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Child Loss / Re: "Happy Birthday Candi"
« on: August 31, 2009, 09:05:40 AM »
Happy birthday Candi.
Thinking of your family today.
Lots of Love

Child Loss / Marc's 21st
« on: August 31, 2009, 08:33:49 AM »
Hi everyone.  Today it is tuesday the 1st Sept at 1.10am (the time my gorgeous son was born) Western Australia time and it would be his 21st birthday. :)
On Saturday we had a party for him and the turn out of family and his friends was great.  If you would like to see some pictures, (
I thought that it would be a hard thing to do but instead I found that it has been great.. I was dreading today as all I could think of is how bad it was going to be, but instead I am thinking that it might have been the best thing to do.  Having all his friends here was just so fantastic as I have not seen them since his funeral 2 1/2 yrs ago.  My heart just feels a little bit more settled now. We were all telling Marc stories and the remember whens!!!!
Our daughter gave me the best surprise by coming down for the party, she had previously told me that she was not able to get down for work commitments as she had just started a new job just a few months before. ;D

I just think that I might get through today without to many tears.

All of my love to anyone else having a birthday or angel day today.
Judy (Marc's Mum)

Child Loss / Marc's 21st
« on: July 01, 2009, 01:21:09 AM »
Hi everyone,
Sorry I havent been here for quite some time.  I have been reading the posts from time to time though.
We have just moved back to Western Australia from the Northern Territory (which is where Marc died) which is feeling quite strange after all  time that we spent away, but the good thing is that I have a chance now to catch up with all his old friends. :)
It will be his 21st in two months time and they have been asking me if I am going to have a party for him.  The hard part is that I would like to do something but I am not sure what.  My husband wants to have something here at the house where there are pictures of him around.
I know that it is going to be a very hard thing to do but I just feel that I need to do it for him
Has anyone had any experience with this sort of thing or been though the same??  

Child Loss / Happy birthday Marc
« on: August 29, 2008, 04:48:27 PM »
20th Birthday Poem

How do you say “Happy Birthday”
to a son that’s no longer here?
Who was also a friend and brother,
whose presence is always near.

Living without you from day to day,
is pain we all endure.
But you are in a better place,
as for that, we all are sure.

Knowing this still doesn’t make it easy,
you would have turned 20 today.
And although you are celebrating in heaven.
In OUR hearts you will always stay!

So Happy Birthday Marc,
your teenage days would be over and done.
From child to young adult,
had only you not died so young.

God must have needed an angel,
to teach a lesson or two.
And as we all know there has never been,
a more prefect angel than YOU!

So with some courage and  strength,
along with all the pain that we bear.
We will do our best to live without you,
until the day that we meet you there.

Love you always

« on: August 11, 2008, 05:17:45 AM »
Shelly I havent been here for quite some time and I miss you.
That is just so, so  beautiful.
Go Lan Man (listening to Forever Young at the moment)
Lots of love
Judy Marc's mum

Child Loss / Back at day one
« on: April 30, 2008, 03:17:56 AM »
By nature I dont remember my dreams, but last night I had a dream that I wish that I dont remember.  I dreamt that Marc & I were driving and we came across an accident.  We stopped and I got out telling him to ring the police on my mobile phone as I went to help the people in the accident.  After it was over I went back to my car to find it and Marc gone. (to those that dont know Marc took my car whilst we were away on holidays and had an accident and died)  Next I was driving around to try and find him and I kept seeing guys that looked like him but they weren't.
I have been so depressed today (and after I thought I was getting to be able to cope) that it feels the same as it did the moment that we found out that he was dead. I am back at the place were we all started this journey from.
All I have done today is cry.  Dont want to see anyone or talk to them either.
Today is a day that I wish away.
Has anyone else had dreams like this.
Love Judy

Child Loss / Re: Hurt by fellow grieving parent
« on: March 24, 2008, 01:47:06 AM »
This lady sounds like she really needs a kick in the  butt to make her wake up and realise that she is not the only person that needs help.  You made the first move and she now needs to think about what she is doing.  My friend Christine lost her partner Terry to luekiemia 2 1/2 weeks before Marc died and for the next few months all she could talk about was Terry (fair enough) but one day I spat the dummy and said "What about Marc".  She didnt realise what she was doing.  Now the coversation between the two of us is more balanced.
This lady has had enough time to know the difference.
Let her know that what she is doing is wrong.
There is lots more that I could say but the words really dont want to come out right.
Think of you and Jessica
Love and best wishes
Judy Marc's Mum

« on: March 17, 2008, 04:46:21 AM »
Congratulations Nana,
My granddaughter is the light of my life at the moment (and always) she makes me laugh when I really don't want to.
I hope that Karlie brings many joys into your life.  I know that Kayla has brought many into mine.
Lots of love and best wishes
Judy Marc's Mum

Child Loss / Re: Wade's 17th Birthday
« on: March 17, 2008, 04:41:47 AM »
Sorry I havent been here for a while.
Happy birthday Wade and know that we are all thinking of you and your family.
Love always
Judy Marc's Mum
((((Wade))))XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX A hug for each year

Child Loss / Thought I would share this poem
« on: March 17, 2008, 02:11:25 AM »
This poem was posted on Marc's website.
I thought of how true it was so I thought that I would share it with all of you.

♥ღ♥ Gone Only To Others by Ann Holloway ♥ღ♥

Others, who do not know,
Tiptoe around your name
Unaware that your name is silently
Written on my heart, my soul, my life
And inwardly I cry out to hear it spoken.

Others who do not know
Think of you as only in the past
And believe
That you only exist in my past too
Not understanding that you are
Past, Present, Future.

Others, who do not know,
Feel you as gone,
And fail to see the reality of you
Never being ‘truly’ gone from me.
The empty void of your absence
Is filled with your presence,
Your life will forever weave through mine
The divine bond cannot be severed.

Others who do not know,
Mistakenly may think that my love has been
Weakened by separation,
Feelings ceased,
Not so.
Entwined and strengthened
My love for you lives on
And has not died with death.
But you know all this,
If only others knew.

Love you always Marc

Child Loss / Re: Introduce ourselves
« on: February 19, 2008, 06:44:04 AM »
My name is Judy.  I am Marc's mum.  We live in Darwin, Australia.
Marc died just over 14 months ago at the age of 18. Like a lot of us here he died in a MVA.   He was a happy go lucky boy that loved his family and friends.   He adored his niece Makayla (Kayla) my grand daughter.  He is missed so much by his sister Danielle (27) and brother Phillip (25). 
Greg like your son Marc always wanted to an organ donor but like Debh's he didnt get a chance to be.
Love to all our kids who didnt get the chance to be who they wanted to be.
Love you Marc
Mum & Dad
Sorry really dont know what to say other than what I have said in other posts. 

Child Loss / Re: Aiko with Jason
« on: February 13, 2008, 03:30:50 PM »
At least know that Jason and Aiko are now together again.  I know that Marc is with Silk, she died when she was 13 and he was 12.  Friends forever our children and their pets.
Lots of love and hugs
Marc and Silk the day she died.

Child Loss / Re: Lost My Dog last Night
« on: February 13, 2008, 03:22:36 PM »
So sorry to hear about Maddy May.  I am sure that she had the best life possible with you and your family.  Also what everyone has said about your son Patrick is true.  What a very brave and grown up young man he is.
Love and hugs
Judy-Marc's mum

Child Loss / 14 months today without Marc
« on: February 09, 2008, 03:48:59 PM »
Well it is the 10th of Feb here now.  Another month has gone by and it is to the day that my Marc has been gone for 14 months.  I sit here at 8.00am crying at my computer whilst I look at all of his photo's, also thinking about the family of the other vehicle (a mother and her 2 kids).  It wasn't her fault, it was Marc's, but I am sure she is living with it as well.  For some reason (for reasons that we will never know of) Marc took my car that night.  He didnt have his licence yet, but was going for it in a few weeks.  He was a good driver but over confident in his abilities.  Unforfortuntely those abilities were not good enough when he found himself in a situation that he couldn't control.  A few seconds either way, he would of ended up in the scrub.  Probably would of totalled my car but I would rather that alternative than the one we are living now.  That split second made the difference.
I know that I will be thinking of her as well when I take some flowers down to his memorial rock (at the site of the accident) today.
Love you always my Marc.

Marc at his year 11 ball. (just before we moved to Darwin)

Child Loss / Re: Hopefully I got through
« on: February 07, 2008, 03:47:25 AM »
Hi Rosie
If you feel that you need me to talk to you can use my email address which is in my profile.  Please remember that I will not be able to reply straight away as I am in Australia and we have a big time difference.  I normally check my emails when I get home from work.
I know that a lot of things have been said and that we cant take them back (me included) as we all have a very different range of emotions happening all the time to each and every one of us.  Me at the moment I am very angry with the world, Marc and myself.  The complete trust that you give one person that you believed in and then it is broken is one of the most heartbreaking things.  My first thoughts after being told that Marc had died was who was in the car with him and are they ok.  You see Marc didnt have a license and he also took my car that night ( we were in another state for a wedding) as I said trust.
I know that sometimes we all seem wrapped up in our own emotions (that true,we are) but at the same time we all try to help each other.  We may not reply to a particular post for a while because we need to think through our emotions and feel that the words that we are saying are the truest that we can feel. 
Also sometimes words are said without thinking.  We really dont mean to be cruel.
Looking at your previous posts you not given us any indication of your story.  Please feel that you can tell us.
What was your beautiful boy's name and how old was he?  PLease tell us his story, as I had to tell Bendan Marc's yesterday
Hope to hear from you soon
Thinking of you
Judy Marc's Mum

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