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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: My boyfriend died
« on: May 09, 2019, 04:09:09 PM »
((((((((Pam))))))))<3 So very sorry for your loss. I often wondered how youíve been, and itís so unfortunate what happened to you and Phil. Donít let anyone tell you how to grieve, or even how long. Everyone goes through it in very different ways and speed. Lisa explains it very well.  And if you need to talk, weíre here for you as you were always there for us..

Love and hugs (((((((Pam)))))) <3

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Recent Loss of My Wife
« on: January 30, 2019, 08:08:24 PM »
Hi BrokenHeartedInMD,

Iím so very sorry for your loss. It does feel like you may die from a broken heart, and in some moments it feels like all it would take is a little push. I wish there was some magical formula or step program to follow, but everyone goes through grief in different ways and speed. Words of wisdom? I found some of these on this site...Take it day by day, even moment by moment. Try to take of you and eat and drink plenty of fluid. Some of the immense pain will lessen over time. Treasure those videos and pictures. Iíve gone through cards as well, and those memories sometimes help. For me it was a thought of honoring her memory by trying to be the person she fell in love with and not take a path of neglecting and destroying myself. Be with friends and family if you have them near you. Donít be afraid or embarrassed to ask for help. Someone else on this site put it very well when she said You have to go through it to get through it. I know that may not make much sense now. I hope anything of this helps. I know for me at first it didnít seem like anything would. Take care and I hope you find something and others on here to help you get through. Sending a hug your way. Zylen.

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Thinking of you all this holiday season
« on: January 14, 2018, 06:29:13 PM »
Huge hugs and love back (((((((Terry)))))))))  <3 I hope 2018 showers you with as much kindness and compassion as you show all of us here :)

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Plans for Thanksgiving?
« on: November 26, 2015, 05:11:45 AM »
Happy Thanksgiving (((((((Terry)))))))) <3

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Thinking of you, Lisa
« on: November 22, 2014, 06:37:42 PM »
((((((((((Lisa)))))))))) <3

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Is there anybody else here?
« on: November 07, 2014, 09:37:04 AM »
Almost forgot :P

I'm not a poem writer, but with your beautiful poems I found this one written by another that hit me with where I am nowadays...

The sound of her silk skirt has stopped
On the marble pavement the dust grows.
Her empty room is cold and still.
Fallen leaves are piled against the doors.
Longing for that lovely lady
How can I bring my aching heart to rest?





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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Is there anybody else here?
« on: November 07, 2014, 09:07:50 AM »
(((((((Janka)))))))

Probably quiet because of the holidays coming up, which of course makes it so much harder to deal with it all.

I haven't posted much, as for me it seems even more difficult this year more than the others, as I'm sure you understand why.

This site is great for helping to get through some really miserable moments. It does get quiet like this at times, but people are checking it often and are around even if you don't see them actually log in.

The chat room was great when it was working and people were going there, so hopefully that will happen again soon :) And maybe we can post a date and time to get together there :)

Peace and hugs sent your way

((((((((((Janka)))))))))))


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Spouse, Partner Loss / For Doug
« on: October 24, 2014, 08:33:08 AM »
Hi Doug,

You don't get it, and for that I envy you.

For anyone to come to a spouse loss forum and complain about their spouse is either being cruel or just doing something thoughtless, and I know you're not cruel. I'm sure I'm not the only one very hurt by that, as any one of us would give anything to have them back, faults and all.

I wish I could give a great analogy to give you some idea of what it feels like.

I understand you are going through a hard time with your wife, but don't you think there are better places than a spouse loss forum to ask for marital advice?

This is a terrible time of year for most of us on here Sad

I appreciate the apology, and I do hope things do work out for you.

Hugs to you and all the webhealing family here (((((((((((((((ALL))))))))))))))) <3

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Hi Doug,

You don't get it, and for that I envy you.

For anyone to come to a spouse loss forum and complain about their spouse is either being cruel or just doing something thoughtless, and I know you're not cruel. I'm sure I'm not the only one very hurt by that, as any one of us would give anything to have them back, faults and all.

I wish I could give a great analogy to give you some idea of what it feels like.

I understand you are going through a hard time with your wife, but don't you think there are better places than a spouse loss forum to ask for marital advice?

This is a terrible time of year for most of us on here :(

I appreciate the apology, and I do hope things do work out for you.

Hugs to you and all the webhealing family here (((((((((((((((ALL))))))))))))))) <3

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Complaining about a spouse in a forum of people who lost theirs? Really??

I find that very inappropriate and thoughtless.

Want a real complaint? Missing your everything everyday ALL day and there ain't a ******* you can do about it :(

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Mary and Bhutan
« on: June 15, 2014, 01:14:36 PM »
Link for a pic of Mary and and our first cat Bhutan

https://scontent-a-lga.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xpa1/t31.0-8/10358993_858211347541308_7298960814861108142_o.jpg
Her angel date 3 years ago today and I miss her more than ever  :( :love9:


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Thank you

(((((((Lisa)))))))) ♥
((((((Terry))))))) ♥

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Oh I miss My Lou
« on: December 14, 2013, 11:19:07 AM »
Huge hug to you ((((((Lisa))))))

Those days really really suck.

I've been told that it's at times like those when we miss them like that is because they are very close at that point and we somehow sense them and remember what it feels like to be with them. I know how hard it is, but try to talk with him at those times, and try to be silent after and listen and feel.

Keep on going, Lisa. Those days do pass.

(((((((((Lisa))))))))) <3


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Spouse, Partner Loss / Gratitude instead of anger today
« on: November 28, 2013, 11:03:02 AM »
Instead of becoming angry wondering why certain people are treating me the way they are, I'm just going to be grateful for the years of wonderful friendship that I have, for those whose incredible kindness and love are still being shown, and the great lessons that I am still learning from it.

So with that being said, Thank you and a very Happy Thanksgiving to all.

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Happy Thanksgiving
« on: November 28, 2013, 08:52:14 AM »
(((((((Arthur)))))))

Thank you,  and a very Happy Thanksgiving to you, too :)


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