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Title: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on July 06, 2011, 03:28:29 PM


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"When you need me, just whisper my name in your Heart. I Will be There...."


What can make us feel even closer to our children than the signs that we receive from them? They let us know they are loved and they are safe, even that they miss us and continue to watch over us.
Most of us have received signs from our precious children and they can come in many forms. One of those forms are dreams. There are times when we 'feel' them and we just think it is wishful thinking on our parts. Some of us have shared that we 'second guess' these signs. Signs can be very subtle and they can be very obvious but our children continue to let us know that they love us deeply and reassure us that one day we will all be together again. And, what a happy day that will be!

Recently, I asked if anyone would like to share their signs and designate a 'sticky' where we can all drop by and share them. Pictures, videos....anything that you would like to share and is related to the signs that we receive from our precious children, this thread will be the place to do that! Of course, you can post anything, anywhere as this is 'your' board, I just thought it would be nice for those who want to share or just read about signs that a thread be readily available to them.

Let's see how this works out!!

Love & Hugs,
Terry
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: AC Mom on July 06, 2011, 04:55:53 PM
Terry, most people dream about their kids, or their loved ones after they are gone.  I don't usually remember dreams, thats why I think I look for the daily signs AC sends.  I am much more in tune to them than dreams.  I talk in my sleep, and it was funny, my nephew lived with me for a while, and would tell me when I was talking to AC. He often said I was arguing with AC, which might have upset some people, but me and AC argued/discussed a lot of things on a daily basis.  We were both debating type people and made good use of it. lol

I have had no signs the past week or so.  And haven't heard from any family member that has.  Guess AC is busy elsewhere. lol

Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on July 06, 2011, 05:34:23 PM

Peggy, the most vivid of dreams that I have had was in the 'drifting off stage' and right before sleep. They are so real because you're not really asleep yet and you can hear sounds around you and even move ever so slightly...they have been the most awesome for me.

You're right and it's so frustrating when you wake up and you can't remember that dream. Sometimes, we can and then others, no.

I like hearing about the signs AC sends you and look forward to more visits!!

Maybe they are ALL busy together planning something so we'll post it here!! I know they are watching us!

Hugs!
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Penny - Sean's Mom on July 16, 2011, 12:05:17 AM
Eagles.  Sean sends an eagle to me just about every day for over five years now.  I never noticed eagles in our neighborhood, etc before his death but there's always one somewhere close now. 

The eagle story starts two or three months after his accident.  I had decided to donate a memorial bench and have it placed in a local park that my boys and I spent quite a bit of time in.  I met the park ranger to decide on the exact spot the bench would be placed but was getting really frustrated because nothing felt right.  Not by the tennis courts, or on the beach, or by the playground, or anywhere else for that matter.  We were standing on the bluff under two beautiful evergreens admiring the 180 degree view of Puget Sound when two eagles flew by at eye level - literally screaming as they went by.  They both proceeded to land in the tree I was standing under.  The ranger looked at me and told me that he had never ever had that happen before and he was pretty sure my son was telling me something.  And I agreed. He marked the spot for the bench exactly where I was standing.  That bench is a constant source of comfort for me.  And since that day I get a visit from an eagle just about every day.  It makes me feel connected and protected...and it makes me smile.

Penny - Sean's Mom
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on July 16, 2011, 06:25:36 AM

Wow, Penny...Have you ever thought of taking pictures (maybe you have) or video as there might be an orb around the eagles, or even many? Sean may bring his friends to visit when he comes!

I get so excited when I sign on here as I can't wait to see if there is a message with a sign from one of our children!!!

Peggy's "AC" and your "Sean" are busy, indeed!!

Hugs!!
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on July 18, 2011, 07:32:01 AM

I had a dream or should I say, a series of dreams or I thought they were. It was unlike anything I have ever experienced. I was awake, then I was dreaming and all the while my Jeff was growing. Growing from a baby, to a little boy and then he was around 12. In every scene, he was talking, age appropriate and I was touching him and he was laughing as a baby and tot, and then smiling and talking as he aged.

I thought maybe this was what happens right before you join them. I didn't understand how his life could be presented in such a detailed fashion and there were so many memories that I didn't have. I believe these were Jeff's memories. I believe, strongly that this was Jeff. He was giving me this, as a gift if you will...I don't know?

I am always amazed by every visit, although this 'home movie', and it played out that way and in such detail, leaves me with another emotion. I feel closer to him than I ever have probably because I feel in my heart that this had to be Jeff as I have no memory of these times, although there was a familiarity to all of them.

Maybe Jeff wants me to remember the best times of our lives and these times were his growing and learning and loving. He also mentioned a couple of poems that he wrote to me and they are in a collection that I still have not published. One is around 160 poems and the other around 220. One book, Jeff and I published together back in '98 and some scattered short stories with Jeff's art work and a few shows.

Maybe he's just telling his Mom to 'get off of her butt' and get this work out. Maybe I just have to 'steal' the time or stop making excuses for not getting it out. Something I will be thinking about a lot.

And, although both Michelle and Jeff have always talked to me when visiting, there was a deep, profound...I want to say it was an awakening as I can't describe it any other way...his voice was felt in my soul and there is a 'knowing' that it will never leave.

And, I remain grateful.
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: AC Mom on July 18, 2011, 08:03:18 AM
Terry, I am so glad you had those dreams.  Sounds like they put you at peace.  Its signs like that, that many people over look.  Many would have put it off to "just a dream", you saw it for what it was.  Your Jeff showing you the good times in his life, in hopes it would help you.

Love and Hugs
Peggy
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on July 18, 2011, 05:24:22 PM

I 'do' feel a peace and at the same time, sadness. With my Momma's Angel Date coming up the 20th of this month, I've been wondering if she didn't have something to do with this as around her dates, I am always surprised and even awe struck by the visits from my children. I would love to have a visit from my Momma. I miss her so much.

Thanks, Peggy!

"Teary Terry" :(
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: oursonbilly on August 06, 2011, 08:35:01 AM
Hello Terry;  I came across your Signs from our precious children and would like to share our website with you. Our website www.oursonbilly.com (http://www.oursonbilly.com) is in honor of our son Billy, who crossed over to heaven on June 26 2004.  There you can read our story and view a few pages of some of the type of signs through photographs that we have and continue to receive from our son Billy.

Guy
www.oursonbilly.com (http://www.oursonbilly.com)
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on August 06, 2011, 09:02:53 AM

Hi Guy!

Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing this awesome site for our members to read through. I have visited before and look forward to your updates. Your site, your story is truly amazing!

I believe they watch us and are always with us. I have never doubted that.

I may have missed it before, but I haven't found a guestbook on your site. Can you direct me and others? Thanks!

Your Billy is so beautiful and continues to love deeply, and I believe your loving encouragement will continue to strengthen your Billy's already, very strong life force, enabling him to stay closely connected to your family.

I once shared that we are all able to have this same contact with our children. We need to truly believe that it is possible first!

You're amazing, Billy!!

My Love to you and your family,
Terry
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: missing kaiden on November 10, 2011, 08:37:30 PM


My Kaiden came to me this week. His one month anniversary was October 8th. We were sitting outside...me Kaiden and my husband. We were sitting outside on a bright sunny day just relaxing and he was laughing and clapping his little hands. I could feel the happiness in him. I could feel how much he was loved. He was happy and ok and all I could do was smile. I never spoke to him. We spoke mentally. I.told him how much I loved and missed him. He just kept laughing and clapping. I didn't want to wake up but a voice told me anytime I wanted to see him to just dream...I woke up with tears of joy because I truly knew he was happy. I'll never stop missing him but I'm glad he came to me. I think he knew I was suffering and hurt. I think he came to soothe me as I did him. My pain won't go way but it gave me some comfort....at least for the moment!!!
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on November 10, 2011, 11:09:16 PM

(((Eboni)))

I'm happy to hear that you received a visit from your precious Kaiden. I believe our older children here care for the younger ones and they welcomed Kaiden and right now, they're loving on him with hugs and kisses! Those moments of comfort we cherish, so very much.

Thanks so much for sharing your visit from Kaiden with us!

My Love,
Terry
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: browneyedgirl on November 11, 2011, 11:28:32 AM
(((Eboni)))))

Thank you for sharing. 

Lots of love.
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: momofwatsonx on December 04, 2011, 11:49:23 AM
I dont dream..... and lately i havent felt Josh around me....... but earlier this week i went to the gravesite and i was talking to him telling him how much i loved him and miss him, and how hard the hollidays are with out him....i asked him to sent me a sign to let me know he was still with me...I kissed his headstone and  said i love you my precious baby boy...i walk to my car and got in cranked it up and made my turn to leave as i got even with his gravesite....baby blues came on the radio....it a song that Josh would sing to me when he was 2...i cryed like a baby the whole time it was on.... I said thank you son thats just what i needed.
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on December 04, 2011, 12:32:15 PM

The tears fell reading this. Oh my, Virgie. What an awesome sign your baby sent you. Thank You, Josh!!

They continue to be there for us when we need them the most.

Hugs!
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: SarahW on December 04, 2011, 04:13:08 PM
I dont dream..... and lately i havent felt Josh around me....... but earlier this week i went to the gravesite and i was talking to him telling him how much i loved him and miss him, and how hard the hollidays are with out him....i asked him to sent me a sign to let me know he was still with me...I kissed his headstone and  said i love you my precious baby boy...i walk to my car and got in cranked it up and made my turn to leave as i got even with his gravesite....baby blues came on the radio....it a song that Josh would sing to me when he was 2...i cryed like a baby the whole time it was on.... I said thank you son thats just what i needed.

I love this story!  I am so glad you had this wonderful experience.

I had one of those "I suddenly realize I am in a dream" dreams last night.  Whenever I have those, I try to quickly find Vince, before I wake up or something.  The first time, I did see him, but he was far away - he turned around and waved at me, though.  The second time, I got to hug him and he told me everything was OK.  I got to hug him this time also.  He did not talk hardly at all, but hugged me back hard.


I wish I had dreams like that more often.  But any sign is great.  Congrats again for this great sign from Josh.  I have no doubt that is what it was.
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: SarahW on February 03, 2012, 08:50:52 PM
I had a great dream about Vince last night - it was brief, but I got to see him and hug him.
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on February 03, 2012, 11:24:49 PM

Sarah.....Fantastic!! I am so happy for you.

Thanks for sharing this!

Vince...Vince...Vince...Vince...Vince...Vince...Vince
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on March 10, 2012, 12:56:59 PM

Hi Guy,

Was happy to see that you added a guestbook on Billy's site. I just stopped by to sign it and also to read your updates. Yes, it has been awhile!

Glad you are all well!

Love,
Terry
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: oursonbilly on March 10, 2012, 02:04:53 PM
Hello Terry:

I want to thank you for your coment and would like to let you know that I have a facebook group page - Signs from our loved ones, which deals with our loss of a loved one and the countless different type's of sign's they they can and do leave us. Your welcome to visit and join us if you like. Here is our link. http://www.facebook.com/groups/223805824358789/ (http://www.facebook.com/groups/223805824358789/)

Have a great day
Guy
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on March 11, 2012, 10:20:03 AM

Hi Guy,

I clicked on the "Join this Group" button (?)...and will pop on later to look at your page. Thanks for this info! At first glance, it looked like it had a lot of activity.

I am under "Terry" and you will see all of our Mom's and Dad's from the board over there, too! Stop by!

Enjoy your Sunday!

Much love,
Terry
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: oursonbilly on March 11, 2012, 11:45:52 AM
Hello Terry:

Thank you for your reply. I just checked our group page to accept you but I didn't see your name. Ill try again later.

Looking forward to you and others to be part of our group page. I have also posted on our group page about webhealing, the more places people have to share their experience's and hopefully to be able to help others at the same time, that's great.


Have a great day
Guy
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: SarahW on August 18, 2012, 07:48:06 PM
Another great dream about Vincent!

I love having them so much, I wish I could have them every night.  I couldn't remember all of it, just that I woke up with a very warm, happy feeling, and I remembered I had been giving Vince a bath - he was just a toddler, and we were having fun.  Then later, he was a grown man and I remember that I was thrilled to see him and we gave each other a big, long hug.  It felt so good.

I hope everyone is well.  Still taking it day by day, still cry just about every day, with true meltdowns much less frequent.  Maybe monthly.  Pain is, as you all know, unceasing, but I'm learning to live with it.  I still have the two foster daughters living with me, and it looks as if I may be able to keep them through the school year at least.  Have my fingers crossed on that.

We went on vacation to the beach, and that was nice for us.  They hadn't seen the ocean before, so it was extra fun to take them.  I thought of Vince a lot, as the ocean always gives me "big thoughts" about life and our world, and I felt very close to him there.

Best to all!
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on August 22, 2012, 09:05:32 PM

So happy for you, Sarah!!! Vince visited his Momma to let you know he is OK and he's always with you! I believe that!

Glad to hear things are going good for you and the girls. That's really great...for all of you! I feel the same as you about the ocean. We're like a tiny grain of sand in comparison. It's humbling.

Thanks for sharing your visit with Vince!!

((((((((((Sarah))))))))))

Love,
Terry
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: browneyedgirl on August 27, 2012, 03:45:30 PM
((((Sarah)))0

thanks for sharing the dream with us.  Glad things are going well for you and your foster daughters - what a blessing for all. 
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on September 25, 2012, 09:22:06 PM
i know there's a lot of new people on here. i'm gonna post  this dream/sign again....

CANDI-23 was killed may 13,2005.. after that i had night mare's about CANDI a lot. it was so bad that i prayed & asked god if i couldn't have a good dream about CANDI then please not let me dream about her...
 when CANDI was gone 11 mo... i had the best dream....
  in my dream CANDI was getting married & it was a western wedding... at the wedding CANDI ran out. i ran out after her.. CANDI was looking for a certain  bridle for her horse.. i was crying so hard ... then next thing CANDI was sitting in a car on the passenger side  with the door open.... i knelt down & i was crying & i touched CANDI on her leg & CANDI was laughing like she normally did... CANDI said " AUNT MARTHA, WHY ARE YOU CRYING?"  i said " because , they said i'd never see you again."  CANDI said " i'll always be there." & we told each other" i love you."

 I FEEL LIKE GOD gave me everything i could ever hope for in one dream....  CANDI'S been gone 7 yrs. now.. & when i get really sad i try my hardest to  think about the dream & remember CANDI told me she'd always be there... i hope this helps a lot of ya'll & i hope everyone get's a good sign from their loved one's...

MARTHA
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: SarahW on November 01, 2012, 08:41:31 PM
Had the oddest experience, again with a dream:

I was talking to my elder foster daughter in the kitchen.  I am going to call her Nicole (I can't use her real name online.) We were having an every day conversation, and she was putting dishes away, from the dishwasher.  I suddenly realized the kitchen wasn't set up as it should be . . . we weren't in my kitchen!  I then immediately realized I was dreaming.

I became very excited and started screaming for Vince.  Nicole gave me a shocked look, and her face started to look foggy as if she was disappearing, but I couldn't worry about that.  I was sure this was a chance to see Vincent.  I left Nicole behind and ran full tilt down a short hallway, yelling Vincent's name, sure that when I turned a corner, i would see some double glass doors and he would be outside of them, and I could let him in the house.

But right before I could turn the corner, I woke up!  Suddenly, I was back in my bed.  My body was tingling from head to toe and I was crushed with disappontment.  I cried later that day; I just couldn't get it off my mind.  I had come soooo close to seeing him!  Why didn't I?  What had I done wrong?  Why wasn't I allowed to see him??  That's how it felt - like I had tried to cross some line that I wasn't allowed to cross, and got bounced back to my usual reality like I'd hit an invisible force field.

I did some reading that suggested that when you have a "lucid dream," you should first try to get a hold of your emotions and approach any thing you want to try to do calmly.  That this will help keep you in the dream.  Apparently, my experience of extreme excitement leading to waking up, and even the tingling, has been experienced by others.

So I am hoping I will get another chance.

I also ordered a book from amazon about consciousness and dreaming - it's a scientific book, by a biochemist type, that discusses theories about consciousness and reality, and how "real" dreams are, and theories about consciousness and death.  It has to do with the way consciousness shapes and affects reality . . . anyhow I find comfort in understanding the universe as well as I can.  It helps me as I try to process what happened to my son, what it means, where he is now, etc.

Will let you know if I find anything particularly interesting in the book.
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: SarahW on November 12, 2012, 08:53:19 AM
So, I read my book, which is call Biocentrism, by a doctor named Robert Lanza.

He has some interesting theories about space, time, consciousness, and how it all relates to life and death.  He is a very respected, award winning neurobiologist, and he uses science for his theories  - and he lets you know when he starts to speculate on the meaning of experiments that show, for example, that the observer (consciousness) very much effects reality.

Basically, he believes that our concepts of space and time are very much a result of our human form and limitations, and that death is not the end - that it can't be, because space-time isn't real, it's just something we construct to organize our perceptions.  He argues that consciousness continues past death, and more.  I find it all pretty interesting and strangely comforting.  If you are interested, no need to buy the book.  You can read almost everything that is in it by going to Lanza's website, here:

http://www.robertlanza.com (http://www.robertlanza.com)

In particular, he writes about the "reality of dreams," and he does believe that they are just as "real" as waking experience.  He explains that here:

http://www.robertlanza.com/are-dreams-an-extension-of-physical-reality/ (http://www.robertlanza.com/are-dreams-an-extension-of-physical-reality/)

It didn't make me miss Vince less, and it didn't make me hurt less.  But it made me feel more confident of the reality of seeing him again in my dreams.  And it also gave me more confidence in my belief that love is everlasting, and that Vince is always, and will always be with me, and Death is nothing to fear -it will be a new beginning, one which includes Vincent.
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on November 12, 2012, 07:08:36 PM
Had the oddest experience, again with a dream:

I was talking to my elder foster daughter in the kitchen.  I am going to call her Nicole (I can't use her real name online.) We were having an every day conversation, and she was putting dishes away, from the dishwasher.  I suddenly realized the kitchen wasn't set up as it should be . . . we weren't in my kitchen!  I then immediately realized I was dreaming.

I became very excited and started screaming for Vince.  Nicole gave me a shocked look, and her face started to look foggy as if she was disappearing, but I couldn't worry about that.  I was sure this was a chance to see Vincent.  I left Nicole behind and ran full tilt down a short hallway, yelling Vincent's name, sure that when I turned a corner, i would see some double glass doors and he would be outside of them, and I could let him in the house.

But right before I could turn the corner, I woke up!  Suddenly, I was back in my bed.  My body was tingling from head to toe and I was crushed with disappontment.  I cried later that day; I just couldn't get it off my mind.  I had come soooo close to seeing him!  Why didn't I?  What had I done wrong?  Why wasn't I allowed to see him??  That's how it felt - like I had tried to cross some line that I wasn't allowed to cross, and got bounced back to my usual reality like I'd hit an invisible force field.

I did some reading that suggested that when you have a "lucid dream," you should first try to get a hold of your emotions and approach any thing you want to try to do calmly.  That this will help keep you in the dream.  Apparently, my experience of extreme excitement leading to waking up, and even the tingling, has been experienced by others.

So I am hoping I will get another chance.

I also ordered a book from amazon about consciousness and dreaming - it's a scientific book, by a biochemist type, that discusses theories about consciousness and reality, and how "real" dreams are, and theories about consciousness and death.  It has to do with the way consciousness shapes and affects reality . . . anyhow I find comfort in understanding the universe as well as I can.  It helps me as I try to process what happened to my son, what it means, where he is now, etc.

Will let you know if I find anything particularly interesting in the book.

((((((Sarah))))))

I read this when you first posted it. I'm glad your curiosity is peaking as there is so much we don't know or understand about the after-life...just that it exists. I remember that when I was grieving hard, I never had a sign or dream from anyone. That remains true today. It is when I am still and at peace that they always come. I know I'm always happy for any sign and at anytime!

Thanks for sharing your dream about Vince.

Love,
Terry
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on November 12, 2012, 07:13:16 PM
So, I read my book, which is call Biocentrism, by a doctor named Robert Lanza.

He has some interesting theories about space, time, consciousness, and how it all relates to life and death.  He is a very respected, award winning neurobiologist, and he uses science for his theories  - and he lets you know when he starts to speculate on the meaning of experiments that show, for example, that the observer (consciousness) very much effects reality.

Basically, he believes that our concepts of space and time are very much a result of our human form and limitations, and that death is not the end - that it can't be, because space-time isn't real, it's just something we construct to organize our perceptions.  He argues that consciousness continues past death, and more.  I find it all pretty interesting and strangely comforting.  If you are interested, no need to buy the book.  You can read almost everything that is in it by going to Lanza's website, here:

[url]http://www.robertlanza.com[/url] ([url]http://www.robertlanza.com[/url])

In particular, he writes about the "reality of dreams," and he does believe that they are just as "real" as waking experience.  He explains that here:

[url]http://www.robertlanza.com/are-dreams-an-extension-of-physical-reality/[/url] ([url]http://www.robertlanza.com/are-dreams-an-extension-of-physical-reality/[/url])

It didn't make me miss Vince less, and it didn't make me hurt less.  But it made me feel more confident of the reality of seeing him again in my dreams.  And it also gave me more confidence in my belief that love is everlasting, and that Vince is always, and will always be with me, and Death is nothing to fear -it will be a new beginning, one which includes Vincent.


Thanks for these links, Sarah. I'll be checking the site out and doing some reading. It looks interesting!

Love,
Terry
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Fair2partlycloudy on January 16, 2013, 11:11:57 PM
I have recurring dreams....I always cry and not cry happily. As I watched the EMC drive off with my hubby being DOA, I whispered in my daughter's ear, "you will be fine"  I held her hand as she took her last breath. I feel guilty!
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on January 17, 2013, 03:31:31 PM

(((((Fair2partlycloudy)))))

I'm sorry for your losses and I look forward to reading your story when you are up to sharing.

Welcome to Webhealing.

Love,
Terry
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: SarahW on January 31, 2013, 06:10:13 PM

(((((Fair2partlycloudy)))))

I'm sorry for your losses and I look forward to reading your story when you are up to sharing.

Welcome to Webhealing.

Love,
Terry

Ditto.  I lost a husband and a child also, though it was years apart.  I am so sorry to hear of your losses.  Know we are here.
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: SarahW on January 31, 2013, 06:20:53 PM
Years ago, I lost a very good friend, who was living many miles away from me.  Though she was so far away, she was a very real, daily presence in my life, as we constantly exchanged silly and serious messages throughout most days - and I didn't realize how much it meant to me, how much it helped me through my days, until I suddenly lost her.

Her death was sudden and unexpected, and involved several of us (her family and friends) begging (long distance) her local police to please break down her door and check on her, because no one had been able to get a hold of her for two days (over a weekend), very unlike her.  They finally did it, and found her dead of a heart attack, in her home.

I cried my eyes out that night in bed, cried till my eyes were puffy red slits.  As I lay there, I suddenly felt a sort of peace; like the tension just drained out of me, then I felt this tingling all over my body, like when a chill passes over you, only it was widespread and lasted longer than usual.  Suddenly, I was sure that was my friend, making contact, letting me know all was well.

After Vince died, I've had many similar experiences, sometimes at the oddest moments, anywhere and anytime, but usually when I'm getting anxious and need reassurance.  It makes me smile, and I feel a sudden pang of joy and I just KNOW it is him.

I've never told anyone about it because I feel sure no one would truly understand or believe . . . except you folks.
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on February 18, 2013, 01:54:31 PM

I do understand, Sarah as I, too have had many such moments. And, it's in these moments where my greatest peace is found.

Thank You for sharing this with us and for all of your feelings shared. I love reading your posts! :icon_flower:

Love,
Terry
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Stephen1983 on October 18, 2013, 07:19:28 PM
I wish I'd get a sign.  I keep waiting.  Lot's of people have experienced these "feelings" or dreams but I haven't.  I do dream of my son, but he's always little in my dream, or in the background and he doesn't know he's dead.  I appreciate all the support here.
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Sally1950 on April 04, 2014, 09:15:08 AM
I used to dream about my kids all the time, but after my daughter died the dreams stopped. I pray, I meditate, I stay open and ask her to send me a sign, but nothing. 7 years after her death I started dreaming about my other child again, so I hope maybe I will dream about my daughter soon. I have no grave to visit. her husband had her cremated and kept the ashes, so sometimes I go to a cancer awareness garden in a local park and talk to her there. she used to call me everyday, no matter where she lived. just a short call usually. I miss that communication.
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: LisaH on October 02, 2014, 07:26:48 AM
Hi, I'm new to this group. I had many signs from James, my 10 year old who died of Adrenal Cancer 3/23/13 the first year. They are so precious to me. I very rarely remember my dreams - but have had two with James in them since he died. The most beautiful was on Christmas morning, our first Christmas without him (last year). I woke with this overwhelming all pervading feeling of absolute peace and unconditional love. I felt that he was with me and I just had this strong, indisputable feeling that he is safe, he is with us, he is with eternal God and light and all will be okay. That was a miracle to me. Thank you.
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Terry on October 02, 2014, 11:43:54 AM

Hi Lisa - I'm so sorry your precious son, James died. We have a lot of new Moms on the board but they are not posting. We all grieve differently. I lost three children and the most recent was my son of 29 years almost 12 years ago. When my first two children died there was no internet but I did belong to a group that was provided by Children's Hospital which was helpful at the time.
When my oldest and only surviving child died and I woke up one morning around 3AM feeling so lost and alone - that's when I decided to sign into the internet and search grief. Well, this site came up and it's been a life line ever since.

We're here for you when you want to share about James.

Love,
Terry

Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: ZoŽsmamma222 on December 06, 2014, 10:33:24 PM
In the week of ZoŽ's passing her brother received some messages from her one was a single photo of her floating on his Xbox screen when he came into his room and another was a hug from her in the middle of the night.  She let her Dad know she was near by continuously tumbling the clothes in the dryer once the dryer had already shut off.  For me it was a stop watch that remained on all zeros but continued to make a beeping sound, I couldn't turn it off no matter how I messed with the buttons, it would just come on and off as it wanted for about 3 days and now nothing...I carry it with me still, just in case.  Another sign was in a dream I had; I felt an energy pull my leg and I woke up as I screamed, yet I had a smile on my face and the feeling surrounding me was nothing but love and her, definitely her.  This was all in the week before her funeral and the week after, since nothing noticeable.
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Riss24 on December 07, 2014, 07:13:41 AM
Michelle,
I'm so glad to see that you've posted on this topic, the last time I checked no one had written for a long time so that kept me from sharing any of the signs I've been blessed to get from my Sadie..so I'll share soon as well! For now I just wanted to say that I think the signs you've gotten from your Zoe are just beautiful<3  After your first writing here I got online and read of the tragic shooting and about your daughter...I'm embarrassed to admit I hadn't even heard of this but that's because since my daughter died I have not turned on the news nor hardly had the tv/radio on at all. And I live not terribly far from you, I'm in North Idaho, just a couple hours from Spokane and in fact for a short time lived in Mountlake Terrace. Anyhow...she for sure was letting you know she's near and I have no doubts that she still is right beside you. She was probably that voice in your head telling you to reach out to others for support and that's what brought you here! For me, the signs I've gotten from Sadie have brought me comfort and a smile but at the same time it makes me sad because as blessed as the signs are, it's just not the same, just not as good as having her truly HERE. Right? Again, I'm so sorry. There could not possibly be a worse pain, I know... 
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: ZoŽsmamma222 on December 07, 2014, 10:04:26 AM
Riss,
Exactly the signs help but are definitely not the same.  I also find myself searching for any type of sign throughout the day even when I have a perfectly good explanation for what happened I still try to find a way to connect it to her.  An example being a store bought water bottle in my car that I refuse to move from the spot it is in, it will make cracking and popping sounds as I'm driving, in my head I say it's her letting me know she's riding along with me but I've come to realize it's the air pressure in the car from having the heat on.... I don't care though, it's still comforting to me to believe that it's her, and maybe it is? The cracking and popping usually starts when I'm crying or listening to a song she liked so...??
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: Sandra on March 17, 2015, 09:31:51 PM
I went on a walk around a dam where I'm from a long my walk back I saw this perfect set of brown owl wings it was like the body just vanished there was no sign of a struggle no signs of blood just the wings of an owl. As I stood and studied the area my son came to my mind and I said ok Dom I love you.  I felt that was a sign from my son that I'm on the right path of healing and that he is ok.
Title: Re: Signs from our Precious Children
Post by: sheilab on July 25, 2018, 07:44:29 AM
I just lost my son June 14th and the pain is so deep.  I try to understand it but I just can't.