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Title: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Terry on October 31, 2012, 10:32:59 PM

Does anyone have any plans for Thanksgiving this year and if so, do you want to share?

Thinking of you all, with love.  :love4:
Terry
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: sonya on October 31, 2012, 11:13:12 PM
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Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: johnkmurray on November 01, 2012, 11:58:56 AM
Kit's mother invited me to come to WI again this year but due to work committments I'd have to fly on peak travel days and cut the weekend short. Gina invited me to go camping with her and her kids ... haven't been camping in decades though. Gonna have to think on that one. ;-)
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: stampingwidow on November 02, 2012, 10:37:19 AM
My daughter is hosting our family thanksgiving.  We decided that both physically & emotionally, I am not up to it.  We will each provide something for the dinner.  It is great of her to do so, but I dread coming home to an empty house.  How do others handle this?
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Jean D on November 02, 2012, 11:45:56 AM
I'm driving two and a half hours to my sisters house for dinner. It is what Ben and I did last year...hope I can handle it, but it will be nice to see my 3 year old great niece.
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Terry on November 13, 2012, 07:43:21 PM
Kit's mother invited me to come to WI again this year but due to work committments I'd have to fly on peak travel days and cut the weekend short. Gina invited me to go camping with her and her kids ... haven't been camping in decades though. Gonna have to think on that one. ;-)

I'm sure whatever you decide that you will have a nice weekend! Camping? Hummm...sure sounds relaxing.  

Let us know what you end up doing! :icon_flower:

Love,
Terry
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Terry on November 13, 2012, 07:49:07 PM
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Hey Son....was there supposed to be something after that "I?"  :laughing6: :icon_mrgreen:

How does your group of new friends celebrate Thanksgiving, if they do? Getting together with any of them? Let us know!

Will be thinking of you!  :love4:

Love,
Terry
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Terry on November 13, 2012, 07:57:39 PM
My daughter is hosting our family thanksgiving.  We decided that both physically & emotionally, I am not up to it.  We will each provide something for the dinner.  It is great of her to do so, but I dread coming home to an empty house.  How do others handle this?

Sounds nice, Ann! It's always nice coming home to my dogs. They are a great comfort and I never feel lonely. Do you have pets?  :grommit:

Maybe someone here who is going through similar will share their ideas, thoughts with you. One thing I did earlier on was to make sure all of the lights were on before I left the house and I also left the stereo on so when I got back home, it had some life in it. Then, the dogs knock me over with their kisses!! Love and comfort comes in many forms!

I'll be thinking about you!  :icon_flower:

Love,
Terry
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Terry on November 13, 2012, 08:02:15 PM
I'm driving two and a half hours to my sisters house for dinner. It is what Ben and I did last year...hope I can handle it, but it will be nice to see my 3 year old great niece.


That sounds like a good plan, Jean! It will be nice, I'm sure spending time with your niece....what a sweet age!

Enjoy your day and if you feel it is too much, you can always leave a little early, right? I'm sure your sister will give you lots of hugs! Hey, if not we've got lots here for you!! :love4:

Let us know!

Love,
Terry

Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Terry on November 13, 2012, 08:06:49 PM

For those here having to cope with the holidays for the first time without your loved ones, know we are here for you and understand how difficult all of the 'firsts' are going to be.

Sending you love and understanding.

Love,
Terry
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Jean D on November 14, 2012, 02:39:25 PM
I have a change in my Thanksgiving plans. I am going to join my son, his wife and my 2 granddaughters for this year. Packing up the dogs in the car and driving 5 hours...but going to make a weekend of sorts out of it. I know those two little faces on the girls will not allow me to be anything but upbeat.

Jean
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Terry on November 18, 2012, 01:26:59 PM

I have a change in my Thanksgiving plans. I am going to join my son, his wife and my 2 granddaughters for this year. Packing up the dogs in the car and driving 5 hours...but going to make a weekend of sorts out of it. I know those two little faces on the girls will not allow me to be anything but upbeat.


That sounds lovely, Jean! Thanks for the update!

Will be thinking of you on Thanksgiving as I will all here.

Love,
Terry
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Terry on November 18, 2012, 01:53:05 PM

Jason, Arthur, Dave B., Sonya, Chris, Rodney, John, Angela, Ann, Lisa, Kevin, Mark Haynes, Andy....just to name a few that we haven't heard from yet regarding your plans (if any) for Thanksgiving.

If you want to share, I would love to know what you all are doing!

You are ALL in my heart!

Love,
Terry
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: stampingwidow on November 18, 2012, 03:51:46 PM
Terry thanks for your helpful suggestions.  I have a loving golden retriever- chow mix that I rescued from a dog pound.  I appreciate my daughters willingness to host the celebration.  My sister-in- law & her family will be.attending as well.  I will leave some lights on& perhaps the radio.  It is difficult for my dog when I leave.  She will welcome me gladly when I return as she is still suffering some separation anxiety.  Thanks for the reminder, she will be here for me.
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: MyLou on November 18, 2012, 06:21:37 PM
Terry,


I will be going to the cemetery and then coming home for dinner.  Hoping I can sit at the dinner table it's just a chore.  I will take that day as it comes.


Always

Lisa
 
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Terry on November 19, 2012, 11:27:12 AM

((((((((Ann)))))))) :icon_flower:
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Terry on November 19, 2012, 11:29:26 AM

(((((((Lisa)))))))

Always here for you, with love!
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: roseygirl61 on November 20, 2012, 03:03:14 PM
Hi all,

I will be going to my cousins this year.  Hopefully I can make through the Holiday this year, didn't do so well last year... :tearyeyed:
I know this is supposed to get maybe bearable is the right word, but it seems the greif  comes back so quick, every time I think I have a handle on it, everything just comes crashing down.
I miss Bill so very much my heart just aches.  Every milestone for Matt, every problem with the house, I just don't know how to ride this emotional roller coaster any more. Hopefully this too shall pass?
Wishing all some peace and comfort in the coming days and weeks.... :love9:

Rose
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Terry on November 20, 2012, 06:47:06 PM

Hi Rose....so nice to see a post from you! Regardless of how much time has gone by, the holidays are always difficult. Those grief bursts from their memory, every memory of holidays spent together, can be rough.

Time does help. That time is very different for us all. Remember that our pain is fueled by our love for them. No love...no pain. But, I'd rather feel the pain than feel on top of the world just months, even a year or two after they have died because that would be more painful if I had nothing to miss. That pain would be unbearable. So, I can live with this pain.

You'll always miss Bill just as I will always miss all of my loved ones who have died. How could we not? But, one day you'll feel that life is calling to you (with a smile) instead of beating you up and that will be a good feeling. Better days will come, Rose. Believe me!

Wishing you peace, also and much happiness in your future! You certainly deserve it!  :love4:

(((((((Rosie)))))))

Love,
Terry
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: roseygirl61 on November 21, 2012, 04:10:59 AM
(((((Terry)))))

Thank you for your kind and beautiful words and thoughts.
I honestly don't know how you do it, through your own pain and grief, you ALWAYS have words of encouragement for others!
Hope you have some peace and comfort and joy in the coming days as well. :love4:

Rose
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Terry on December 09, 2012, 06:01:30 PM
Kit's mother invited me to come to WI again this year but due to work committments I'd have to fly on peak travel days and cut the weekend short. Gina invited me to go camping with her and her kids ... haven't been camping in decades though. Gonna have to think on that one. ;-)

It sounds like everyone made it through Thanksgiving with no visible scars, which is always a plus!  :love4:

John,

What did you end up doing? Did you go camping with Gina and her kids?

Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Terry on December 09, 2012, 06:03:09 PM
(((((Terry)))))

Thank you for your kind and beautiful words and thoughts.
I honestly don't know how you do it, through your own pain and grief, you ALWAYS have words of encouragement for others!
Hope you have some peace and comfort and joy in the coming days as well. :love4:

Rose

Thank You, Rose for your well wishes! What a nice message!  :love4:

((((((((Rose))))))))
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: johnkmurray on December 10, 2012, 12:20:44 PM
What did you end up doing? Did you go camping with Gina and her kids?

I ended up dog sitting for her. ;-)
Title: Re: Any plans for Thanksgiving?
Post by: Terry on December 10, 2012, 03:56:42 PM

AWWW, :thumbsup: that was nice of you, John and I find that they are the best company, anyway!!  :grommit: