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Spouse, Partner Loss / New Member. Getting Lonely
« on: December 09, 2013, 09:37:37 PM »
Hello, I have been reading some of the posts here for a few days and finally decided to join. About 7 weeks ago I lost the love of my life (Anne) to colon cancer. She was 52. We were married in June 1979. She was 17 and I was 21. We practically raised each other. We have a son (Bobby) age 32 and daughter (Erin) age 30. Also a 2 year old grandson (Davis). My wife worked at a local bank as a loan assistant.
Anne was the bravest person I have ever known. For 16 months she fought the disease with an amazing positive attitude. Through 2 surgeries, months of chemo and 2 rounds if radiation, she never gave up because of her love for her family. She worked up until 5 weeks before she passed away. She wanted to live our lives as normal as possible. For over 34 years of marriage I could not have been happier. She wanted to get better so we could take Davis hiking in the mountains one day.
After almost 7 weeks have passed and I guess I have been doing about as well as I possibly could considering everything. I think that is due to my faith in God and a lot of good friends that text me and call often. Unfortunately, a lot of my support team may be moving on without me. I am not mad at anyone because they just don't get it. I used to be like that myself. When I wake up I am sad and the tears come when I pass by the bank. I can't even go in there. Coming home to an empty house after work is bad too. I leave lights on so it is not dark. No more hot meals on the table and no more " how was your day sweetie". I'm just so lonely right now. Today I was having a bad day at work ( they don't get it either). I wanted to call Anne for advice. She was my biggest fan. I believe I can make it through this pain eventually but I need reinforcements. That's why I am here. Robbie
Anne was the bravest person I have ever known. For 16 months she fought the disease with an amazing positive attitude. Through 2 surgeries, months of chemo and 2 rounds if radiation, she never gave up because of her love for her family. She worked up until 5 weeks before she passed away. She wanted to live our lives as normal as possible. For over 34 years of marriage I could not have been happier. She wanted to get better so we could take Davis hiking in the mountains one day.
After almost 7 weeks have passed and I guess I have been doing about as well as I possibly could considering everything. I think that is due to my faith in God and a lot of good friends that text me and call often. Unfortunately, a lot of my support team may be moving on without me. I am not mad at anyone because they just don't get it. I used to be like that myself. When I wake up I am sad and the tears come when I pass by the bank. I can't even go in there. Coming home to an empty house after work is bad too. I leave lights on so it is not dark. No more hot meals on the table and no more " how was your day sweetie". I'm just so lonely right now. Today I was having a bad day at work ( they don't get it either). I wanted to call Anne for advice. She was my biggest fan. I believe I can make it through this pain eventually but I need reinforcements. That's why I am here. Robbie
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