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Crisis, Grief, and Healing => Sibling Loss => Topic started by: helene on December 23, 2011, 01:54:41 PM

Title: Frightened
Post by: helene on December 23, 2011, 01:54:41 PM
Hi,

I hope everyone here has a peaceful and loving holiday - Christmas, Hanukkah and other special celebrations this time of the year. I think I'll be ok. I have a loving husband and he really helps.
I was frightened today though by the internet. By another forum I tried out. Some people can be very cruel, and these people were so cruel and heartless that my blood is running cold from it. I will never go back to that forum again! I am horrified by the heartless, cold-blooded nature of some people. If you want me to name the forum I will.

I will be away on holidays for awhile - until early January. But I wanted to raise people's awareness that, as vulnerable, caring, loving and grieving people - we may explore the internet looking for various forums to join for many different reasons. All I can say is......be careful!

I have never felt safer or more loved than I do HERE and I thank you all, from the bottom of my heart!


Love,

Helene
Title: Re: Frightened
Post by: browneyedgirl on December 23, 2011, 07:47:47 PM
Helene - I'm so very sorry that you've been hurt by others in another forum.
I'm just going to be honest - like you ( although I've never met you) I try to see good in everyone and have often gotten taken advantage of. Sort of like a kindness for weakness thing. Result? I became a cold, bitter, mean, miserable girl.  For years. Then I met someone who made me believe again.  I'll make a long story short...there are awful people out there. You have to go through a lot of toads to find your prince. And it sounds as though you have. The key is to not let one experience spoil everything. Easier said than done I know...I learned the hard way but he never gave up on me.
A little bit different circumstances but my hope is that you will see my parallel all the same.

No need to name the forum. Those people have to live with whatever hurt they caused you and in the end in my opinion, what goes around comes around.

***steps off soap box*****

Lots of love.
Title: Re: Frightened
Post by: jasonkl on December 23, 2011, 09:14:59 PM
Pam
I have the same belief, that all people are good, that most want to do the right thing. I feel that most just don't know how. And yes want gos around comes around. It may not happen right away but it will happen.

Heene
Have a safe trip.

Jason
Title: Re: Frightened
Post by: helene on January 04, 2012, 08:19:51 AM
Thank you Pam  and Jason,

Pam, I hear you when you say "I try to see the good and have often gotten taken advantage of" and the result: the potential of becoming cold, bitter, mean. I hate to say this and I am ashamed....my husband has taken the brunt of my cold, bitter, mean self that surfaces, intermittantly,  - me: like a demon from the depths. I agree with you not to let one experience spoil everything, but there has been for me - as is probably a reality for you as well - many more than one experience.

In my internet explorations, I ran into psychopaths. I know very well what those kinds of people are like because....and I know this will be difficult - probably - for some to believe - both my mother and my half brother (him being 11 years older than I) - are, in fact, psychopaths. I would like to think I am not stupid. I have read many books and have observed both of their actions VERY CAREFULLY.  My 'mother' had nothing to say at Lesley's funeral but, instead, had hidden in her purse a document that would publically damn my brother if he should dare to show up for Lesley's funeral. He did not show up and mother still covets that document. A document that I also have that Lesley wrote. What a 'family' eh? So...coming in 'contact' with psychopaths on another forum was horrible and very, very frightening. These people are ruthless and will stop at nothing to harm others. Love, Helene.