Lori,
You sound just like me.
I'm normally a very emotional person who wears my heart on my sleeve, but since the funeral I have this weird hold on my emotions it's a bit scary. I let go every once in awhile, but usually only by myself.
Around family, friends, in public, school, I was the same way after Chris was killed. I kept my grief to myself. There was one time, in school a boy sat next to me with chewed up fingernails, Chris chewed his fingernails the same way. I busted out crying right there in the room, and RAN out to find a corner in the ladie's room to bawl my eyes out. People came in and asked if I needed help, tried to console me as I stood like a punished child with my face in the corner sobbing uncontrolably for what seemed forever.
After that humiliation, I had this intense fear of letting my emotions out, it was like I thought this monster would eat me up if I let it out. The more I held it in, even at home I would, because I felt if I went there, I wouldn't come back therefore I wouldn't be able to go to school, work, anything, it would just take me over, so I tried to burry those feelings. BAD BAD BAD! It made it sooooo much worse! I found myself loosing control all over the place, at work, while driving [NOT safe!] and in reading books on grief, and talking with my grief councelor, I knew I had to let it out.
Little by little I was able to, like you I would come here and read, and cry, I would look at my son's pictures, go to his grave, and allow myself to feel it, and let it out.
When life continues, the sun comes up every day, all the cars go by, people rush through the world, it seems so unfair that it refuses to stop to allow us our grief... it used to make me so incredibly angry.
I am deeply sorry for your loss, but glad you have found us here, and are able to let your pain out through tears. It is SOOOOOO important to allow ourselves to grieve!!!
Please save this quote and read it often, it has helped me immeasurably, as I hope it will you.
"My grief and pain are mine. I have earned them. They are part of me. Only in feeling them do I open myself to the lessons they can teach." ~Anne Wilson Schaef
Sending you peace and comfort.
Love Cherri