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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: My boyfriend died
« on: May 06, 2019, 06:14:57 PM »
((((( Pam )))))
I wish you were here for a different reason. i missed you so much. I am so sorry for the loss of your soulmate. Hold onto those memories you both shared :engel2: He is always with you. My  heart breaks for you :tearyeyed: I know the pain that you feel. I never believed the pain will lessen. It does but it takes time. We all grieve different. It will be 9 years for me this year. Even though I am on a new journey. I now live with someone. There isn't a day that goes by I don't think of Lou. He still sends me dimes. I know he will be there when it's my time :engel2:We have many soulmates I truly believe even if it's to get us in a better place. We can love again.  :love4: Please get rest, eat, drink sleep if possible. This journey sucks big time. DON'T listen to people , self pity. Really? They wouldn't want to wear these shoes. Please ignore them. Take care of Pam , Phil wants that for you. Cry, scream, cruse whatever you need to do :tearyeyed: Please remember I am here :icon_flower: You can PM me if you want. I'm sending m love and the warmest hugs.
Always, Lisa

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: WAITING IN THE LIGHT
« on: November 22, 2018, 05:35:55 AM »
Hi Ralnic,

I'm so sorry for your lost. It's very sad and a hard journey. I wish I could take your pain away. You just need to take baby steps, one second, minute , hour and day at a time.  If you need to cry and yell do it.  People that haven't gone through OUR loss don't understand. That's OK but they try to keep us busy. Remember it's your grief you grieve how you need too.  Don't be sorry for crying and not wanting to do anything if you don't want to. We all grieve differently.  Please try to drink, eat and sleep. It's easier said then done.  It's very hard in the beginning and being the holidays even harder.

It is 8 years today for me.  I can't even believe it.

I haven't been on webhealing for a long while. I am here.

Your husband is still with you.  I know it's not the same as physically.

Hugs to you....

Always, Lisa


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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Newly widowed
« on: February 17, 2016, 02:46:46 AM »
(((((( Troy )))))))

I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful wife.  I am at 5 years and 3 months. I still talk and think of my Lou everyday.  My sister's husband just loss her husband Dec 30th. 

It's a hard journey. Please just take one minute , hour  day at a time.  The pain is so deep because we loved so deeply. Your wife will always be with you.  I know how hard it was to just keep moving but I know that's what they want from us.  I remember I couldn't sleep and tears just flooding my face.  If you can't sleep rest because your whole being is in shock.  Try to eat if you can't snack, but drink plenty of fluids.

When a new member comes on board my heart breaks , my heart breaks for my sister too. She calls me and cries and I remember that was me.

I know some people go to grief groups , journal.  I did journal it helps you just write to your wife whatever it maybe.  Never look back at what you wrote.  I did that and it broke my heart.  Somehow we have to go forward but at our own pace.  I promise it will get softer people did tell me this.  I didn't believe them how could my world was taken from me. Everyone grieves different so I can't say to you when it will get softer.

Yell , scream , cry whatever helps you get it out.  If you want to ask me questions send me a message you can.

I am here for you ..... If you like to share more about Michell please do.

Always,

Lisa

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: My sister loss her husband
« on: February 09, 2016, 05:12:02 PM »
Just wanted to share a poem my nephew read at his step dad's service. There wasn't a dry eye. :tearyeyed:

Did I ever really thank you
For all that you had done?
For cherishing my mother,
And taking in her son?
For all the things you were to us
And all you meant to me?
For being so much more than
Any stepdad had to be?

You came into our lives right when
We needed you the most;
You healed my mothers wounded heart,
And drew our family close.
You helped me come out of my shell;
You were my truest friend.
You loved us both with all your heart
Right up until the end.

Oh! How I wish Id told you
Much more often than I did
To at least one happy kid.
I wish that God would give to me
Just one more hour to say
All of the things I should have said
Before you passed away.how you were quite a hero


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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: What has happened to me
« on: February 01, 2016, 05:07:07 PM »
(((((  Jandl )))))

I am so sorry for your loss  :tearyeyed: Just take one second, min ,hour , day at time.  This isn't an easy journey.  I wish I had a magic wand.  It was 5 years for me in November.  I remember it was so dark and scary for me.  People that had gone through says it will get softer I didn't believe them. How could it ?  It eventually does somehow. There isn't a day that goes by I don't talk to Lou , I miss him so much he is my soulmate I will see him again.

You will see your wife again and she is with you.  They send us signs. I have gotten so many from Lou even got one the other day.  Cry , scream , journal whatever will help you.  Don't keep your grief in.  Let it out you need to take care of you.

My sister's husband just passed away on Dec 30 th 2015.  When she calls me and cries it cuts right through my heart and soul.  I tell her what I tell everyone else now. When it happened to me I didn't have that advise to give others because I was new to this awful journey.

Everyone griefs differently so I don't know when it will get softer for you , or my sister or anyone else but it will.

I feel your pain and so sorry you have to be on this journey.

Hugs ,

Always, Lisa

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Child Loss / Re: (((((TERRY)))))
« on: January 12, 2016, 04:54:01 PM »
((((((( TERRY )))))))

I know today is hard for you.  I hope your heart was filled with special memories of your Jeff :engel2:.  You will always miss him but he is always with you  :love4: :love4:

Love and Hugs

Lisa

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: My sister loss her husband
« on: January 05, 2016, 02:33:22 AM »
(((((( Terry ))))))

Thank you so much for always being there for me  :love4:

Love you soo much  :icon_flower:

Lisa

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Spouse, Partner Loss / My sister loss her husband
« on: January 03, 2016, 02:48:45 PM »
Hi Everyone,

I haven't been on for a while.  My sister's husband passed away on December 30th 2015.  So sad my heart is broken for her and my nephew, his family, our family and friends. He was loved by all and was a kind person. He was only 52 yrs old.

My sister now wears these shoes, which I wish she didn't have too.  I know the pain she has , as I can relate losing My Lou.  She has a long journey ahead.

I will try to get her signed up here but not sure if she will. 

I will be there for her if she needs to scream, cry , or a me to hold her tight. I love my sister and nephew with all my heart and soul.

Always,

Lisa

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Parent Loss / Terry's Daddy Heavenly Birthday
« on: November 24, 2015, 02:32:45 AM »
((((((Terry )))))))

Wishing your Daddy a Heavenly Birthday  :engel2:.  Hoping your heart was filled with your beautiful memories and peace of your Daddy.

Thinking of you always.

Love you  ,

Sending you the warmest hugs of love !!! :icon_flower:

Lisa

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Lou's Angel Date (Lisa)
« on: November 24, 2015, 02:28:46 AM »
(((((( TERRY ))))))

My girlfriend went to the cemetery on Sunday with me. I still can't drive there myself if it was a short drive maybe I could. It's 1 1/2 hrs away.

I can't believe it's 5 years , 5 years OMG !!!!!  I miss him with all my heart and soul.  I bought a dozen of red roses and 1/2 dozen of balloons.

I write my feelings on the balloons.  My best friend never got to meet Lou and she wrote the most beautiful words on one of the balloons. 

I know Lou is always with me and still sends me signs.  I will be with him again when it's my turn.

Love always,

Lisa
xoxo

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Terry,

Thank you I always think of you and others.  I know I haven't written in a long time doesn't mean I don't care.  I have been having medical problems and trying to get them figured out going to specialists. I have another test at the end of the month doctor needs to rule out.

My back has been out again too, ugh. I go get a shot next Friday. I know others are worse off then me that's why I try not to complain.

I can't believe Nov 22 will be 5 years since I loss Lou  :tearyeyed:

Love you
Lisa xox


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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: ((((Lisa))))
« on: October 02, 2015, 01:59:28 AM »
((((( Terry )))))

Thank you , it's hard missing Lou so much. Burying Mask our cat was hard not seeing him everyday. I know our other animals miss him too.  Especially my cat Savanna she keeps crying.

Thanks for being you Terry you are awesome.

Love you,

Lisa xo

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: DIMES FROM HEAVEN
« on: July 15, 2015, 02:27:51 AM »
Terry,

Yes he is still sending them. Few months back there were dimes all over my house in different rooms.

On Fathers Day , I said Happy Fathers Day to Lou and I was cleaning my room.  There was nothing on my floor  When I turned to do something there it was my DIME.

Thanks for asking gf

Always, Lisa xox

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: New here and in great pain
« on: July 15, 2015, 02:21:52 AM »
(((((((((((((( Morning ))))))))))))))))

I am so sorry for your loss.  Everyone pretty much said it all.  We all do grieve differently.  I couldn't hold my tears back I tried but there was noway I could.  The pain and the tears just took over. I have a lot of friends that didn't understand but they listened to me talk and cry. I wanted to just die my heart and soul was tore into a million pieces. I knew I had to find people who understood my loss.  This is the first sit I found and it's amazing.

I would come home from work and just go to bed and lay, praying to God to send Lou back and crying the pain was so bad. It was so dark those days

As time passes you will see light I can't say when because we are all different but you will. This is a hard journey but we are here for you.

I would journal my feelings, write poems. I still do but not as often. I talk to My Lou everyday.  I know he is with me and I still get signs. 

It's been 4 years and 7 months since I loss My Lou.

Your husband is with you.

Please rest and try to eat and drink water. 

Always,

Lisa Marie

Sending hugs and love

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Child Loss / Re: Antidepressant therapy for grief
« on: June 21, 2015, 02:31:16 PM »
Terry,

As you know I come from Spouse Loss.  What is grief brain?  I guess we all have it ?  I am on medicine for anxiety especially in the beginning when I loss Lou.  I still get anxiety but not like I did.

Always

Lisa

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