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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Birthdays/Angel Dates/Anniversaries - NEW!
« on: December 13, 2011, 08:07:45 PM »
Thanks browneyedgirl for your support to all of us.   Wayne's angel date is tomorrow 12/14/2010.  Would you be so kind to add him to the calendar. 

Spouse, Partner Loss / Birthday
« on: October 15, 2011, 06:43:22 PM »
Wayne would be 67 today - first birthday without him

Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: October Angel Dates & Birthdays
« on: October 12, 2011, 07:11:24 PM »
October is bittersweet - my birthday is the 16th and Wayne's is the 21st.   Tomorrow is 10 months since he fell and passed away.   I have come back to Florida where we spent last October together and where he fell.  I am alone here. 

Here's hoping you rest in peace now.

Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: No one to follow
« on: June 20, 2011, 06:18:47 AM »
Thanks very much for your replies.  they really help.  Last week was the six month anniversary of Waynes passing.  I was devestated all over again.  I realized just how alone I am.  I just sat in the house and cried all week. 
I finally went out and ran the weedeater (which is an all day job for me) because he kept the yard work done.  Then my son took me to dinner to celebrate fathers day. 
Just want to say thanks again to everyone here - sorry that we have to be here under sad circumstances.  One day at a time we will get stronger.  My thoughts are with you all. 

Spouse, Partner Loss / No one to follow
« on: May 22, 2011, 09:55:37 PM »
I lost Wayne on Dec 14.  It was a horrible accident - he fell and hit his head on the tile floor.  We were talking one minute and a few seconds later I heard him hit the floor.  He had massive bleeding on the brain and died the next day.  He was always the leader and I the follower.  I just go thru the motions and put up a good front for other people but my heart is just not in anything anymore.  I not only lost my best friend but aylso my daughter and 2 grandchildren in the process.  My son still tries to help but he has his own life and wife and I don't want to be a burden for them.  My Mom has been very ill for the past 2 months and I see her slipping away.  On Mothers Day, my sister and my daughter took my mom to eat and my son and I were not invited.  My son was told to wait til my mom returned home to come by and visit.  I do my part to take care of my mom.  I don't have anyone close to talk to and my house is isolated.  Everyone else has their own lives - husbands or partners, grandchildren and work.   I just don't fit in anymore. 
I have been looking for a support group but haven't been to any yet.  Not sure if that will help.  I have been reading on this site for a while and it does help but the silence here is sometimes deafening.

Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: New comer
« on: May 01, 2011, 09:02:35 PM »
Thanks Terry and Browneyedgirl for your reply.  I greatly appreciate your input and an unbiased opinion means alot. 

I put up a good front around people but when I come home the pain resurfaces.  Not sure why tonight is such a bad one. 

Spouse, Partner Loss / New comer
« on: April 24, 2011, 02:53:13 PM »
I have been reading some posts and find it all very helpful, however it seems we all still have issues to address.  I could use some advice.  I lost Wayne 4 months ago.  He was alcoholic and was very ill at the time but not to the point of death.  He had not been drinking for 3 days when he fell and hit his head.  He died the next day of massive bleeding on the brain.  We had been down a rocky road for several months dealing with the possible return of prostrate cancer.  He couldn't deal with it and had started drinking heavily again.  Our daughter said I was being mean to her father prior to his death and refuses to let me see the grandchildren.  She does not speak to me and would not let them come to see their great grandmother today because I was there.  She only comes there anyway when she wants something.   My Mom has been very ill for the past month and is just now getting better.  My sister and I have been alternating staying with her around the clock.  My daughter only saw her twice in the past month when my sister told her to go. 
We also have one son and she has not spoken to him either since Wayne died.  He has been taking care of my needs and is very supportive. 
My sister sees and keeps the grandchildren regularly and doesn't want to get in the middle.  Everyone who knows how she is behaving is appalled. 
I did try to communicate and call her but she doesn't answer the phone if I call.  Her husband said no thanks when I offered to keep the kids as I had done hunderds of times in the past. 
I don't know what to do about her.  Any advice is appreciated .

Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Still feel lost
« on: March 15, 2011, 11:43:05 PM »
Hello all - I hope you don't mind if I intrude.  I have been reading and I want to thank you for sharing.  Carolyn

Main / Re: Where is everyone from?
« on: March 15, 2011, 11:14:41 PM »
Hello - I am in Nashville.  Haven't posted but have been reading.

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