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Messages - Valerie (Kyle's Mom)

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Child Loss / Re: This is link is so darn CUTE..gotta share!
« on: January 18, 2009, 12:31:25 PM »
wow..my post was sent back in 2006, was curious why someone told me I posted on the board.  It's been a long time since I have been on here!  I can't even remember when!  I remember sending this link before and thought it was so adorable, still do!!  Love, Val (Kyle's Mom)

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Child Loss / Re: This weeks Question: How many children do you have?
« on: August 03, 2007, 10:28:07 AM »
I am like Dottie....I wasn't until lately though....
Kyle was my only child too!  And I would tell people that my only child died last year.  But, now I decided I don't owe just anybody an answer...
I am not one to be rude, but when I tell them he died, they will ask how, etc. and here I go again telling them the whole story, even when I didn't feel like it.  I have learned the hard way, so now I say yes, a son.
If they ask what does he do, I decided to say he lives in a mansion in heaven, and one day I will be living with him again, then I will walk away if I feel uncomfortable....I have given this question a lot of thought over the last 15 months...and it's a natural question people ask, but to spare others not knowing what to say and feeling awkward, it's all I can come up with.
Val (Kyle's Mom)

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Child Loss / Re: Feeling some anger
« on: August 03, 2007, 10:13:46 AM »
Hey Girl....
I can so relate Deb....anger comes and goes with me....I can see how it will always be part of our lives....there's no way it couldn't.
I'm glad your headache is gone sweetie, hope Gordy's isn't lasting as long as yours did.   Yesterday marked 15 months since Kyle passed away...
As you know I have been so down the last 5 days, and for the first time since he died I didn't even think of yesterday being the 2nd.  I suppose the last several days struggling, I mentally blocked it out sub-consiously so I wouldn't fall back into that friggin pit again....
I hope today is a better day....Love ya!  Val

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Child Loss / Re: Computer Was Down
« on: July 25, 2007, 05:32:14 AM »
Hi Don...
I have to say you and Donny were mentioned quite a few times during our trip to Vegas......I'm glad you got your computer up and running...yeah!

I have been trying to get a Dad here in town who lost his son 9 months ago, we email back and forth and have met him and his wife.  He is holding so much in and I told him about you and a few other fathers on the board in hopes that he would sign up and feel comfortable enough to talk.  It's so hard for him I think to just express how he is feeling, but I think one day he will....I pray that he does, because talking and continuing to express my feelings on here and meeting other parents has been a healing experience.
Thinking of you and your precious Donny....Val  (Kyle's Mom)

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Child Loss / Re: angel date
« on: July 24, 2007, 04:22:04 PM »
Ann....you, your family are in my thoughts and prayers today, and especially tomorrow.......I hope you have a peaceful day...(Hugs)
Val (Kyle's Mom)

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Child Loss / Re: Thank You all so very much
« on: July 24, 2007, 11:06:36 AM »
LOVE YOU JEANNE.....HUG GARY FOR ME......What a guy!!!
Miss you already.......will talk more later too....haven't unpacked yet..
Love, Val

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Child Loss / Re: We Met In Vegas!
« on: July 24, 2007, 11:01:23 AM »
Hello all....I haven't been on in awhile...but we talked about the parents and the board through out the amazing days we spent together...
So many orbs were on some of the girls photos they took....Donna had some really good ones.  Even though we knew they were with us all, they all wanted to confirm it....just awesome.....
I will be coming on more, especially since I don't work away from the home for the time being......Get some rest Deb...I'm so jealous of you winning big....lol...just kidding, I am happy you did..can I borrow some money to eat on the rest of the week... ???......
There are so many stories......Mom has been gone 16 months and Kyle has been gone 14 months.......I watched their two balloons tied together flying towards heaven, Mom was lagging behind some, mainly because I placed some of her ashes in her balloon....but Kyle was helping her along...what a site...and what a feeling it was to be able to spend this time with those who really "get it", I would do it all over again in a heartbeat......I want to thank Tom also for getting this board started, I was on the old board and that is how I met these wonderful mom's....I love them deeply....I just hope they don't mention everything....lol.....Many Hugs to all!   Valerie
(Kyle's loving Mom forever)  Jeanne....thanks for sharing Philip's angel date with us...love you sweetie...

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Child Loss / Re: Valerie and Kyle
« on: May 21, 2007, 04:55:37 AM »
Thanks everyone....I just read this post...and I so appreciate your prayers and thoughts....we had a remarkable outcome at Kyle's grave site..so many friends of his came...tears fell...and we lite the 5 candles for Love, Grief, Courage, Memories and Hope...and I felt Kyle there...the only candle that stayed lite was "Hope".  He was trying to tell us to hold on to hope, and I am trying...I promised him that...as hard as it is...we all have to.
Love you all...Val

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Child Loss / Re: ANYONE KNOW HOW BRENDA IS??
« on: May 21, 2007, 04:46:21 AM »
Hi Brenda,

I think of you everyday...hope you are doing better....
I need to come here more often, and I will more....
You know I will always be here for you and through email...
Stay strong and know you are so loved and that we all care...
Love, Val

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Child Loss / Re: to Valerie Kyle's Mom
« on: May 20, 2007, 12:37:18 PM »
Hey there..

you are right I haven't been on here...I have been in lulla land...

no energy to write and keep up...

I did email you the other day though...

what did you do on Tristan's and Kyle's birthday?

Love, Val

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Chy..
This is the first time I have been on in a while...just read what you wrote.....
And I am glad that you put it out there...so many of us, like myself included have lived with
an alcholic, the whole nine yards, it is a horrible existence...you know they won't get help unless they are willing... I wish there were easy answers as well...I wish your surviving son will soon see what exactly he is doing to his Mom, and his family......stay strong sweetie...I will try to get on more.  Know there is always someone here who will always listen, and just maybe they have some good advice...I wish I could do more then just a cyber hug and a few words...so not fair for you...I am in your corner..XOXO Valerie

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Child Loss / Re: A YEAR HAS NOW PASSED
« on: February 20, 2007, 05:09:11 AM »
((John))

Sorry I am a day late on my post...It's hard to belive it has been a year!
Your post hit home for me, alot of your thoughts and feelings are what I feel as I approach Kyle's 1st angel date.  On March 02nd it will be 10 months since Kyle became an angel, this Friday it will be a year since Mom left us.  I have heard from so many on the board that the time leading up to our child's angel date is more emotional and full of anxiety as the day it's self.  When I heard that, I couldn't see what they were talking about then, but now as I am living it, I few more irriatable and unstable.  I can't wrap my brain around the fact that Kyle will be gone a year in just two short months.
I feel like I have been on this grief journey for ages, maybe beause I have had to deal with so much since the beginning of Mom's death and right after, losing my son.  Know one EVER mentions Kyle name, I do, all the time, there are a few people who will ask, "are you doing alright", and that's it!  Then they will ask "How is Philip".  What do they expect me to say, NO!  or do they want to hear how I REALLY am doing?  I don't know why people don't know how to comfort us parents who have lost the most precious person in our lives, but I do know that if someone else down the road that I am close to ever has to go through what we all have been through, I will be the first and the last person to be by their side, talking about their loved one and never forgetting how they lived and loved and how a big part of their life was taken away.  I am a better person because of Kyle, not just because he died before me, but how he showed me what it was like to love so unconditionally when he was alive.  There is no greater love than loving our kids.  Your Danielle is the sweetest little girl, her smile shows her happiness and her zest for life, I'm trully sorry that she is not with you, although I see her lighting up the heavens with her love and laughter....Take care!  Valerie (Kyle's Mom)

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Child Loss / Re: Yeah, I think I got it
« on: February 18, 2007, 04:57:55 AM »
((Lonnie))

Your Cory is so very handsome...what a smile!
Missing out kids....
Love, Val (Kyle's Mom)

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Child Loss / Re: Disgusted
« on: February 17, 2007, 05:09:57 AM »
((Melissa))
I can sure see why you are disgusted...I cannot believe how the whole judicial system works, and how insensitive the judge could be to not respect you enough to call you, just leaving you hanging.  I don't know anything about that accident, etc.  But for things to drag on for such a long time has to be so hard on you and your family.  It adds to the overwhelming of grief and loss of your beautiful son. 

I just found out that there will be hearing in Kyle's case this coming Thursday, I had to sign a few documentsand send over night.  I know it all has to be done, but it is hard to have to go through it all just the same.

I won't be there since I live in Florida, but my ex and the attorney will be there, that was one document I had to sign saying that I wouldn't be present, but agreed on the suit.  It is with the insurance company, trying to fight a small settlement.  I don't care about the money either, but I don't think the insurance company should not pay since Kyle and Lance had paid up policies that were suppose to pay for accidental deaths.  These insurance companies seem to always try to wiggle their way out of paying, and by doing that we have to fight them, hiring a lawsuit attorney and paying him 1/3 of any entitled proceeds which just isn't right or fair. 

I hope all of what you are having to deal with soon gets resolved, keep your chin up and know that I am thinking of you and praying for it all to be behind you soon...((HUGS))  Valerie (Kyle's Mom)

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Child Loss / Re: I don't want to do this again
« on: February 16, 2007, 05:32:36 PM »
Gawd!  I am so trully sorry Barb...I haven't been on this journey a year yet, and I don't think I have ever met you here, but when I read your post brought tears to my tears and my heart is aching so for what you are having to go through again!  Please know I am thinking of you and hope to hear from you soon...your in my prayers and thoughts, I feel so sorry for you sweetie, but know we are here for you...I am speechless...
((MANY HUGS))   Valerie (Kyle's Mom)

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