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Child Loss / Re: Kelly dad died
« on: June 03, 2008, 08:19:53 PM »
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband and your precious daughter.  There are no words.  Sometimes all you can do is take baby steps.  One day, one moment, one breathe at a time!!  It's a breathe at a time!!!!
hugs and love
Donna (Jason's mom)

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Child Loss / Re: HELP
« on: June 03, 2008, 08:06:29 PM »
Welcome, lostwithouthim,
First, let me say how sorry I am that your brother passed but I am so glad that your chose this board to come to.  There are alot of caring and wonderful people here.  I can only speak for myself, I lost my only son, 24, on Dec 15, 2004 in a car accident.  Everyone grieves in many different ways it's very much an individual journey.  I know you and your whole family is hurt and suffering in your own way.  Maybe your mom just doesn't know how to deal with anything right now.  There are definate stages that you go through and anger is one of them.  When I lost my Jason my daughters would not talk about it because they didn't want to upset me and I'm glad that you are at least trying to talk to your mom about your brother.  It will help her in her healing.  The only way you can help her is by being there and being available when she does want to talk about your brother.  Be patient with her and give her lots of hugs.  She may not seem like herself right now but always remember she loves you very much and together you will all get through this journey.  Come here as often as you want to there will always be someone available.  When you are able to we would love for you to share more about your brother.
One day, one moment, one breathe at a time!!
hugs and love
Donna (Jason's mom)

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Child Loss / Re: ARTICLE: Energy Drain-Shirley Ottman,
« on: June 03, 2008, 07:49:37 PM »
Hi John:
Thanks so much for the article.  There is definatly a cycle that we have to go through with grief.  I'm not sure what stage of grief I am in right now but I know it has been 3 1/2 years since losing my precious Jason and I keep waiting for my energy to return.  I am not able to focus on anything and I am still sooooo tired.  Our lives have been forever changed and oh so different now.  I pray for us all that we will find the strength to carry on in this life and try to make it productive.
One day, one moment, one breathe at a time!!
hugs and love
Donna (Jason's mom)

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Child Loss / Re: Dear Friends
« on: June 03, 2008, 07:42:04 PM »
Rebecca:
I haven't been here for a few days and just read your post.  I am so sorry that you are having such a painful day!!  I am hoping and praying that you will feel your precious son there with you and feel peace that you haven't known for awhile.  His spirit is still with you, talk to him.
One day, one moment, one breathe at a time!!
hugs and love
Donna (Jason's mom)

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Child Loss / Re: I have a question about therapy
« on: May 26, 2008, 05:50:09 AM »
Hi Virgie:
Well, I'm not a therapist just a mom who has lost one of her precious children but my first question in reading your post was where is the compassion.  You don't need a degree to feel compassion for someone else and although I can understand her not wanting you to stay in that dark place you just can't "Move on" or "Get over it"  I'm not sure I would feel comfortable with someone who told me those things.  This is a very individual journey and you do what you can to get through it!! 
One day, one moment, one breathe a time!!
Donna (Jason's mom)

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Child Loss / Re: Graduation tomorrow
« on: May 26, 2008, 05:39:52 AM »
Oh Brenda:
This time of year is so sad for so many!!  While others are marrying, graduating, having a fun summer we are left to deal with all of our saddness!!  Please know that I'm holding you close in my heart and my prayers are with you!!!
One day, one moment, one breathe at a time!!
Donna (Jason's mom)

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Child Loss / Re: Couple faced with loss of a child
« on: May 26, 2008, 05:37:35 AM »
Thank you Sue.  I believe that is really true.  Life is so hard to deal with anyway and when you add the grief and everyday pressures together sometimes you lose sight of the big picture. 
One day, one moment, one breathe at a time!!
hugs and love
Donna (Jason's mom)

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Child Loss / Re: Hello to All
« on: May 26, 2008, 05:34:06 AM »
Rebecca:
We are allowed to feel sorry for ourselves sometimes and we are certainly allowed to have those angry feelings.  We should all be with our children and enjoying them and loving them it's just not fair!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  But I guess it is what it is and we have to try to keep on keepin on.  You are in my thoughts and prayers and hoping you are feeling better!!
One day, one moment, one breathe at a time!!
hugs and love
Donna (Jason's mom)

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Child Loss / Re: does it ever stop?
« on: May 26, 2008, 05:30:41 AM »
Hi Tammy:
Boy, am I ever with you girl.  I was just telling my sister yesterday the more I continue on this journey the less enchanted I am with this world.  I guess there's a reason for us being here and the death of our children didn't take our life God knows we feel like it did at times.  Sorry I'm not very encouraging.  Hope things will get better for us all!!!
One day, one moment, one breathe at a time!!
hugs and love
Donna (Jason's mom)

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Hi Shelley:
I am so sorry for your broken heart!!  These special days are so hard.  I lost my son on Dec 15, 2004 in a car accident and I'd like to tell you it gets easier but I would be lying.  I find as I continue on this journey you do what you can do and on those days when you feel like you can't go on you just breathe!!  You are not alone but at times you feel so alone.  Everyone grieves in different ways.  Know that we are here and you are in our thoughts and prayers!!  One day, one moment, one breathe at a time!!
hugs and love
Donna (Jason's mom)

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Child Loss / Re: 16th birthday :'(
« on: May 26, 2008, 05:21:14 AM »
I'm so sorry!!  Seems there is nothing else we can say but know that we are here when you want to talk about Zak.  One day one moment one breathe at a time!!!
hugs and love
Donna (Jason's mom)

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Child Loss / Re: chris
« on: May 21, 2008, 08:27:32 PM »
Welcome Wubbie:
I am so sorry about the loss of your son, Chris.  I too, lost my son but he was killed in a car accident, he was 24.  I understand about the depth of your grief.  It's almost at times you can't even get your breathe it hurts so very down deep in your soul.  My son has been gone for 3 1/2 years now and I would like to tell you it gets easier but it doesn't.  This is a very good place to be though, we all understand your feelings.  There are so many understanding and caring people here we will be there whenever you need to talk about Chris.  There is no judging here only understanding!!
Please post when you are able.
One day, one moment, one breathe at a time!!
Hugs and love
Donna (Jason's mom)

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Child Loss / Re: cleaning up his room
« on: May 21, 2008, 08:20:16 PM »
We lost our Jason 3 1/2 years ago and his room, with the exception of his clothes, is still the same way.  I just can't bear to do anything with his things.  I think it's perfectly fine whatever you decide to do.  Let it be your decision and don't feel pressured into making a decision until you are ready.
One day, one moment, one breathe at a time!!
hugs and love
Donna (Jason's mom)

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Child Loss / Re: Same Feelings, Handled Differently
« on: May 21, 2008, 08:16:57 PM »
Hi Rebecca:
Oh, can I ever relate.  One thing I've allowed myself to do now is not attend alot of functions because I just can't keep myself together for them.  I realize that and although I probably miss out on alot of things it's sometimes easier on me just not to go.  My heart just breaks attending weddings, babies being born I know these are happy events and I am thrilled for the families but it just tears me apart.  Maybe someday!!
One day, one moment, one breathe at a time!!
hugs and love
Donna (Jason's mom)

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Child Loss / Re: Soooo Many Side Issues....
« on: May 18, 2008, 09:43:22 PM »
Hi Dena:
Life can be so hectic at times.  I know graduations, weddings alot of things going on in the summer.  Reminds us of things our children should have done but will never get the opportunity to do.  You have always been so faithful with the board and we want you to know you are in our thoughts and we appreciate you so much!!!
One day, one moment, one breathe at a time!!
hugs and love
Donna (Jason's mom)

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