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Child Loss / Re: Tammie's Angel Date ((((( Dottie )))))
« on: September 20, 2011, 12:06:53 PM »
Thank you to those who remembered. After 6 years only a few still remember. We however have these dates etched into our hearts.

Dottie, Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Re: Vikki's angel Date ((((( Carol )))))
« on: June 20, 2011, 04:14:52 PM »
I think of you and your sweet daughter often,

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Re: So Sorry For Offending Some
« on: June 20, 2011, 04:12:54 PM »
WOW Tom,

BIG HURTFUL words from one who doesn't want any turmoil. I looked it up to see what I was being accused of.

You Tom, are way out of line.

Am I not entitled to an opinion ???? Or only some???

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Re: DON Thinking Of You
« on: June 20, 2011, 04:10:05 PM »
WOW, not expecting all this !!! I thought I said life time criminals ??? We all know who they are. But take it as you please.

Katie, glad you understood what I meant.

I was defending Don, and would again, I know he meant no harm.

As for the board I only came here to say Hi, to Don for Donny's Angel date as I had been out of town. Because the truth is it is for these reasons like this I don't come anymore. Too bad we ALL are not allowed to say what we are feeling, but whatever.

I know I haven't been this upset or hurt since I left the board and I WILL NOT BE BACK.

Especially after Tom's remark, I had to look up what it meant, WOW Tom, really hurtful and nasty, I thought that wasn't allowed. Only by some.????

I am glad some of you are able to be so loving and forgiving, I am doing what I can to make Dr's more responsible, but with our screwed up health care system it isn't easy. That is how I deal with my grief.

To all of you I wish you well, all you sweet forgiving people who can use your words to dish out but can't tolerate another opinion. Whatever !!

I would NEVER wish a child to die or for any parent to have to grieve, but YES there are some waste of society criminals who can not be rehabilitated that I wish could trade places with my daughter , sorry but I feel it.

By stating selfish people, I meant those that want all to feel as they do, and that can never happen. When we don't they attack.
We all feel and grieve differently.

Sorry Tom, I think you were out of line with your hurtful words.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Re: So Sorry For Offending Some
« on: June 19, 2011, 02:22:06 PM »
Sadly this is what happens the people who care are forced off the board by those who only think of themselves, we all hurt, we all grieve, we all should be able to say how we are feeling.
Don, I am available privately you have my email I private messaged you.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / DON Thinking Of You
« on: June 19, 2011, 02:17:59 PM »
I don't come to this board much anymore because I found it difficult to say how I felt without being worried of hurting someone else's feelings.

When we are grieving we do at times need to say what is on our mind and bothering us, we all grieve differently. We all feel differently, but we have all lost a child.

Doesn't matter how the loss happened to each of us it is the very hardest thing we will ever face in our lives.

As for addiction, my sweet daughter died from an overdose of pain pills, they were prescribed by a Dr. but she still took too many and OD'D : Tammie, graduated college with dual majors, worked, owned her own home, had friends and was an active productive member of society, but she was still an addict.

Remember when you say addict it truly is a disease like cancer it usually takes your life. But an addict and a CRIMINAL are to me two different things. There are people that are life time criminals, I know they have parents that may or may not love them, this is different from an addict. I will admit I have thought and said exactly what Don said more than once, WHY MY CHILD and not some criminal useless person. Sorry but I would almost bet each one of you has thought it if you will be honest with yourselves and others. Of course no one is here to intentionally hurt someone else, but we should be able to say what we are feeling without being repremanded for it.

WE ARE ALL GRIEVING parents each with our own set of feelings but all with a broken heart, I know Don would NEVER say anything to intentionally hurt anyone, it is too bad some get offended so easily and take every comment personally.

We should be as supportive as possible. Don is dealing in HIS OWN WAY with the loss of his Son, So let him vent if he needs to, isn't that what this board was suppose to be for. None of us is so perfect in our grief that we haven't VENTED, and we should if we need to.

Sorry for going on, but I was hurt to see Don made out to be hurting anyone on purpose.

I remember the old board from years ago, so comforting, everyone really seemed to care. Too bad that all changed, it saved my life 6 years ago.

Don, email me anytime privately. I am here to always listen,


Always thinking of our GREAT KIDS !!!!!!

Child Loss / Re: What to say when...
« on: October 22, 2010, 05:50:38 AM »
Hi, All,

It has been awhile since I have been to the board.

I am sorry to see new parents joining this journey of grief.

As I was reading some of the post this one from Rebecca really hit a spot. Yesterday while I was at work a woman who has two teenage boys made the comment in conversation that I am over the loss of Tammie as it has been SO LONG.

My comment was simple you never GET OVER IT.

I walked away as I agree unless you actually walk this road of grief you can't even imagine it. The missing each day and wondering who your precious child would be today ??? It has been 5 years now since Tammie died. GET OVER "IT" NEVER it just doesn't happen .

Sending GIANT HUGS to all my old friends here and Hugs to the new parents trying to get through each difficult day.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Re: Happy Heavenly birthday Tammie! ((((( Dottie )))))
« on: August 14, 2010, 11:52:23 AM »
To all of you,

Thank you each one for your wonderful loving thoughts of Tammie on her Birthday.

I will still check in time to time. I will never ever forget the support I received from all of you.

Judy will be missed as is Jeanne and many others who have found a new path to travel on this journey.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Re: Happy Heavenly birthday Tammie! ((((( Dottie )))))
« on: August 11, 2010, 05:52:11 AM »
I THANK YOU for remembering Tammie on her Birthday.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Re: How Cruel, What to Say Back
« on: August 04, 2010, 05:50:53 AM »
Hi, Don,

Sorry this happened to your wife. Most who have not lost a child just don't understand that we never get over it. We have lost a child and we miss them everyday and think of them every night. There is no getting over it.

I would and have explained this to people who DON"T GET IT.

Thinking of you Don and your handsome Donny,


Child Loss / Re: My girl
« on: June 14, 2010, 10:55:45 AM »
I hate to say welcome as this is a group no one wants to ever join. But we are a group that understands the pain of losing a child. We listen we care and we try to help when no one else can.

Please know how deeply sorry I am for the loss of your beautiful daughter Hannah .

I lost my daughter Tammie 5 years ago in September. Tammie was my only child and we were extremely close. I did not think I would live 5 months without her let alone 5 years. But because of this group and private counseling I am here today and able to function. I think of Tammie everyday and miss her daily but I can breathe now without all the pain.

You have found an extremely caring group of people here. I don't post often anymore but in the early stages of my grief I posted several times a day this was my safe outlet.

Be gentle on yourself.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Re: "Donny's" 6 year Angel Date
« on: June 14, 2010, 06:43:36 AM »
My Dear Friend Don,

You and Donny are in my thoughts and prayers today. I know what difficult days these can be.

Please take care of you,
Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Re: Hugh Lump
« on: June 08, 2010, 12:11:43 PM »

Great post !!!! Thanks.

So true no matter what I am doing I am ALWAYS missing Tammie. She was my only so my world is really EMPTY without all the laughs, cries, fun, help, energy, strength she was all of that and more.


Child Loss / Re: Annie
« on: June 08, 2010, 12:03:58 PM »
Thinking of you and your Angel.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Re: Landon's 3rd Angel date today
« on: June 03, 2010, 05:48:51 AM »
Thinking of you and Landon.

I know how hard these Angel Dates are.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

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