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Spouse, Partner Loss / Grief Cannot Be Rushed
« on: June 30, 2011, 05:08:28 AM »
I received a email from Grief Share this morning and I would like to share it with all of you. It may help others understand the process of their grief. I found it very inspirational.

Grief Cannot Be Rushed


Your journey through grief cannot be compared to another person's journey. You will grieve in your way and in your time. Grief does not have a set time limit. The only certainty is that it will take longer than you want it to.

"It's a process that cannot be rushed," says Dr. Robert Jeffress. "As a pastor who has dealt with hundreds and hundreds of people who have gone through a loss, I can tell you that it is a process, and it is a longer process than any of us want to believe.

"Going through grief is like going through a tunnel. The bad news is the tunnel is dark. The good news is that once you enter into that tunnel, you are already on your way out."

Your journey is your own, but you are not alone. Do not be afraid to cry out to God,

"How long must I wrestle with my thoughts and every day have sorrow in my heart? How long will my enemy triumph over me?" (Psalm 13:2).

How long, Lord, how long? This tunnel is so dark. Show me Your light. Amen.

I hope this helps you all with what we are dealing with.

Sad and Lonely

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Bad day yesterday
« on: June 27, 2011, 09:41:00 AM »
Hi Gang, I had a very bad day yesterday. There was a memorial mass for my wife and for all the people that had died there from Dec 2010 to April 2011. It was held at the Hospice where my wife had died on Feb. 2, 2011.  I think it set me back a bit. It was held at the Hospise where she died, the service was just beautiful and they erected a small plaque in memory of my wife with her name on it and they issued each one of us a carnation that we could take home. When I saw her name on the wall with all the other people that had died in that 4 month period, I just lost it as I knew a lot of the people that had died and I could not control my emotions any longer. I cried all night for her and again this morning. I guess it all started on Saturday, I went to a funeral for another friend of ours, she would have been 62 years old in August and she was married for 42 years. Her age and length of time that they were together was identical to my wife and our life together. Life can be so cruel.I went to a car show and had a friend stay with me, I am glad you had a good time at back to the 50s, it was so nice to see you again, I only wish I could have been a better host. I am having a hard time adjusting to the loss of my wife and my concentration is not as good as it should be. I have put my motorhome up for sale as I find it is to hard to be in it without my wife, I doubt I will find any buyers in this economy but I thought I would try. I am not sure if I will go to Grand Rapids or not, that was my wife's favorite camping spot and she so loved to sing around the campfires there and she used to get such a big crowd around her to listen to her sing and play her guitar. I donít know how I could handle that. John I love you guys and you and all your family have all been such great friends to my wife and myself, I hate to bum you out like this but I just had to let you know what I am dealing with, I am trying so hard to get my life back on track but it seems every step I take forward I go back about five. Maybe tomorrow will be a better day, only God knows.

Sad & Lonely

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Feeling sad and blue
« on: May 28, 2011, 10:32:56 AM »
Hi all, I was just listening to the radio, the oldies chanel and they played angel eys and it reminded me of my beautiful wife's eyes. She had the bigest most beautiful brown eyes you have ever seen and it made me think I will never get to look into her beautiful eyes again. It has been 115 days since she passed away and I seem to miss her more and more as each day goes by. I don't know what to do anymore, life seems so pointless without her. I have been going to grief share and talking with other people and it seems to help while I am there but as soon as I leave the group the grief starts to set in and I start to cry. I try to be with other people but it doesent feel right without my wonderful wife. I have myself surrounded with her pictures all over the house, I have one on the mirror in the car and I carry a small urn with a picture of her in my pocket. I just can't stand to not be able to see her or not have her near me, where ever I go. I loved her so much, we were so good for each other and now she is gone. What can I do to stop this grief that I am feeling so deep.

Sad and Lonely

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Sad and Lonely
« on: May 09, 2011, 05:26:25 PM »
Hi all, I am new to this site and I am looking for a place to vent my fustrations and maybe get some help.
I lost my wife in February of this year and I am having a very hard time being without her. She was my childhood sweetheart my best friend and the love of my life for 42 years. My beautiful wife died of cancer, a battle she fought for 25 years. When she was first told she had cancer they told her she only had a 30% chance of living another five years, but my wife proved them wrong and fought like hell with a positive attitude and a strong will to live. The last two years of her battle were just awful, she suffered so much but keept on fighting. No one should ever have to suffer like she did, she was so brave and so courages. I can't get out of my mind, all the suffering she had to go through. I cry all the time, I don't seem to have any interest in life. Everywhere I go I think of her, I hear a song on the radio I think of he. We had a wonderful marrage we got along so well we loved being  together and doing things together and now she is gone. I am going to try and join in on a support group tomorrow night to see if that will help. I always have a lump in my throat and such a empty feeling inside and am so full of grief and I can't sleep at night. I just feel so alone.

Sad and lonely

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