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Title: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: tsoley on August 23, 2009, 05:45:17 PM
8/24 at 6:05am. That is when he was born twenty three years ago. How am I going to go for the rest of my life without seeing him on his birthday? My heart is heavy today as the hours tick by and Jordan's birthday approaches. I love him so much. I miss him so much.

I have decided to have family and some close friends over for dinner and cake. I am making him a birthday cake as always. Just like last year, my husband and I had a disagreement about that. He feels as though there should not be a celebration because "Jordan is not here, he is in Heaven." I feel like I can not possibly go past that day and not celebrate his life. I absolutley refuse to not acknowledge his birthday and celebrate it. I have told people that if it makes them uncomfortable, they do not have to come, and I will not be offended. That includes my husband.


I am so sad. Thanks for listening.

Tammy
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: Dena on August 23, 2009, 06:15:44 PM
Happy Heavenly Birthday, Jordan!

((((((((Tammy)))))))))))))

Thinking of you & your handsome Jordan on his 23rd Birthday. I hope Jordan sends you a sign to let you know that he is always near. There is nothing wrong in celebrating our children's lives and remembering them on one of the most important days of our lives..

Love,
Dena, Josh's Mom
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: Adams Brokenhearted Mama on August 23, 2009, 09:10:43 PM
Tammy, I will be thinking of you and your angel Jordan on his 23rd birthday. Every day is so terribly difficult without our angels and special dates are even harder.
I'm wishing for you to have a peaceful day, one where you and your husband can understand one another's needs and that Jordan sends you both a loving sign.
Keeping you close in my heart....Happy heavenly 23rd birthday Jordan!
XO Paula
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: Terry on August 24, 2009, 05:22:12 AM
((((((Tammy)))))))

My thoughts are with you today on your baby's special day, and I hope Jordon sends you a sign to let you know he is with you.
And, I pray that you and your husband will have peaceful moments although you both have different ways of remembering Jordon.

"Happy Heavenly Birthday Jordon"

This is so hard Tammy. And, I like you make my kids favorite foods and buy them presents on their birthdays. It's what I always did and I always will. I am their Mom and it is their special day, but I do understand your husband feeling differently. There is nothing easy about this. It's the pain, Tammy.

Holding you both close today and my love to you both,
Terry

JORDON...JORDON...JORDON...JORDON...JORDON...JORDON...JORDON...JORDON...JORDON

Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: Donnys Dad on August 24, 2009, 07:55:57 AM
Tammy I know how hard these special days are.  I give you credit for continuing to celebrate Jordan's birthday.  Please be patient with your husband as well all try to handle this difficult time in different ways.  May Jordan find a way to join you at the party.


don
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: JenKellisMom on August 24, 2009, 09:42:03 AM
Happy Heavenly Birthday, Jordan!  Hope you can make it for some cake!

Thinking of you, Tammy, and wishing you blessing on this day.
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: browneyedgirl on August 24, 2009, 10:51:40 AM
Happy heavenly birthday, Jordan!
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: Luvinmike on August 24, 2009, 06:38:34 PM
Dear Tammy;
Thinking of you and your son Jordan.
Terri
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: KatEngland on August 24, 2009, 08:15:02 PM
Dear Tammy,
I am so sorry for your pain and loss. I sincerely wish that I could give you a hug and cry with you. It never ends, does it, this pain and loss? I wish you one day of peace..of complete and total peace. What a great mom you are, and he knows it.
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: Wadesmom on August 25, 2009, 05:31:51 AM
Thinking of you and your son Jordan on his 23rd Birthday.

minute to minute, moment to moment- one day at a time.

hugs,

Wadesmom
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: Jeanneb on August 25, 2009, 06:26:36 AM
Happy Heavenly Birthday Jordan!

Tammy,

My beautiful memories carry you through.

Love,
Jeanne
Philip's mom forever
Bruce's sister
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: Brenda Taylors Mom on August 25, 2009, 08:12:49 AM
((( Tammy)))) Oh yes, you have that cake for you Jordan, I do for Taylor too on his birthday. Like you said if people dont' like it, don't come.  Happy heavenly birthday Jordan sweetheart and saying JORDAN OUT LOUD right now !  Sending you my love Tammy , Brenda
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: LaVonne on August 27, 2009, 05:33:29 AM
Happy late birthday Jordon. I sure hope you had a great party and sent your mom a sign. hugs LaVonne
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: Annette on August 27, 2009, 07:41:20 PM
Happy Birthday, Jordan! Watch over your mom and dad. :-)
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: Karen Paul on August 28, 2009, 06:16:45 AM
Tammy - sorry it has taken me so long to write - your Jordan would be the same age as my nephew Chris - who would also be turning 23 this year (Dec. 1).. if he were still here..

I'm sending up very belated Happy Heavenly Birthday to Jordan.. I hope you felt him close by you on his very special day..

luv and hugs, Karen
Chris' aunt

(http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y47/crispy16/bdayboy.jpg)
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: tsoley on September 01, 2009, 06:57:53 PM
Thank you all. His birthday celebration was very nice. We had many friends and family over which helped me a great deal. I felt terrible that it did not help my husband though. I am selfish. My Jordan is now 23!
Title: Re: Jordan's 23rd Birthday
Post by: Barbara on September 01, 2009, 07:57:56 PM
Tammy,
  Sorry I am late, but my I am sending prayers and strength your way.....The day to day grief is so hard to endure but these mile marker days are harder on our hearts.
                     Barbara (Patrick's mom)
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