Show Posts

This section allows you to view all posts made by this member. Note that you can only see posts made in areas you currently have access to.

Messages - Karen Paul

Pages: 1 2 [3] 4 5 ... 76
Child Loss / Re: Memories ( a friend sent me this)
« on: May 01, 2009, 06:29:53 AM »
Nancy - I agree with Rebecca - this is beautiful, if sometimes hard to do - definitely worth striving for..

hugs, Karen
Chris aunt

Child Loss / Re: Paula Bruchner
« on: April 30, 2009, 06:05:18 AM »
Paula - I too am glad you logged on, and glad that Rebecca was thoughtful enough to ask after you - we do care and I for one, never would think that you are a fraud - but a grieving mother who also has so much else going on in life to deal with - it is too much to ask, yet there it is..

I'm sorry we missed Adam's birthday - I hope you were able to feel him close by you on his very special day.

I myself have not been on here as much lately. Tuesday we gathered at the DWI Memorial in Troy, NY to honor my nephew along with all the others whose lives have been cut short by drunk drivers - the ceremony is part of National Crime Victims Week - There was a mom there, speaking about her son Kevin. Kevin was born the same year as my nephew Chris (1986) and died the same year also (2003) - both at the hands of a drunk driver. This woman spoke with passion and longing and tears - and all those feelings about Chris and the fresh feelings of loss came right to the surface. Even after this amount of time.. it does still hurt and it always will - it will always be wrong, and the huge void in our lives will always be there, where Chris should be -

Please know that we do care - and you share here all that you can - don't isolate yourself..

luv and hugs, Karen
proud aunt of Christopher

Main / Re: I'm home
« on: April 23, 2009, 05:53:00 AM »
Lauren - I haven't posted on here in  a while - but wanted to let you know I am glad your surgery went well and hope you heal very quickly and are feeling better soon! Keeping you in my heart.

Chris' aunt

Child Loss / Re: I miss my Daughter
« on: April 23, 2009, 05:50:54 AM »
John - I'm so sorry to hear about your precious daughter Hollie.. I hope you will find this a safe place to share her life and your grief.. we would love to hear more about your girl if you are up to it..

hugs, Karen
proud aunt of Christopher

Child Loss / Re: To Taylor on your birthday
« on: April 23, 2009, 05:48:41 AM »
Happy Heavenly Birthday Taylor!

Brenda - Thinking of your sweet, handsome Taylor on his very special day.. hope you do feel him close by you.. and hope you are healing well from your surgery.. we are all thinking of you and holding you in our hearts.

luv and hugs, Karen
Chris' aunt

Child Loss / Easter/Passover
« on: April 13, 2009, 05:53:34 AM »
Hi everybody - didn't get on here this weekend with Easter prep, etc.. - just wanted to say I hope Passover or Easter (whichever you "celebrate") was peaceful for you all..

Last week was a week of turmoil here - upon hearing of the death of Angels pitcher Nick Adenhart from a drunk, hit and run driver - I've been having very sad memories of my sweet nephew Christopher's death at the hands of the same.. and Nick was 22yrs old, which is the age Chris would be today if he were still heart goes out to his family..

Then at the end of the week my employer announced we were going to 4 day work weeks for a while, because we are slow - so we need to tighten our belts at home..  I'm "lucky" in that I don't have to deal with child-care issues as some of my co-workers do, but it is still stressful..

Easter was also our nephew Thaddeus' 17th birthday - so we had my husband's whole family over and my mom and dad and we celebrated Thaddeus' bday - 17, the first one Chris never got to have. That is a tough one for me... so happy for Thaddeus and he is a great kid - just wish Chris got to do all the things he's doing.. I think it was good that my brother was not there, he and his wife were out of town - I think it would have been harder if they were here..

So it's the "day after" and I always find those the hardest days - filled with sadness and melancholy- and so I come to share with you all - the only friends I have that will understand..

luv and hugs, Karen
Chris' aunt

Child Loss / Re: !!! Warning Tearfull!!!
« on: April 09, 2009, 05:30:28 AM »
Beautiful, absolutely beautiful.. and heartwarming.. and sad..

luv and hugs, Karen
Chris' aunt

Child Loss / Re: Very sad news from Leslie, Jarek's Mom
« on: April 06, 2009, 06:23:40 AM »
Oh this is terrible news! So heartbreaking to hear - there just are no words.. please let Leslie know that she is in our hearts and we're thinking of Jarek and Tim..

big hugs, Karen
Chris' aunt

Child Loss / Re: update on brenda
« on: April 06, 2009, 06:11:22 AM »
John - so nice of you to come here and let us know that Brenda is on the recovery path - she is a fighter for sure.. let her know we're all thinking of her and Taylor is always on our minds..

Hope to see you back soon Brenda - take care of yourself.

hugs, Karen
Chris' aunt

Child Loss / Re: A family in need
« on: April 06, 2009, 06:06:09 AM »
OH Paula - how sad - I'm keeping them all in my prayers for sure..


Child Loss / Re: Healing On The Journey of Grief
« on: April 02, 2009, 06:19:13 AM »
That is so amazing you gals look great and it is so good to see a picture of you all together! What a wonderful  thing for all of you to share. And so nice of Dottie to open her home and share Tammie with you.. and the smiles - as Judy says - you all have "real" smiles on your faces - and you're making me smile back at you.

big hugs, Karen
Chris' aunt

Child Loss / Re: I am never prepared
« on: April 02, 2009, 06:13:15 AM »
Oh Paula - things like this can just make us feel so incredibly sad - for a bunch of reasons I think - the first and foremost is the stark reminder (as if it was needed) of our loves gone.. and also the difficulty of conversations and being in social settings.. I'm so sorry this has caused you so much pain..

I'm not a parent of course - but remember many situations where i just wanted to reach out and slap someone for things they said.. stupid, unthinking things.. and most of the time that is all it is, they just aren't thinking, they aren't where we are or where you are - and I think they really do not mean to hurt.. I do hope your friend acknowledges your hurt and does apologize..

Know that I'm thinking of you today and hoping you feel the Adam's love shining through it all.. letting you know that he is right there with you all the way..

luv and hugs, Karen
Chris' aunt

Child Loss / Re: BIRTHDAY
« on: April 02, 2009, 06:04:09 AM »
Happy Heavenly Birthday Lewie!

Thinking of you on your son's very special day.

luv Karen
Chris' aunt

« on: April 02, 2009, 06:03:17 AM »
Lewie Lewies Mom - I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet Lewie - please do come back and tell us more about him.. this is a safe place to share, vent, cry, scream.. everyting.. when the world outside seems to have moved on and forgotten.. we are here to remember..

luv Karen
Chris' aunt

Child Loss / Re: Tomorrow April 1st
« on: April 01, 2009, 05:48:23 AM »
Brenda - thinking of you today as you have surgery - praying for a quick, healthy recovery!

luv karen
chris' aunt

Pages: 1 2 [3] 4 5 ... 76