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Spouse, Partner Loss / Birthday
« on: October 15, 2011, 06:43:22 PM »
Wayne would be 67 today - first birthday without him

Spouse, Partner Loss / No one to follow
« on: May 22, 2011, 09:55:37 PM »
I lost Wayne on Dec 14.  It was a horrible accident - he fell and hit his head on the tile floor.  We were talking one minute and a few seconds later I heard him hit the floor.  He had massive bleeding on the brain and died the next day.  He was always the leader and I the follower.  I just go thru the motions and put up a good front for other people but my heart is just not in anything anymore.  I not only lost my best friend but aylso my daughter and 2 grandchildren in the process.  My son still tries to help but he has his own life and wife and I don't want to be a burden for them.  My Mom has been very ill for the past 2 months and I see her slipping away.  On Mothers Day, my sister and my daughter took my mom to eat and my son and I were not invited.  My son was told to wait til my mom returned home to come by and visit.  I do my part to take care of my mom.  I don't have anyone close to talk to and my house is isolated.  Everyone else has their own lives - husbands or partners, grandchildren and work.   I just don't fit in anymore. 
I have been looking for a support group but haven't been to any yet.  Not sure if that will help.  I have been reading on this site for a while and it does help but the silence here is sometimes deafening.

Spouse, Partner Loss / New comer
« on: April 24, 2011, 02:53:13 PM »
I have been reading some posts and find it all very helpful, however it seems we all still have issues to address.  I could use some advice.  I lost Wayne 4 months ago.  He was alcoholic and was very ill at the time but not to the point of death.  He had not been drinking for 3 days when he fell and hit his head.  He died the next day of massive bleeding on the brain.  We had been down a rocky road for several months dealing with the possible return of prostrate cancer.  He couldn't deal with it and had started drinking heavily again.  Our daughter said I was being mean to her father prior to his death and refuses to let me see the grandchildren.  She does not speak to me and would not let them come to see their great grandmother today because I was there.  She only comes there anyway when she wants something.   My Mom has been very ill for the past month and is just now getting better.  My sister and I have been alternating staying with her around the clock.  My daughter only saw her twice in the past month when my sister told her to go. 
We also have one son and she has not spoken to him either since Wayne died.  He has been taking care of my needs and is very supportive. 
My sister sees and keeps the grandchildren regularly and doesn't want to get in the middle.  Everyone who knows how she is behaving is appalled. 
I did try to communicate and call her but she doesn't answer the phone if I call.  Her husband said no thanks when I offered to keep the kids as I had done hunderds of times in the past. 
I don't know what to do about her.  Any advice is appreciated .

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