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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Happy Birthday, John! (johnkmurray)
« on: October 20, 2013, 04:55:04 PM »
Thanks!!! Hard to believe I'm 29 ... yet again ;-)

Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Thinking of John & Kit today
« on: August 20, 2013, 09:28:38 AM »
Hi all!

I'm still out here, just not as much time online what with the changes over the last few months. This month was filled with thoughts of Kit, yes, but also with planning for the future. Kit will always be with me, no doubt about that. No doubt also that I'm embarking on a new chapter. In a relationship, making plans for 'us' again although the members of 'us' have changed.


Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: bugger (hello again)
« on: August 20, 2013, 09:13:35 AM »

Two years? Kinda a tough time. The pain lingers on and the shiny new world people promise will come in time had failed to appear.

Hang in there dear friend.  :engel2:


Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Happy Heavenly Birthday, Lou! ((Lisa))
« on: April 16, 2013, 06:27:00 AM »

Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Maureen's Angel Date ((Arthur))
« on: April 16, 2013, 06:26:00 AM »

Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Lisa's Dime Bracelet - Pics!!
« on: April 16, 2013, 06:25:13 AM »
real purdy Lisa!  :toothy4:

Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: 041311
« on: April 15, 2013, 10:56:19 AM »

Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Lisa's Dime Bracelet - Pics!!
« on: April 15, 2013, 10:50:19 AM »
Congrats - looks lovely!


Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Kit's Angel Date ((John))
« on: April 08, 2013, 04:15:47 PM »
Thanks Terry,

It was a day without tears - quite a accomplishment compared to the last three years. I was on vacation in Scotland from Mar 26 through April 6th, and it wasn't until I was sitting home yesterday that the significance of the date set in. Oh, I remembered it earlier, the point is it didn't detract from the trip, nor did it stop me from enjoying the company of my lovely travelling companion. None of this detracts from Kit's memory, I'm just doing what she wanted and finally living life again rather than mourning what was.

I guess there is a light at the end o the tunnel, and it isn't an oncoming train! ;-)


Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Happy Birthday Lisa :)
« on: April 08, 2013, 06:22:10 AM »
 :occasion13: :wav:

Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: DIMES FROM HEAVEN
« on: March 22, 2013, 01:17:16 PM »
no pics yet?

Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Today SUCKS!!
« on: March 22, 2013, 01:16:32 PM »

Yep, it sucks. It will get better, honest. ;-)


Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: whats next ???!!!!
« on: March 22, 2013, 01:15:14 PM »

Don't beat yourself up. It takes time. Just when you start feeling better something will remind you of your loss and grief will flare ... all part of the healing process.


Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Today SUCKS!!
« on: March 18, 2013, 12:09:59 PM »

Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Alone and Scared
« on: March 17, 2013, 08:21:50 AM »

Yep. Been there, done that, got the tear-stained crappy t-shirt. The walls close in, you feel an aching lonliness yet you can't bear to be with people. The only one who gave meaning to life is gone. Worst of all, you may not have fully realised this until she was gone. I lost my reason for living when cancer took my dear Kit three years ago. You're not alone, Chris, many of us here have been through it. Each experience differs but we share a commonality. I'm here to tell you that it does get better. It takes time. There is no magic pill to make us whole again, although we all wish there was. Then again, if we could just turn off those feelings, would that cheapen the memories of our lost loves? On second though, I'll pass on that magic pill. My pain these last three years reflects the love we had. This road has been tough, but it made me fully aware of the love I had ... and of the new love that I let into my life recently. She won't replace Kit, but is finding a place all her own in my heart.

I made it through this with the help of good friends, not the least of whom I met here at Webhealing. I came here, a broken shell of a man, looking for some reason to go on. Thanks to Terry, Pam, Lisa, and a list of others too long to name I managed to get through it one day, one hour, sometimes one minute at a time. Welcome to Webhealing. May you find the comfort you seek.


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