010, 06:16:31 PM »
Dear Tigerlily;
     I am sorry for the unexpected loss of your dear brother. I agree that talking about him will help a little bit- so please return here and tell us about your brother if you can. I am sorry for the pain and confusion, wishing you a moment of peace and rest in this. Thinking of you.
Terri

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Main / Re: new member struggling
« on: March 29, 2010, 03:03:04 AM »
Dear reinn and 2angelboys;     
     I am sorry for you both to be struggling with these heavy feelings of deep grief.
I am glad you found this site and I hope you keep writing to tell us how you are doing. Yes, I think it does help to talk about our losses. I am missing my husband who died unexpectedly. I have found some comfort in sharing my story here and I wish you continued strength to do the same. I continue walking also.
   I think this site helps me alot because there is no pressure and you can come on here at all hours just to have a "place to go." I have also felt supported through an actual grief support group in my area, I had to push to find one, but talking with others has been useful. I wish you peace for the moment and courage to continue on with what needs to get done.
    Keep caring for yourselves in every way you can.
Terri

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Main / Re: New Member
« on: March 29, 2010, 02:55:16 AM »
Dear endless;
    I am very sorry for your loss. I too miss my husband after almost two years, he died from a sudden heart arrythmia- everything I based my life on was gone in moments. I feel as you do, that the waves of pain just come. I can think a lot better now, and I do have some really okay tiimes again, but that deep pain and sadness can swallow me up.
     I am glad you found this site, and that your kids are doing okay. Maybe you could tell us more about your loss or what is going on for you now, when you feel like it. I am focused on exercising and working alot now, after two years of gaining a ton of weight and not even knowing what day it was. I consider this progress. Hoping you feel a little less alone by finding this site, we are here for you.
Terri

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Main / Re: 5 deaths in 2 years...how do I even begin?
« on: March 29, 2010, 02:44:37 AM »
Dear Jes;
     I am sorry for the losses of your brother, your grandparents, your Dad and your uncle. The grief is so confusing at times, and overwhelming, it does seem like nobody understands. I am glad you found this site, as many here will send you feelings of strength and caring.
     Everyone is different, but for me I asked for help finally. I felt overwhelmed by the loss of my husband- and I tried to just cope for about a year. When I felt as though things just kept getting scarier and worse for me, I went to a therapist and support group- after a Priest. I did alot of walking, writing, reading and posting here and I joined a knitting group of women. Not one thing really took any pain away, but it gave me some direction and support, now almost two years later I can think clearly at least.
    The grief can still be devastating, but I feel more healthy and stable. I hope these ideas help you. Tell us about your family members as you wish, and remember that taking good care of yourself is most important. Again, so sorry.
Terri

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Grief not related to deaths / I got the job!!
« on: March 25, 2010, 07:16:30 PM »
I am excited to report that I got a GREAT job and I start Tuesday. They threw me in today to meet my peers with NO notice- I was hired on Tuesday. I think I did pretty well- with the people- I was a little goofy, like too friendly, but better than aloof I guess.
So- I am in a training for management program- it will be challenging and keep my mind busy. You all know, good, but a missing thing- my husband to celebrate with through this. But, he would be so proud of me that it will have to be enough, to know that, right now. Thanks for listening and sharing in my good news.
Terri

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Main / Re: Family dying
« on: March 22, 2010, 03:38:05 AM »
Dear Sue;
A hug back to you and a wish for a moment of peace amidst your grief. I am sorry for the continued and unexpected losses in your family, and the aching loss of your precious Sara.
I have posted this a while back, but I find it helpful, so maybe others will too. My son (Sixteen and lost his dad suddenly) said,"The only thing that could be worse is if only some people die." He was clear in stating that it is all relative to time, we are all going to experience this, just in our own way and time. I found it oddly comforting that no matter we will share this experience along with our loved ones someday. Sue, I hope you will be able to take your time in absorbing these losses and in caring for yourself each day. Continued strength to you and your family.
Terri

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Main / Re: Losing My Father
« on: March 22, 2010, 03:29:36 AM »
Thinking of you and all others on this thread and these boards. Continued strength each day.
Terri

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Main / Re: My Mum, my mentor gone....
« on: March 22, 2010, 03:26:59 AM »
Thinking of you Mir, Daddys_grl, Terry and Martha;
     I am glad we have this site to communicate with others who may be feeling overwhelmed by grief, and continually upholding our day to day responsibilities in the meantime. I wish each of you a moment of peace and to feel our loved ones close in our hearts. Kind thoughts sent your way.
Terri

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Main / Re: I miss my Sam
« on: March 20, 2010, 04:56:25 AM »
Dear Christine;
I am so very sorry for your loss. I hope you will tell us about your Sam when you feel able to. I also lost my life partner Mike and I understand the loneliness. It is hard, and it can be overwhelming. Please seek help and understanding from a variety of sources, friends, family, church if you have one, counselor, grief group. I joined a womens' group, it has turned out to be a great resource and support. I also got alot out of walking daily.
Thinking of you and know that you are welcome here on these boards.
Terri

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Main / Re: My Wife has just died
« on: March 20, 2010, 04:44:30 AM »
Dear Robert;
I am deeply sorry for your loss of your precious wife. The grief can be overwhelming and intimidating to experience, I know I was unprepared for it (Lost my young husband unexpectedly almost two years ago). The ability to think clearly now and sleep soundly have been a big improvement for me. Please join us on this site and share thoughts as you can, take good care of yourself. It may give you some support to know that my three kids are doing really well, I was pretty hopeless at the start of this, it is still very hard, but more manageable. Thinking of you.
Terri

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Main / Re: Today is the 3rd anniversary of my husband's death
« on: March 20, 2010, 04:36:12 AM »
Dear Mousewife;
Thinking of you and your continued strength. You are helping people like me who are coming up on two year anniversary date, yes this is so hard. I am grateful to read your post, and hope you continue to grow. I am sure there are low times so please know that we care. Peace to you.
Terri

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Grief not related to deaths / Re: adult child is alcoholic
« on: March 10, 2010, 06:16:11 AM »
Hope4Rod;
Thinking of you and wishing it could be different, so sorry you are feeling alone. Continued strength to you.
Terri

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Main / Re: It's been forever
« on: March 10, 2010, 06:03:35 AM »
Dear klharmon;
    This was great to read- Congratulations and continued good health and energy in all you do! It is really amazing news from you and I have wondered how you have been, thank you for giving us an update.
Terri

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Main / Re: FIRST TIME ON THIS BOARD(MY DAD DIED)
« on: March 10, 2010, 05:59:34 AM »
Dear Martha;
I am sorry from the bottom of my heart for the recent loss of your Dad and the sad loss of your precious niece Candi. I hope you are doing okay today. I have been including your family in my prayers, may you always feel the care of others here on this site, because you are deeply cared for here. I hope you will write again and let us know how you and your family are doing as the hours and days unfold. Grief and loss can be so disorienting and confusing, at first and even after such a long time. Praying for your continued strength Martha.
Terri

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Sibling Loss / Re: It hurts SOOOOOOO much
« on: February 14, 2010, 04:29:24 AM »
Dear Lee901;
I am sorry for the loss of your dear sister. Glad you found the site. Thinking of you Gail, clc, and Irene.
Sincerely,
Terri

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