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Crisis, Grief, and Healing => Sibling Loss => Topic started by: Jill on June 02, 2010, 12:54:46 PM

Title: Your input could benefit me too, and would be appreciated
Post by: Jill on June 02, 2010, 12:54:46 PM
Hi Everyone!

I haven't posted on this site probably for a few years (until the other day). My brother Blair was shot and killed 3-24-2002, he was 19. I planned his funeral and also had hearings to deal with. Our mom had also died in a car accident almost 5 years earlier, and I also planned her funeral with some help. I can't remember if I posted after my grandma died (1-13-2007), whose funeral I also planned. There may be some people on this board that were here when I posted, and there may not be.

I'm actually posting today because of a class that I'm taking. The other day I posted asking for some help on the child loss board. Though the more I think about it - a big part of what I'm really looking for is not specific to children. Since EVERYONE'S input and shared experiences could benefit me, and others down the road I decided to copy/paste to this to the other boards. The more input, advice, shared thoughts, suggestions, stories, etc - the more knowledge I will have to base my choices on down the road to help others going through losses similar to ours.


Please read below to see my post from the child loss board. Thanks so much!!!!





"Hi Everyone,

My name is Jill, and Iím not on here because I lost a child. I have however experience the loss of multiple family members. In the past I have posted as yursfrreal mainly on the siblings board for my brother Blair who was shot and killed when he was 19 (3-24-2002) and on the main board about my mom who died in a car accident when she was 35 (6-15-97). Another big loss for me was my grandma Ė who was like my mom  (1-13-97). I planned all 3 of their funerals. I canít relate specifically to losing a child, but I certainly understand the pain associated with loss and grief. My life was completely altered. I still miss and think about them every single day.

 This board has been a wonderful place of support for me, and I have recommended it to many people. Most recently I have recommended it to a friend who I just found out her son died a year ago in a car accident, as well as to my entire class (Iím taking Sociology 232 Death and Dying)

Another piece of information about me is that I am also a parent, losing my kids is one of my biggest fears.

I am currently in college to become a nurse and I would like to specialize in pediatrics. I have not narrowed it down more than that at this time. I do know I am interested in working in general pediatrics, NICU, and maternity. I would also like to volunteer in different areas such as orphanages and natural disasters.

Today I am on here for some advice or suggestions for a paper Iím writing for my sociology class. Because of the wonderful support this board has been to me, I thought this might be the best place to get some help with the questions I have.

I chose to write my paper on the Doís and Doníts of the nursing staff from the perspective of a parent.

I am interested in having a better understanding of what would be helpful and what would not be helpful in a hospital setting as it pertains to a nurseís duties. I think one of my challenges in nursing will be learning to separate my emotions when faced with the death of a child.

I am interested in terminal as well as sudden loss. If you have any suggestions for me, I would be very appreciative. I would be interested in any and everything you have to share.

I can imagine some people have had wonderful experiences with the nursing staff and others may have had horrible experiences. I would like to be able to learn from your experiences if you are willing to share.

I can either include your information anonymously, give you credit, or not even include it at all in my paper. I will do whatever you are comfortable with. The real point of my paper is for me to personally learn from this.

If you would like to respond to me on here this is fine, I will check back. If you would rather e-mail me personally that also works.

My e-mail is [email protected]

If you use my personal e-mail please put SOC232 in the subject so I donít lose it in my junk mail.

I appreciate you taking the time to read this Ė even if you donít respond.

Hang in there and take it one day at a time, I know the grief can be very consuming. I have been there many times myself.

Take care,

JillĒ