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Main / Re: Death of Husband- jan 10/09
« on: May 13, 2009, 06:53:04 PM »
I am so sorry to hear about your lose. I lost my husband on April 21st. We are fairly young he was 32 and I am 33. We were together for 11 years and married 8. We also have 3 children together 3,7,10 (very young) they were extremely close to their father. My husband was on Dialysis and had other illnesses that stemed from his kidney failure but unfortunatley we lost him to an unexpected heartattack. It is crazy because we were talking just that morning and about 3 hours later he was gone. My kids and I tried to do everything we could to help him but we just could not bring him back. I am so heart broken and tired. My kids are doing ok I think a little better than I am. And now it seems that if something can go wrong it does. Everyone keeps telling me to be strong for my children and I am but it is really wearing me OUT. They kids are in thearpy and we start family thearpy next week hope that will help me deal with this new life that I have to lead by myself.

I do cry and pray and that really does help. I have my days when I am fine then I have my days when I have to make myself get out of bed. I guess that is a part of my grieving process.

My advice to you is just talk to someone even if they do not say anything just talk and if they are a good friend they will just listen to you.

Good Luck and stay strong.

Rochella

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Main / Re: BEFORE............AND.................AFTER
« on: May 07, 2009, 07:04:10 PM »
Before: I couldn't wait to go to bed at night and look at late night TV with my husband.
Now: I hate to even get in the bed, looking at TV but watching nothing.

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Main / 11 days
« on: May 02, 2009, 09:06:28 AM »
It has been 11 days since I lost my husband suddenly. I did not sleep well last night, all I could think about is him. A little about my husband, he was only 32 and a very generous man, he lived and breathe his family anywhere my husband went he had our 3 kids with him. He was always the life of the party and always had incouraging words for everybody. He always put others first. 2 years ago he had to go on dialysis and is health was declining everyday. Noone on the outside knew he was very sick because he was always on the go. I thought because he was so young that he would beat his illness and we would spend the rest of our lives together not just 8 years. I miss him so much that it is unbearable. I watched my husband die right in front of my eyes. I tried to do CPR and that did not help. The paramedic said that by him being on dialysis and all of the other illnessess he had along with the dialysis that just took a toll ,on his body and he could not handle it. Our children also witnessed him passing on ages 10,7,3. They are doing ok. I think they are doing better than me we talk about him all the time and I get teary eyed and they would come over and tell me it will be ok. My husband had me spoiled he did everything. I only had to go to work and he did it all for the children from dentist appointment, school conferences, Dr. Appt to spending time with them just because how will I ever fill his shoes? I am so greatful that he did get a chance to spend as much time with them that he did because he taught them alot more than I us give him credit for. I only wish that I could have done more on the morning of his passing to give him more time on this earth with his family that he loved so much.

Please keep my family in your prayers,
Rochella

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Main / Re: Missing my husband!!!
« on: April 26, 2009, 02:51:38 PM »
Today started ok then I just started to feel this heaviness and just broke down crying and could not stop. I just feel so cheated and heartbroken. We were suppose to spend forever together not just eight years. It just feels like I am not going to be able to make it without him. The kids are going on with their playing (is that normal?). The funeral services will be on Wed. I am dreading getting out of  bed because I do not want to come the the relization that this has really happened and not just a bad dream that I am going to wake up from.

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Main / Missing my husband!!!
« on: April 25, 2009, 10:52:13 AM »
I recently lost my husband April 21st, 2009. We were a fairly young couple he was 32 and I am 33 and married for 8 years our 9th anniv. Will be in July. He was on dialysis and had other illnesses. The sad thing is that he was a very active person and no one really knew the extint of his illness. We were just joking and talking to each other around 3am and then around 5am he was dead. I am still shocked and it has been a couple of days. I am so sad and heartbroken that I really do not know what to do. We also have 4 children ages 3, 7, 10 and 12. 3 of them are the both of ours and then we have his daughter who lived with us since she was 3 months all of them were at home at the time of his death  and basically saw him die right before our eyes. I am crying off and on everyday and sometimes I am feeling ok because I know he is in a better place and he his no longer suffering.

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