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Title: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 09, 2009, 09:04:24 PM
I thought we could list all the productive things we did today. This can be an ongoing list if you want. I was thinking maybe it's good to acknowledge the positive steps we're trying to make. Even if they seem like small things, doing something small is better than nothing.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 09, 2009, 09:05:16 PM
* I unpacked a couple boxes. This sounds simple but it took all my energy to do it.

* I tried to get all the knots out of my hair. This might sound crazy but I've been in a depression since my Mom's death so I haven't been combing the knots out of my hair. I wash it, I just don't detangle. I tried doing that tonight. I have waist long hair so it was a chore!

* Did some banking things I was not looking forward to. I'm glad my Mom's name is still on all the accounts.

* Took a long drive and did deep breathing techniques.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: teppuM999 on August 09, 2009, 10:04:20 PM
i untangled my hair a little bit, too.

cooked mushrooms for dinner.

Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Carlina on August 10, 2009, 05:08:34 AM
My daily accomplishments for Sunday:
finished painting the new grandchild's bedroom (son family lives with me since Mark's death)
washed  and folded some baby clothes
fixed dinner
worked crocheting a baby blanket
starting to work on the new school year project list

Since the baby is due in three weeks (due date is Mark's birthday) I have been helping to get ready for the baby. Gives me a purpose each day.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MISSINGYOU on August 10, 2009, 06:31:14 AM
You know, I think this is important to do. Thank you. Since I really haven't started today, I will talk about yesterday (Sunday).
1) got vacum cleaner bag out opened it and looked for the earrings I sucked up in it. I only found one. bummer. Mom and Dad gave them to me.
2) took shower number two. I was so dirty from the expedition
3) entertained children including the neighbors boy.
4) Got a DS and working on Indianna Jones game. Level two is driving me nuts.
5) worked on Dads scrapbook for myself.
6) made dinner
7) bathed one child
8) went to bed.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: kevinjj on August 10, 2009, 09:26:14 AM
Sun - went out to breakfast read the paper
did some shopping
went to the bookstore had a good conversation with a person
called my girlfriend
talked to my step son
did some light cleaning in the house
looked at maybe getting a new lawn mower

in looking back early on its really something compared to sitting and crying all the time barely able to move but I wish I could feel more whole and complete
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Theophila22 on August 10, 2009, 10:04:01 AM
This is such a good idea, I looked in earlier and had nothing to say , however it stayed in my mind,

Today's achievements ,
three day's of cups and plates washed up,
and a load in the washing machine now running.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 10, 2009, 01:55:55 PM
* Made my stepdad an extra special breakfast.

* Went back to bed for only 2 hours this morning instead of my normal 4-plus.

* Went to the grocery store.

* Went to the pharmacy for my stepdad.

* Bundled their phone plan and internet service to save money.

* Sat in church for a few minutes.

Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: teppuM999 on August 10, 2009, 02:09:07 PM
* checked on my boyfriend's aunt's dog

* spent some time in my boyfriend's and my garden

* sorted overdue laundry
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MISSINGYOU on August 10, 2009, 04:31:46 PM
Today
found people on chat and loved the conversation we had
one load of laundry, I hate laundry
dishes
scrap book
filled the wadding pool and got in with the kids
cleaned the bathroom
Mom came to have dinner then went home.
Made dinner
took care of kids.

Its a good day.

Elizabeth
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: georgiapeaches on August 10, 2009, 04:44:18 PM
When my husband died I wanted to make sure I didnt fall into a depression and get back into a bad habit that I had, I have panic disorder and its very easy for me to slip. So I make sure I try to do something very productive each day. Getting out of bed and getting the mail with my fingers crossed was a very big chore for me in the beginning because all the bills were rolling in and usually meant I couldnt pay something, but then it started to all come together, that was a big accomplishment.

I think a bigger accomplishment for me was to go down to the city for my mother when I got the call that she was dying. Its a 4 hour drive, a drive I have NEVER done without my husband by my side. But my mother was waiting, waiting for me. and she did, one hour later she passed, and although is was a great acclomplishment for me, my mother was gone, it was bittersweet. But she knew I made it and she let go and went to be with my father.

So now when I get up in the morning, I really dont rush to do much, the day takes on itself. believe me LOL.  ;)

georgia.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: littleha on August 10, 2009, 04:44:59 PM
This can end up being an interesting thread.
 Today I went to work, came home, thought of supper for mum in law and me, made supper, enjoyed supper and now on WH. Weekends are more busy as I do all of the housework.
As I said this can end up being a very interesting and enjoyable thread.
Allan
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: georgiapeaches on August 10, 2009, 04:51:46 PM
ok then I did a late spring cleaning this past weekend and tonight I cleaned my barby, burnt it to much, adds taste though.

georgia  8)
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: teppuM999 on August 10, 2009, 05:00:06 PM
chat sounds like fun

think we're going to order out for dinner. that sounds nice.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: 1wabbit1 on August 10, 2009, 08:18:35 PM
This is such a great idea.

Monday

- I went to work at 8. Had a pretty decent morning, started going downhill after lunch, went home an hour early. I survived!!

-  Came home, ate an early dinner sitting on the sofa watching TV. Promptly fell asleep sitting.

- Woke an hour later, permanently bent at the shoulder, will never walk the same :-)

- Had a visit from my dad, gave him a lecture. He went home and I called my mom (they don't live together but spend several hours together every day).

- Mom and I talked about our plans for a trip in early September. I can hardly wait, but am so anxious at the same time. Our destination is a place both Fred and I loved.

- Now I'm winding down in preparation for bed. I hope I get to sleep early.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: kevinjj on August 11, 2009, 02:28:26 PM
had a productive day at work
ate a real nutricious dinner
actually talked in chat briefly with seven
expecting a call from an old buddy tonight, aint talked to him  in years
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: sevenofwands on August 11, 2009, 03:53:31 PM
Hello Kevin:

Well, I don't know what to say about my day.  It was hectic, and I am bushed now, coming up to mid-night here.

All the best
Seven
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Donna B. on August 11, 2009, 04:42:52 PM
Hi all, my day the usual treadmill, shower, and going out. Whether to the mall, the library, just out. This afternoon went into a chatroom which occupies my mind for a while, than went out to dinner. Just have to stay busy. I hope everyone is doing okay(as well as you can). The panic attacks are getting somewhat better, because I have found staying busy is the key. My love to you all. Donna
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 11, 2009, 09:50:13 PM
* Attended my 2nd "grief share" group even though I REALLY didn't want to go.

* Put on make-up and curled my hair for the first time in 3 weeks.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: missumom on August 11, 2009, 10:55:24 PM
I am so glad to have stumbled upon this thread.
What a great idea.  It is amazing how hard the littlest things can be when you are drowning in depression.

I notice I feel so much better when I get out of the house and do something with my son (almost 15 months old now), so today we went to the library and went and played at the park for a while.

When I got home I felt so good.  Instead of napping my day away I actually went out and did something!

The euphoria of feeling so good about getting out of the house gave me the energy to wash my bedding, remake my bed, vacuum my room, and clean out the cat's litter box.

The past month or so has been very bad.  I have been experiencing a bad downswing in my depression and have taken to hiding in my room, eating, and napping (whenever I am not taking care of my son).  My son naps a lot and I was napping right along with him every day.  I have been sleeping my life away, hiding from the world, shutting everyone out.  I have been in a bad place.

It felt really good to get out and see the light today.
Definitely an accomplishment!

Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: 1wabbit1 on August 11, 2009, 11:51:09 PM
Not as good a day today as yesterday, but there are a couple of good things. Tuesday.

- I made it to work and actually got things done. The pile on my desk has gotten smaller.

- I went to Walmart and got a couple of things I needed. Couldn't stay long but I made it through (cried some though)

That's it for today.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Theophila22 on August 12, 2009, 12:01:40 AM
It is so good and encouraging to read of all your daily achievements,
I made an appointment to see my GP this afternoon.
Finding it impossible to go to work , since I returned from helping my mother;
Maybe he will give me something which will allow me to keep it together enough to face work next week.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MISSINGYOU on August 12, 2009, 05:09:47 AM
Tuesday
played witht he kids did art projects
took them to the library
went to the store and bought food

woke hubby up and had him help put food away...SURPRISE, he didn't have to go to work and asked if I wanted to celebrate our anniversery. I said "thats tomorrow." "No hon its today." I was a day behind. We went to dinner and got a sitter for the kids. first time in a year or more. ;D ;D ;D :) :)

Came home and slept....finally!
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: cokieslittlegirl on August 12, 2009, 06:24:42 AM
Yesterday was 6 mos mark of losing my Dad. I try not to concentrate too much on the time passing...but I kept seeing it Aug 11, Aug 11, flashback...Feb 11, FEB 11! I did not let myself spiral down...I kept going.
Went to work - 10 hours.
Came home collapsed to sleep.

Today I will go to work and I will try to stay even tempered.
I will do the cat litter
I will make dinner for hubby.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: georgiapeaches on August 12, 2009, 09:31:39 AM
This is a woderful thread, I really have to sit and write down the things I do, but for the meantime, I hope everyone is doing as good as you can, and my prayers are with everyone, as always my candles are lit for us all, there has been a death here at school, (one of the teachers father) so I need to run out and get a card, and be around, so just wanted to stop in and say "hi"and wishing you all a "great day".

Georgia.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: kevinjj on August 12, 2009, 09:39:45 AM
This sure is a wonderful thread, Georgia that SoCal came up with.
I had a good breakfast
made it to work safely
helped one person with some college stuff he was working on

I remember the nightmare of returning to work after my wife died, that first day was its own brand of hell -
it is real helpful to simply post a few things that are positive and life affirming here - I do have some good things in my life that I need to appreciate more
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 12, 2009, 10:37:00 AM
Today is my birthday so I was hoping I would be strong and do things my Mom would want me to do to celebrate. I thought I'd treat myself to a gift, go to lunch with my stepdad, get my hair cut. Stuff like that. But then I woke up after having some vivid dreams. It's the first time I've remembered any dreams. In one dream, my Mom wasn't feeling well and I was trying to tell her she would be fine. I woke up with a very heavy heart. I have been crying all morning. I feel miserable. I'm hoping I can at least do one thing that my Mom would want me to do today but it's very hard.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: georgiapeaches on August 12, 2009, 04:24:27 PM
Happy Birthday Socal, sorry your feeling low, I know my birthday doesnt do anything to excite me anymore, but I bet your mom is smiling down at you, because I'm sure your birthday always meant alot to her, so I'm sure theres not much you need to do to make your mom proud, I'm sure she already is.

Georgia.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 12, 2009, 09:22:39 PM
Thank you Georgia. :)
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MISSINGYOU on August 13, 2009, 05:17:57 AM
8-12


did dishes

played with kids

helped the kid mowing my lawn mow my lawn. He broke the lawn mower.

Read 6 chapters in a book

took lunch to the hubby since he worked day shift...

Met the ER Doc

made dinner

ate late with hubby when he got home.

took shower went to bed.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Luvinmike on August 13, 2009, 05:27:03 AM
Socal I like Georgia's post about your birthday, I bet it was your Mom's favorite day!
Let's see yesterday:
Went to the beach and hung out with five kids who are in my life
Made lunch for everyone at beach
Drove home two hours after changing in a dunkin donuts bathroom
Thought how funny my husband would have found this whole trip to the beach
I got home at 8pm went grocery shopping and actually put the food away- which is an accomplishment, thanks socal.
Take care, terri
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: 1wabbit1 on August 13, 2009, 07:04:59 AM
Wednesday

- Woke up feeling really tired, but got over it quickly.

- Had a pretty productive morning at work

- Went for lunch with my daughter's mother-in-law (bossy, opinionated woman that she is). I got angry with her but held it in a remained civil. I need to remind myself never to do that again. :-)

- afternoon went quickly, got tons done. I'm almost caught up on the 3 weeks I missed.

- a friend came for dinner, so made a nice dinner and was happy to have someone appreciate it with me. We ate picnic style in Fred's room. Ate on paper plates with plastic utensils. No dishes!!

- after my friend left, I got a phone call from another, then my mother.

- had trouble getting to sleep, but didn't cry, didn't feel sorry for myself. I didn't cry once all day.

This was the best day I've had so far since Fred died. I feel good about it and yet somehow guilty.
We're amazingly complex creatures, aren't we?

Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: teppuM999 on August 13, 2009, 08:36:32 AM
yesterday
finished a choreography
cut out patterns for a friend (still have 5 to go)
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: 1wabbit1 on August 14, 2009, 06:22:34 AM
Thursday

- Again woke up tired ( I've got to get more sleep)

- the day passed without incident, I didn't cry, not even once. Didn't even feel sad. Didn't get as much work done as the day before. but that's ok.

- came home, warmed up left overs, cleaned up, and had a bath. All before 7 PM. I took a Nytol and was asleep just after 9.

- woke up several times during the night, had dreams that I can't remember

Maybe I'm moving into my new normal?

Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 14, 2009, 01:34:47 PM
* Did one load of laundry.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 14, 2009, 01:35:20 PM
Socal I like Georgia's post about your birthday, I bet it was your Mom's favorite day!

Thank you Terri :)
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: 1wabbit1 on August 14, 2009, 04:51:07 PM
SoCal, I'm sorry, I didn't wish you a happy birthday. So, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, belated. This world is a better place because you were born. Don't you ever doubt that.

Let's see, what good happened today??????

- I woke up after 8 1/2 hours of sleep. That's the most I've had in ages and ages. I was tired initially but that passed in no time.

- I got tons done at work. I'm completely caught up on the work I missed while away for 3 weeks.

- My assistant was away sick today, and I was so glad. Sometimes she aggravates me. It was nice and quiet.

- The day isn't over yet, I'm  hoping to do something worthwhile before I go to bed.

- I'm amazed how I've bounced back. Not completely bounced back, but more than I thought I would. It was almost an overnight thing. One day I was crying all day, the next I was a contributing member of society.

- I didn't pull anyone down into the pits today... not one person.

I hope everyone has something good to say today. Next!

Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: georgiapeaches on August 14, 2009, 07:53:19 PM
well lets see today started out going to work but got hit with a stomach bug, was working really hard, so went home and slept alittle.
got up and felt better and got a surpirse visit from my little noah (boy I babysit since birth) hes 4 now, not so little anymore,
watched spongebob, after spongebob
dropped my kids off at a party/bonfire
watch spongebob
laugh and played with this most loveable little boy who is the light of my life and who my husband loved more than anything.
now we are up late (dont tell mommy) eating cheesy fishes and of course watching spongebob woohoo thats should be it for today
tommorrow-school shopping -that should be interesting.

georgia.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: teppuM999 on August 14, 2009, 09:06:58 PM
today i met my first belly dance "video mentor," rania androniki bossonis of the belly dance superstars
she's amazing

Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 14, 2009, 11:19:42 PM
SoCal, I'm sorry, I didn't wish you a happy birthday. So, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, belated. This world is a better place because you were born. Don't you ever doubt that.

That's sweet of you, thanks :)
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MISSINGYOU on August 15, 2009, 04:18:39 PM
FIRST HAPPY BIRTHDAY SOCAL!!!!!!!!!!

NOW


had yardsale all weekend with a good friend. made good money

Mom came to watch kids and visit....had a great time. funny lady for a mother I have/

watched kids.

ordered pizza
watched the idiot box and going to bed.

Elizabeth
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: kevinjj on August 15, 2009, 04:30:36 PM
I had 2 delicious pancakes for breakfast.

I really took it easy today and loafed for the most part.

Made arrangements for my storage shed to get painted and my driveway sealed

watched a couple of good movies on tv and got a couple of  calls.

Im grateful for the day.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 15, 2009, 04:32:55 PM
Thank you Elizabeth :)


Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 15, 2009, 04:33:16 PM
* Made a pretty elaborate dinner tonight.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: georgiapeaches on August 15, 2009, 05:47:46 PM
got woken up real early from a cute little boy today, ate fishies with him (and coffee)
then went school shopping , can you believe it?
bought some mums, the only flowers I can keep alive, put groceries away and have been puttering around doing little things, now I have to drop off my son for a game of manhunt, then try to keep my eyes open to pick him up later, enjoy  :D

georgia.

p.s. how was your dinner?
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: teppuM999 on August 16, 2009, 02:58:27 PM
yesterday:

got up early and took a shower, went to a workshop taught by rania bossonis
actually had alot of fun
then danced at a hafla -- she told me that i'm a beautiful dancer and she thought one of my particular moves was really cool

that means alot, really

i felt like matthew was with me yesterday. yesterday was actually an okay day
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: georgiapeaches on August 16, 2009, 04:32:48 PM
Today got up and just wanted to go back to bed all day.
cleaned up alittle, did laundry, almost threw this computer out the window  :'(
read alittle, to hot to do to much today, sitting outside with the neihbors which I dont
usually do but the woman next door is in a crisis and is pretty upset, so I am sitting with her
for alittle support.
Tommorrow-work  >:( fun,fun,fun.

georgia,

have a great nite, guys.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: tsurandy on August 16, 2009, 09:43:11 PM
Great Idea!  Today I went through 3 boxes of Mama's "stuff", it was very emotional because it was perfume and old wallets, things with her handwriting.  I am glad I did it, I had put if off long enough, now to get through the rest of the boxes that I moved to our new home after she passed.  Sad, but I felt close to her.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: teppuM999 on August 16, 2009, 10:14:04 PM
today: talked to matthew's brother and his friend

went outside more than i have the past two months

watched alot of TV (one thing about post-workshop soreness, the physical hurt somewhat distracts from the emotional one)

tomorrow, planning to help matthew's brother start cleanup of the housefire
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 17, 2009, 05:41:26 PM
p.s. how was your dinner?

I didn't eat it :)

I only cook for my stepdad. I usually just snack.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 17, 2009, 05:43:59 PM
* Went to an art class. After the class was done, I decided not to take it since I thought it was from 11:00 to 11:50 Mon and Wed. It turns out it was 11:00 until 1:20 Mon and Wed. So I'm skipping it. Plus the teacher was annoying too and all the students were probably 19 and 20. I need to be around people my age. So I have to search again.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Jap Jr on August 18, 2009, 08:00:39 AM
yesterday
had breakfast at hotel before leaving for airport; flew back
took son's girfriend to her parents
got home about 8:15 pm and was happily greeted by my dog; my neice stayed at my house while I was gone
kind of unpacked, but not really
got on line for a few minutes
was hungry as didn't eat since breakfast; made a "box-micro" rice meal, then had ice-cream; not a good idea at 10:30 pm
fell asleep on downstairs couch until 2:30 am

today
could not get back to sleep; last look at clock was 5:30; arlam went off at 6:30
made it to work at 8:00 on time! but very tired!
so many thoughts running through my head - especially about Jim
suitcases are still in the kitchen on the table and one on the floor - just got the essentials out I needed - will still be there later, no one else to put them away!
have a greif session tonight at 5:30; have a feeling I will be very tired

georgia; that is so nice of you ......... helps to put the focus on someone else for a moment or two ........
(sitting outside with the neihbors which I dont usually do but the woman next door is in a crisis and is pretty upset, so I am sitting with her  for alittle support)

it's 10 am here; will see how the rest of the day developes - lots to catch up on at work; been gone since the 7th and just back today; notes and files everywhere!!

Kay

Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: georgiapeaches on August 19, 2009, 02:35:13 PM
Got up @ 430 and got ready for work
went to my usual coffee shop and this poor little cat
someone must have just dumped her there, shes so sweet and in heat,
I did the worst thing, I fed her  :-\  I know I shouldnt have , but I felt so bad, now I have to
find her a home, not mine either  :o
work work work
now here I am, what a life huh?

socal-you need to eat   :-[ no more snacking
you need to keep up your strenght  ;)

georgia.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 19, 2009, 03:24:33 PM
* Went to the bank.

* Did dishes that were piled up.




(Thanks, Georgia, I will try. I get nausous lately when I eat.)
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MISSINGYOU on August 19, 2009, 05:16:10 PM
Been busy hubby has FINALLY TAKEN VACATION.

 Took a day trip to Lillydale with just hubby yesterday

spent the day with girls and hubby at the museum of play all day.

paid the bills the other day

I am not going to write much this week so I will try to read as much as I can. Time with the family is important

Elizabeth
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 21, 2009, 03:45:54 PM
* Got out of bed.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: georgiapeaches on August 21, 2009, 04:18:34 PM
Socal,

sending you ((((hugs)))) I do hope you are ok.

TGIF
long hot week
very long hot tiring work week getting school ready for
staff and kids, so I am beat, my birds are downstairs whistling their
little hearts out trying to get my attention, so cute  ;)
have a great weekend everyone.

georgia.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MISSINGYOU on August 21, 2009, 10:11:18 PM
Lets see, today we did....nothing. I did laundry, steve rested his hip as he injured it and has been seeing a chiropractor, the kids slept in and played. We went to dinner then bed.

yesterday we hit another museum. Spent all day there learning and playing. Been so long since I have been to any museum, I did realize they were using holograms. Fredrick Douglas surprised me poping up like he did. Man Im getting old.  ;D

Im getting nervous. Vacation is almost over and steve will return to work and Ill be left to my thoughts again. I hope I have a new prespective on things when we are done. Im having fun. Yes I said it, I am having FUN. I don't want to go back to the "normal". Wish we were independently wealthy sometimes. :)

Elizabeth
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 22, 2009, 01:57:19 PM
Thank you Georgia, you're so sweet. I just figured out this ((( )))) means hugs. :D


* I'm making Italian sausages with potatoes, green peppers and onions. It smells so good.
Title: about accomplishments
Post by: Juanita on August 22, 2009, 05:06:23 PM
I was supposed to have some fasting lab work done, so got up and dressed. About half way into town I realized that I ate a piece of toast, so coulnd't do the blood work.  I am not a Seventh Day Adventist, but they were having church this morning, so I went in.  It was very quiet and slow, but it gave me something to do for  an hour and a half.  I did get one confirmation though.  I had been thinking for several days about the Children of Israel in the Bible and how when they were wandering in the desert, God gave them manna one day at a time to sustain them.  I had decided that all I should expect from God would be one day at a time "manna" to sustain me through my sorrow.  As it turned out, at the church they did a little story for the small children, and it was about how God sustained the children of Israel one day at a time with manna from heaven.  I felt that God had renewed His promise to take care of me one day at a time.  I praise Him for that.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: kevinjj on August 22, 2009, 05:37:45 PM
I took the day off not intending to accomplish anything other than needing to do a load of laundry. I went to the bookstore, took my girlfriend out to lunch, later went to a coffee shop, watched a good movie on the tv and am watching some football, sent a few emails.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: sevenofwands on August 23, 2009, 07:01:27 AM
Yesterday cut the grass in front and back garden; pruned a number of bushes; shopped for necessary stuff for week-end; got appointment list in order; then travelled to friend's new house, who had asked me to advise her on interior decor ideas; that took up several hours, between driving and discussing things; galloped home, (stopping to do lotto! lol); caught up on emails; talked to friend who had leg operation; did few chores; got dinner; ironed a few of my dresses; read for a little while;
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: teppuM999 on August 23, 2009, 08:00:08 AM
need to go water the garden

made sketches for last bdance costume/choreography for the year

worked on solo for show this month
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: tsurandy on August 29, 2009, 01:47:24 AM
I have been very lazy of late.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: teppuM999 on August 29, 2009, 07:00:15 AM
tonight is a show.
i'm glad there won't be any more after october.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 29, 2009, 11:47:04 AM
* Went to post office to mail package.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MISSINGYOU on August 30, 2009, 06:35:30 AM
Life is back to the new normal...it is ok. I try to adopt Dads attitude of the glass is half full;. It take practice.

yesterday

laundry I do 30 loads a week.
pulled out two small pine trees by myself.

took care of the kids
picked up the house.

Elizabeth
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 30, 2009, 10:37:32 AM
* Bought stuff to make pot roast.

* Folded laundry. It's time for me to be more productive and get some stuff DONE around this house!
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: sevenofwands on August 30, 2009, 03:16:44 PM
Today I visited my husband in hospital (two hours driving to get there and two back, and three hours spent at the hospital). 
A degree of organisation is required to do all that, and it is important to look and talk upbeat and cheery when you get there.

A number of my good (long-time) friends called me after I got home, and my cousin, to offer some kind words, and to ask how I am doing.
And no, I did not snap their heads off when they also spoke about a couple of other topics with me. 

By the way, good old friends are a "two-way" thing.  One has to be a friend oneself, in order to have a friend.  The thick and thin sort of friends, I mean.

Best to all
Seven
 




Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on August 31, 2009, 02:21:42 PM
* Finally was able to look at the death certificate so I could mail a copy to her cancel her health insurance. I was afraid to look at it because on another board there were so many people who said the cause of death was different than what they were told in the hospital, so they were very upset for various reasons. I guess I was nervous that would happen on my Mom's certificate, but it didn't. There were no surprises. 

* Took care of about 4 paperwork-related things I've been procrastinating on.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MISSINGYOU on September 03, 2009, 05:08:47 AM
yesterday
went to hardware store painted or started to paint one of my outside chairs
took care of kids....always
picked up house...sort of
laundry laundry laundry
Went to the er as my youngest accidentally scratched the cornia in my eye. Boy this hurts.
Elizabeth
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MISSINGYOU on September 03, 2009, 01:41:23 PM

Today got a new stove delivered.
kids
restored a metal chair.
nursed my right eye as my oungest scratched the cornia last night and I ended up in er.
Elizabeth
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Luvinmike on September 04, 2009, 05:49:36 AM
(((Elizabeth))))
Hope you are doing okay... I also hope you can take it as easy as possible while it heals- you never expect your kids will physically hurt you- then they do it. i feel for you. Sending you patience and care. Terri
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MISSINGYOU on September 05, 2009, 07:12:13 AM
Thank you Terri
The eye is getting better and I don't think I lost eyesight which is good. I have been on 3 types of meds for it and its always blurry. I might follow up with eye doc next week just in case. eyes usually heal well and fast so I think Ill be fine. Abigail felt so badly, all I got were magic kisses on my eye for two days. God Ilove my kids. How are you? healing I hope.
Today I am having lunch with my Aunt
having special time with Abigail as Laura is off to the theme park
doing laundry....yet

Elizabeth
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on September 07, 2009, 03:59:44 PM
* Deep-cleaned kitchen

* Paid bills


Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MISSINGYOU on September 08, 2009, 10:17:06 AM
MY YOUNGEST WENT TO PRESCHOOL TODAY. Oh My God...I teared up but my husband is depressed. He said "the kids are growing up so fast, Im getting older faster..." well, no more babies in the house. bitter sweet. Tomorrow will be the first time in 7 years that I have had time to myself as my oldest starts school tomorrow and both will be gone. Abigail for 2.5 hours and Laura for 6. Part of me is doing the happy dance, the other is a little nervouse about it all. Not for them, for me.

I cleaned Lauras room....again. took out some winter boots and cloths for the girls and did dishes.

Elizabeth
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Luvinmike on September 08, 2009, 06:23:57 PM
Congrats Elizabeth, it will come to be a lot of fun I bet. After you get used to yourself again. It is starting to be more comfortable for me to be alone- for different reasons, but able to choose what to do. I hope your kids have good first days! Terri

Let's see today I did a little bit of work and then went grocery shopping. Nothing really interesting going on here.
Terri
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: tsurandy on September 08, 2009, 08:11:43 PM
I worked and spent time with my dogs.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: georgiapeaches on September 09, 2009, 09:17:34 AM
Congrats Elizabeth! it is something to get used to, I'm here at school working and all the new little kids are here for their first day and they are so precious! I forgot how little my kids once were. so so cute. well, back to work!

georgia.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Carlina on September 09, 2009, 05:28:27 PM
I went back to my classroom at school and have a class of 8 mostly with ADS and Cognitively Impairments. Of the 8 students, most are boys. It will be an interesting year.
I also went to the hospital to welcome the newest member of the family, my grandson Ronin, who was born today. Ronin is my oldest son Jeremy first son. He also has two older girls. Life does go on even though there is a death to grieve. My husband would have been very proud of the little guy.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MISSINGYOU on September 10, 2009, 07:19:57 AM
Terri I truely hope you are doing somewhat better. My littliest loves school. My biggest had a hard day with an old bully. I talked to the teacher, she is aware that she has "the bully" in her class and will watch Laura more. Growing up is hard.
Georgia so happy you are working with kids. you must be wonderful with them. I am sure of it.
Carolina I give you a lot of credit. I have done that type of work before and although I loved it I don't miss the challenge and the heart break. I took on a different type of disability, mental health.

Steve and I have had two breakfast dates in a row ;D :D :) forgot what that was like. My eggs were actually hot when I ate them. We have decided to walk on the mornings that he can and lose some weight. One loss I wouldn't mind.  ::)

Have a wonderful day everyone. I have to put laundry away, wash more, vacum the house and dishes. I also have to pick up my little peanut. Half day for now.

Elizabeth
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: georgiapeaches on September 10, 2009, 09:33:06 AM
Carlina, Congrats! on your new grandson!

Elizabeth-my mother used to call my youngest daughter, peanut, how precious.

georgia.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: littleha on September 10, 2009, 06:20:01 PM
If Cathy is watching over me she would have had a big smile on her face today. I never did enjoy gardening but the wife loved it and tended her gardens regularly. This yr I planted tomatoes and am now enjoying them. Today I weeded some nasty weeds from the front of the house in a small garden around a tree. I also put down extra mulch around the hedges.  Gardening was never something that I enjoyed but for some reason it is growing on me. To me this is a big accomplishment and I hope it continues to grow on me.
Allan
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: georgiapeaches on September 11, 2009, 09:22:34 AM
Its amazing the little things we had to accomplish now that our loved ones are gone, I was faced with so many obsticles I never would have thought I could tackle. Great Job Allan! I wish I had a green thumb.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on September 13, 2009, 01:17:26 PM
I've also decided to start gardening a little bit. It costs $150 to have a gardner come over and all he does is go crazy with the weed wacker, he doesn't even pull them out from the roots. So I'm thinking about trying it myself.

So for today:

* Made a pot roast. My Mom completely spoiled my stepdad and now he doesn't seem to eat unless everything is homemade. I'm getting tired of cooking! This is why I don't have my own family. I'm not a domestic person. But I will try my best to keep doing this for a while. At some point, I will need my own life back though. When that time comes I will get a bigger place so my stepdad can move with me. I will get a job again and have my somewhat normal life. For now, we will stay here. We're both healing so it's better to keep things as they are for a while. But damn, cooking and cleaning all day feels pointless! :P
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: sevenofwands on September 13, 2009, 02:15:56 PM
SoCal:

I so understand you.  I am not a domestic person either.  Really dislike housework, and feel it is pointless.  Finish and start all over again LOL.  My mother used to say "housework is soul-destroying".  But, she became a great cook and pastry maker, even though when she got married she pretty much did not know how to boil and egg. L.
Like my mother, I married in my mid-thirties, and was not a domesticated creature, by any means. 
My idea of bliss would be (need to win the lotto!) is to have a cook and a live-in domestic. 

Best wishes
Seven
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: georgiapeaches on September 14, 2009, 09:50:00 AM
wouldnt that be lovely!  8)
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: pepper309 on September 14, 2009, 12:54:32 PM
I will list yesterday's accomplishments since today isn't over yet.
1)  let myself sleep in, I love doing that since I never get to
2)  took the dogs for a walk
3)  took a shower and got dressed
4)  drove to a local farmers market w/ my daughter
5)  went out to lunch w/ my daughter 
6)  gave two massages (I am a massage therapist) to my a couple that my mom knows
7)  went home
8)  took another shower
9)  read part of my book
10)  went to bed early

Keeping busy is a good thing  :)
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: SoCal2010 on September 20, 2009, 10:26:55 PM
* Cooked 3 meals

* Organized pantry

* Did bills

* Went grocery shopping
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Luvinmike on September 28, 2009, 04:45:28 PM
Wow everyone else seems to get a lot done.
I went to work today- actually did some real work too!

One load of laundry, no, not folded.
Made spaghetti sauce this morning and left it in crock pot.
took my dog for a run!
Have a peaceful night.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MISSINGYOU on September 30, 2009, 04:13:17 AM
I AM FOR THAT LIVE-IIN COK AND MAID GIG! two kids two dogs and a small home in town doesn't cut it. I do 30 loads of laundry a week average and every thing else since hubby works nights. dull dull dull.
yesterday I thought about Kevin, worked on my "Dad scrap book" cried a lot yesterday. Must be hunting season is setting off feelings again. I miss him. Took the little one to the Dr. for her check up. Perfect health :), picked up big kid and helped her with her home work. cooked :P went to bed early.

Hope everyone is well. Computer was down and got fixed (sort of) it is crashing again. Mom is right, never get old. goes for computers too.

elizabeth
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Terry on August 14, 2013, 07:19:15 PM
I thought we could list all the productive things we did today. This can be an ongoing list if you want. I was thinking maybe it's good to acknowledge the positive steps we're trying to make. Even if they seem like small things, doing something small is better than nothing.

SoCal2010 from the Main Board started this thread some years back. I have re-posted it so that others can read the many responses and should you want to contribute, feel free. I always liked this thread.

Every night after dinner when me and my sister were little, we would go around the table and all share what we did that day. My Mom and Dad started this when we were very young and both me and my sister have continued it through the years. Even when it was REALLY hard to think of some minor accomplishment throughout the day....we always seemed to come up with at least one. And, it saw us through some pretty rough times. :icon_flower:
_____________________________________________________________________

Today: I completed and checked off 7 out of 10 To-Do's that were on my list for this week and that I've been putting off, for one reason or another. One was chatting with my cable company for over an hour to find out when my new modem is coming as my internet has been going in and out. It felt good to accomplish that!  :icon_cheers:

Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Terry on August 27, 2013, 08:36:30 AM

Today is the first day it has not poured. So, I got outside in the sunshine and weeded in my babies's gardens. Something I've wanted to do for a long time.

It felt good! :icon_flower:
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Terry on August 29, 2013, 03:33:37 PM

Another beautiful sunshiny day! Ran some errands in the morning and the afternoon took me to a place I've been avoiding; to my loft, and a large storage box containing some of my older stories, written many years ago. Just opening that box was an accomplishment for me. A lot of memories. A lot of feelings. I'll let them take me to where I need to go...... :icon_rolleyes:
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Terry on August 30, 2013, 02:15:52 PM

Today I spent some time at my office, getting ready for the holiday season which seems to be right around the corner when September rolls around. Brainstorming with the volunteers proved productive and all went well. A good day!

I thought a lot about Kevin today. It's his angel date. And, the timeless contributions he made to the members of these boards. What a beautiful person he was.


Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: MyLou on September 01, 2013, 11:08:45 AM
[i]Terry,

I like this thread. Last time I had new tires on my car was about 4-5 yrs ago.  Lou had bought them. 

A few of my friends have been telling me I need new tires for months.

Well, today I accomplished that got 4 brand new tires.  Now I feel a little safer  :icon_flower:
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Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Terry on September 01, 2013, 12:57:22 PM

Great! Good tires are so important to stay safe on the road! I'm glad you stopped over. I always liked this thread, too when it was on the Main Board so I thought I'd refresh it as it was started by another member.

I write in my journal every day, too but it's easier to see what I've accomplished the last few days or so when ever I pop in here. And, I'm always surprised because I 'forget' sometimes that I got so much done! :icon_mrgreen:

Enjoy your Sunday, Lis! :love4:

Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Terry on September 05, 2013, 02:42:43 PM

Today I spent talking with a friend who was determined to make a terrible decision. They're going to wait, as I pleaded for them to, and sleep on it. I also suggested their talking with someone else and I'm waiting for a call back so I can drive them to do just that.

Life is complicated and upcoming dates of our loved ones causes a chemical imbalance in our brains and disrupts our thought process. When we are stuck in that deep, dark pit and there doesn't seem to be any light, we can feel as though our options are few. We've all been there and there's no shame in it. It's that shame that prevents some from seeking the help they need. When people admit the fact that they need other people, they've already taken the first step in getting the help they need.

I anxiously await their call.

I also worked in my babies gardens this morning but it got so hot, I became sick so I headed back to the house. Maybe I'll get out there earlier tomorrow morning before the temp rises.
:toothy4:
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Terry on September 05, 2013, 06:24:16 PM

Continued from last post: My friend is in the hospital getting the care they need. I received a call back and the situation had worsened so I called 911.

I can sleep tonight knowing that although the problem still exists, there is now a workable plan in place to help to prevent this situation from worsening in the future. Nothing is certain in life but a plan of action is better than no plan at all.

Yes....I can sleep tonight.


Peace be with us all.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Doug1222 on September 06, 2013, 05:52:28 AM
I'm glad you got some peace, Terry.

Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Terry on September 06, 2013, 10:40:42 AM

(((((((( Thanks, Doug. ))))))))) :love4:
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Terry on October 01, 2013, 03:38:54 PM

I finished pressure washing my pool deck. It's been an ongoing project. Next is: staining. I am exhausted! But, I hurt G O O D!!! :laughing6:
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Terry on October 03, 2013, 04:48:35 PM
I made someone aware of their selfishness while grieving. What did I accomplish? Hopefully opening their eyes to their destructive and hurtful behavior towards others. They were supported after their great loss but they saw no reason to reach out to someone else who has suffered a great loss. Grief does change some people and someone once made a profound statement that I never forgot,"We don't become better people after a loss. We become MORE of who we were before that loss." How true that is.

This person asked me for advice today. They asked me why the grass stopped growing but the weeds have become wild and out of control. I replied,"Well, maybe it's because you only tended to your own garden." Selfishness breeds and strengthens when we don't look beyond our own fences.

Grief is very selfish. :nono:

Or, forgive them because they know not what they do? Or do they really not know? I say that we get back as good as we give.

I'm only going around once in this lifetime. :clock: I don't have nine lives. I should try to get it right the first time or at least try to recognize my errors so I don't continue making the same mistakes over and over again. :BangHead:

Above all: Love thy neighbor! :toothy1: I continue to ask for the strength I need to be able to accomplish this daily.
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Terry on October 15, 2013, 01:59:03 PM

Planted 180 tulip bulbs today in my children's gardens. 60 for each one. Nice day today at 80 degrees and overcast so it was enjoyable for gardening.
Now I'm looking forward to Spring to enjoy their beauty. Gee....that's the first time I've ever looked 'past' the holiday season before it even got here. :icon_cheers:

Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Terry on December 17, 2013, 09:31:33 AM

 My greatest accomplishment yet to come will be getting through this holiday season.

Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: hea on April 29, 2018, 06:58:04 AM

Planted 180 tulip bulbs today in my children's gardens. 60 for each one. Nice day today at 80 degrees and overcast so it was enjoyable for gardening.
Now I'm looking forward to Spring to enjoy their beauty. Gee....that's the first time I've ever looked 'past' the holiday season before it even got here. :icon_cheers:

I like it
Title: Re: Daily accomplishments
Post by: Veronica1992 on April 29, 2018, 07:51:51 PM
Such a theme is a great idea. Today I went for a walk and went to a shelter for homeless animals. Communication with animals very well distracts from problems and sadness)