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Child Loss / DON Thinking Of You
« on: June 19, 2011, 02:17:59 PM »
I don't come to this board much anymore because I found it difficult to say how I felt without being worried of hurting someone else's feelings.

When we are grieving we do at times need to say what is on our mind and bothering us, we all grieve differently. We all feel differently, but we have all lost a child.

Doesn't matter how the loss happened to each of us it is the very hardest thing we will ever face in our lives.

As for addiction, my sweet daughter died from an overdose of pain pills, they were prescribed by a Dr. but she still took too many and OD'D : Tammie, graduated college with dual majors, worked, owned her own home, had friends and was an active productive member of society, but she was still an addict.

Remember when you say addict it truly is a disease like cancer it usually takes your life. But an addict and a CRIMINAL are to me two different things. There are people that are life time criminals, I know they have parents that may or may not love them, this is different from an addict. I will admit I have thought and said exactly what Don said more than once, WHY MY CHILD and not some criminal useless person. Sorry but I would almost bet each one of you has thought it if you will be honest with yourselves and others. Of course no one is here to intentionally hurt someone else, but we should be able to say what we are feeling without being repremanded for it.

WE ARE ALL GRIEVING parents each with our own set of feelings but all with a broken heart, I know Don would NEVER say anything to intentionally hurt anyone, it is too bad some get offended so easily and take every comment personally.

We should be as supportive as possible. Don is dealing in HIS OWN WAY with the loss of his Son, So let him vent if he needs to, isn't that what this board was suppose to be for. None of us is so perfect in our grief that we haven't VENTED, and we should if we need to.

Sorry for going on, but I was hurt to see Don made out to be hurting anyone on purpose.

I remember the old board from years ago, so comforting, everyone really seemed to care. Too bad that all changed, it saved my life 6 years ago.

Don, email me anytime privately. I am here to always listen,


Always thinking of our GREAT KIDS !!!!!!

Child Loss / Thank You All !!!
« on: September 15, 2009, 06:01:46 AM »
I can't Thank you ALL enough for remembering Tammie on her Angel Day.

Each day is difficult but these Angel Days are the hardest for us I think.

Yes, I still shake my head in disbelief and wonder how I made 4 years without my girl.

Again, I thank you all for your understanding.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / THANK YOU ALL !!!
« on: August 12, 2009, 05:51:16 AM »
I want to thank each one of you who remembered Tammie's Birthday.

It is difficult each year as you all know.

Having all of you has made a difference in this long hard journey of grief.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / TODAY
« on: July 04, 2009, 11:54:31 AM »
To all my old friends and new ones,

Just thinking of all of you and all our sweet Angels on this 4th of July.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Marianne (Alek's Mom)
« on: April 03, 2009, 05:47:19 AM »
Hi, Marianne,

I haven't seen you post for awhile hope your OK.  Please know I am thinking of you.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / THANK YOU MARIANNE !!!!!
« on: December 28, 2008, 08:54:35 AM »
Just a BIG THANK YOU to Marianne for helping me get my Tammie's beautiful face back on the board.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Tammie's 3rd Angel Date. Sept. 14th
« on: September 10, 2008, 12:17:13 PM »
Hi, All,

I am slowly approaching Tammie's 3rd Angel Date. Sept. 14th. It never gets easier, I still can't believe she has been gone this long and I am still here??? I know I wouldn't be without the support of all of you along this journey. Some don't post anymore, but others do, and sadly there are many new parents on this journey. I was fortunate to find this site early in my grief, it kept me breathing every day of my early journey of grief.

I am lucky enough this year to spend Tammie's Angel Date with Judy in Hawaii. We will celebrate our Angels lives and the fact that they brought us together.

Thinking of all of you,
Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Thank you All
« on: August 09, 2008, 02:05:16 PM »
Thank you each and everyone one of you for your kind words and for remembering Tammie's Birthday. It really means alot.

I had mass said for her this morning then my husband, my brother and I went to the cemetery and did a BALLOON RELEASE it was BEAUTIFUL, all blue and white balloons and they went so far up they looked like they were sparkling stars in the daytime sky.

My heart aches as time continues to pass without my daughter but I just keep putting one foot in front of the other and with the help of all you dear friends through this journey I am still here. The pain never leaves us but it does become different, thats the best I can say for it right now.

I am a different person oday because of the loss of my daughter, I don't know if it's better or worse but more intune to life for sure.

BIG HUGS to all of you on this journey we share,
Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Tammie's Birthday
« on: August 08, 2008, 05:57:42 AM »
Hi, Everyone,

Tomorrow is Tammie's Birthday. As we all know these dates ae extremely difficult. Then her angel date is a month after her Birthday so this is a hard time of the year. Tammie would be 43.

I miss my beautiful, funny, smart, talented daughter every day of my life. It will be 3 years in Sept, and I still shake my head in disbelief.

Sending HUGS to all and warm thoughts of all our wonderful kids,
Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Just a HI:::::
« on: June 07, 2008, 05:59:14 PM »
Hi everyone,

Sorry I have not been on the board to support you and remeber all our wonderful kids. If I missed any Angel Dates or Birthdays, I am so sorry.

I have just been in a really dark place ever since cleaning out Tammie's clothes  and furniture, so hard to do. :'(

I am going to be out of town for a few days, but know I think of you all so often,
Sending HUGS,
Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Going Through Tammie's Clothes
« on: May 11, 2008, 06:00:41 AM »
Hi to All,

I have had a real Roller Coaster of emotions the last 2 weeks. First I gave Tammie's furniture to family members, I felt good about it but it still wasn't easy.

Then yesterday me and one of Tammie's closest friends went through all the boxes of clothes I kept some things I just couldn't part with and Susie took some things the rest we sorted and donated. What an emotional day that was. I have been trying to build myself up to doing it for months. All Tammie's things have been piled in my garage for 2 years and 8 months so I felt it was time. At first I didn't want anything touched just incase she came back but then the shock andreality set in.

Anyway, it was a HUGE step for me to take. Plus I got a Tatto for myself in memory of my daughter, BIG STEPS:::::

Thinking of all you Mom's on Mothers Day, may your hearts be filled with peace today.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / 29 Months today:::::::
« on: February 14, 2008, 09:28:19 AM »
Hi, All,

Today marks 29 months since I lost my beautiful daughter and best friend. I am going to see John Edward Today THE PHYSIC MEDIUM not the Candidate. I am going with my Mom and one of Tammie's closest friends they were room mates for over 10 years and owned a business together, she picked this date as she thinks it is significate???I hope.

I will let you all know how it goes, I always try to not have to many expectations but I must admit today I am sure HOPING:::::::I know I will enjoy the experience and the few hours of peace it brings after.

Hugs to all on this Valentines Day,
Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Don and Donny:::thinking of you
« on: February 04, 2008, 02:15:09 PM »
Hi, Don,

Just wanted you to know I thought of you and Donny so often during Super Bowl Sunday. I know it was a hard day for me without Tammie so I can only imagine how difficult it must have been for you without Donny there to watch New England lose their perfect record.

My heart aches for you, but I know our kids were together watching and watching over us.

Take care, Dear Don,
Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / Trouble Posting
« on: December 23, 2007, 08:56:03 AM »
Hi, All,

Sorry if your not getting my replies as I am having so much trouble posting. Each time I do it says ERROR. So I become frustrayed and give up.

know I am thinking of you all at this VERY DIFFICULT time of the year.

Dottie Tammie's Mom

Child Loss / It Has Been Awhile.
« on: November 25, 2007, 08:12:46 AM »
Hi, It really has been awhile since I have posted a topic to this board. In the beginning it was my life line and I still read but don't post as often as I did.

To the new parents I am so VERY sorry you had the need to find this group, yet to glad you did find us. This is the most caring understanding group of parents you can ever find. They saved my life in the early months when I felt so alone and hopeless.

It is now almost 27 months into my grief. I still have many days in that deep dark pit. Itry to stay busy so I don't have time to think although the thoughts are always right there just waiting to come crashing in.

The HOLIDAYs are extremely difficult as I know they are for all of us. Tammie was my only child and truly the Spark Plug to our family. So I don't do any celebrating, I don't send cards, I just try to get through each day with the pain in my chest that suffactes at times. I will nrver be the person I was once. I look forward now to my life ending to I can end this pain and struggle. Yes in the beginning I worked day and night on Project Tammie, which has come along ways. Passed in the State Of Nevada but now sets in Congress and probably will til well after I die. Oh, I haven't quit but it becomes more difficult to keep going each day.

My MASK of ARMOR is on for sure, no one really knows how I feel and the hurt that is always there. I think of growing older without my daughter beside me and it is a sight I don't want any part oo. I know I won't that decision I have already made. I have nieces and nephews that I love but it sure isn't the same at all. Tammie was my best friend as well as my daughter and the EMPTINESS that surrounds me is unbelievable.

I still go to my bereavement group not as often but I do go, guess I will be a lifetime member.

To all of you, new members and the ones on this journey longer I send strength and lots of HUGS your way. We do need each other.

Dottie Tammie's Mom :'(

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