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Main / Re: Devastated

« on: September 24, 2010, 07:47:36 PM »

I Teresa I Know How U R Feeling, I To Lost The Love Of My Life Unexpected I Told Him I Love You And I Will See You In THe Morning And I Left For Work. When I CAme Home That Morning I Found Him On Our Dining Room Floor I Called His Name And He Did Not Answer So I Called 911 And The Ambulance Came And Told Me That He Might Of Had A Stroke, Well Long Story Short My Husband Had A Massive Storke And Was Brain Dead And I Made The Choice To Take Him Off The Vent Where He Passed Peacefully 15mins Later. My Husband To Was Prefectly Find When I Left. I Am So Sorry That You Didnt Get A Chance To Say Bye In The Hosiptal To Him That Has To Be Hard. But It Gets Better Just Take It Day By Day Hour By Hour And Min By Min. My Husband Died May 15,2010 So This Is Still Fresh To Me, I Have My Days But I Just Remember The Wonderful Times We Shared And I Think To My Self Would He Want Me To Be So Sad And Make My Self Sick Over Losing Him And The Answer Is Always No. I Also Write In A Jounral That Helps Alot. Well Stay Strong And I Hope Coming To Webhealing Helps You.

 With Love
    Nina

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Main / Re: Is there a point to this?

« on: September 21, 2010, 08:01:41 PM »

Juls i dont think that you are missing anything, i think that we are here to love and be loved and think that sometiimes things happen for a reason that we may never no the answer. I think we all go though that why would our spouses be taking from use. And in my case me and my husband were together for 14yrs and married for almost 6 of those yrs and we had a wonderful relationship he was much older then me but we loved each other, he had some health problems and been though alot and i lost him on may 15, 2010, and at first i was mad cause i said to myself why would god bring him though all this to take him away from me, then i said to myself that god didnt take him from me he just released him from all the suffering he been though. And after that i thought to myself that all that he went though , when he had his massive stroke that my husband did not suffer at all and he went peacefully. So I asked myself why would you want to be selfish and want him here just to make me feel better while he stay and suffer. I wouldnt want that so sometimes we got to take the good with the bad. And we all live this earth someday so dont let losing your spouse defeat you when the time is right move on and love and be allow to be loved by someone and just live and enjoy the rest of you life with your with spouse in your heart. Because my husband is gone but he wouldnt want me to put my life on hold he would want me to greive and someday move on with his loving memory in my heart!

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Main / Re: How Do I Go On?

« on: August 29, 2010, 09:36:07 PM »

John I Am So Sorry For The Lost Of Your Beloved Kit She Sounds Like My Donnie A Fighter He Went Though Alot Of Stuff I Mean Diabetes, Dialiays, Kidney Pancreas Transplant Eye Surgerys But The Last 3 yrs After The Transplant He Was Like A New Man, But He Did Have Problems But Not As Bad. But He Was Just Tired And It Was His Time To Go I Believe That The Massive Stroke Was His Way Out And I Am Ok With That Cause Now He Does Not Have 2 Suffer Anymore. And It Time Heals All Wounds, I Am Here If U Ever Want To Chat..

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Main / Re: As Of Today My Husband Has Been Gone For 3 Months

« on: August 29, 2010, 09:26:59 PM »

Thankyou Guys U Dont Know How Much Better I Feel Hearing That I Am Not Alone I Am So Sorry For The Lost Of Your Husbands And Wifes, We All Some What Feel The Same Way No Matter How We Lost Our Other Half. I Miss My Husband So Much U Right Judim He Was A Wonderful Man Any And Everbody Loved Him But John I Do HAve Good Days And Bad Days But Its Going To Be Like That For A Long Time For All Of Us, But We Will Get Though It And Someday Learn How To Live Without Our Other Half And Keep Their Memory In A Heart With Such Love And Joy!!!

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Main / Re: As Of Today My Husband Has Been Gone For 3 Months

« on: August 17, 2010, 11:18:03 AM »

Sorry Tahari01 for the lost of your mom i know its still new but it gets better and just take it day by day and thanks 4 commenting on my post i am doing ok just taking it day by day and just trying 2 enjoy life like my beloved husband would i am here if u want 2 talk.
Love Nina

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Main / Re: As Of Today My Husband Has Been Gone For 3 Months

« on: August 16, 2010, 03:24:45 PM »

Thank You Guys 4 Your Support I Needed It, My Husband Was The Most Wonderful Man You Could Meet He Just Had A Heart That Could Love Everybody, Thats What I Fell In Love With. We Were Together For 14 Yrs And We Would Of Been Married For 6 Yrs On Sept 2 Of This Yr, He Died Of A Massive Stroke, But He Suffered Alot In His Life But The Last Three Yrs After His Kidney Pancreas Transplant He Had A Blast He Was Like A New Person And I Am So Glad He Got 2 Really Enjoy The Last 3yrs Diabetes Free Even Though His Life Ended So Soon He Was 47 Yrs Old But He Told Me Alot Of Times That I Made Him Feel Young Because I Am Young. I Am At Peace Because He Suffer's No More And I Know That He Is Watching Me Smiling Down On Me, He Was One 2 Tell Me 2 Live Life 2 The Fullest As If It Would End Tommorow, And Thats What I Entend To Due Live Life With Him In My Heart Forever, But I Still Miss Him So Much It Is Still Hard I Have My Bad Days And I Have My Good Days, But I Just Have To Take Day By Day I KNow That It Will Get Easier.

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Main / As Of Today My Husband Has Been Gone For 3 Months

« on: August 15, 2010, 07:21:39 PM »

As of today i lost my husband the love of my life 3 months ago and it only seems like yesterday that he has been gone i have been doing ok but some days are better then others, But i know its going to take some time for me to learn how to live without him in my life but i know that he would want me to move on with my life, but how am i surpose to do that without him. I Moved 2 Another state to try and start my life over but it is still hard i miss him so much, how do i move on when u been with somebody for 14yrs?

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Main / Re: Where is everyone from?

« on: August 01, 2010, 06:09:57 PM »

Hi My NAme Is Nina I Am From Milwaukee, Wi Just Moved To North Carolina

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Main / Re: help

« on: August 01, 2010, 06:07:40 PM »

Hi Ron I know what u are feeling i lost my husband 0n may15 2010 and its been really hard people dont understand how it feels to lose someone u love unless they have been though what we r going though today was a bad day 4 me but i made it though ok some days are better just take it day by day. I am here if u want 2 talk
Love Nina

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Main / Re: Lost my wife April 25 2010

« on: June 25, 2010, 10:40:50 AM »

Dear Hope1964 I Know what you are feeling i lost my husband on May 15,2010 due to a massive stroke it happen while i was at work i found him when i came home, then i had to make another hard choice which was to take him off the vent machine because he was brain dead and there was no hope. My Beloved Donnie didn't want to be left on no beathing machine or have a feeding tube, so i made the hardest choice in my life and that was to let him go . And he left me 15mins later after taking him off the machine, trust me it hurted but i was ok with it because i knew he was going to a much better place. Its Still has been very hard for me but i let god help me though it whch he has so far, i write in a jounral daily and that helps also. And if one thing i learned from my beloved husband was to live life to the fullest as if there was no tommorow. And that is what i intend to do with the rest of my life, my husband was 47yrs old and i am 29yrs and we would of been married for 6rs on sept 2 and toghter for 13yrs, and he was the type of man that would want me to grieve alittle, but move on and live life to the fullest with everything that we had and the loved that we shared will ALWAYS be with me. So i hope i was of some help to you. Yours Truly Nina

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Main / I Lost My Soul Of 14yrs On May 15 2010

« on: June 09, 2010, 08:54:46 PM »

I Lost the love of my life on May 15, 2010 Of a Massive Stroke, I feel so empty and lost i was at work taking care of other people while my husband was home alone having a massive stroke, i didnt even get a feeling that something was wrong until i went home and found him on the floor of our dining room with his legs cross and hands on his belly like he was in a deep sleep, which now i understand that he was laying that way because he excepted that it was his time to go, then i had to be the one to make the choice to take him off the ventilator, which i new that was his wishes, but seeing him leaving me peacefuly in 15 mins helped alittle knowing that he did not suffer. But i still feel lost he was my life and we would of been married for 6yrs in Sept and toghter for 14yrs in march of 2011. The days sometimes feel long and lonely but though gods help i have been doing ok. My problem now is that i am back to work and i feel so much anger when i am at work, i thought it might be because he died in the hosiptal or the fact that i was at work when he was having his stroke, but i think it cold be both. When it gets close to me having to go to work i get a crazy feeling over my body than i start to cry and can hardly beath, and feel why do i need to go to work and take care of other people when i wasn't there to take care of my own husband. I know it's surpose to get better in time ,but i sometimes which it would hurry on up and get better so i dont have this lonely, sad, empty feel without the love of my life and my SOULMATE!!