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Mareeeteee

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Spouse passed away 6/23/2018
« on: June 27, 2018, 08:41:43 PM »
My husband Gary passed away on 6/23/2018 after suffering from esophageal cancer for ten months.
61 years old; only hree years older than me.
Our 38th wedding anniversary was 6/21/2018.
He is Gary Sr. ;  Our first born son who died at four months old is named Gary Jr. (a long time ago)
Too much pain is surrounding me because it is all combined again.
Haven't even had memorial service or burial for my husband yet.

Does anyone ever get through this?!!???

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Re: Spouse passed away 6/23/2018
« Reply #1 on: June 29, 2018, 01:57:04 PM »
I'm sorry for your loss Mareeeteee, not only for your husband but also your son.The first couple of weeks are always the hardest but yes people do get through it but it will take time. I know last year when I lost Gina, my wife I was absolutely lost for what seems like the first month. It could have been a little less. Sometimes things didn't seem real but they were.The grieving process is different for us all and some people seem to go through it quickly some people it takes time before we adjust. I still really haven't  fully gotten used to it yet but I'm doing a lot better then I was this time last year. At first there were times I wasn't hungry but I still had to push myself to eat something or get motivated to do something around the house. So you have to keep an eye on yourself. Also if you are not used to vitamins you may want to pick up some until your appetite gets back to normal. It doesn't seem like it will but, it will. Take your time no need to rush because you know it's going to take time. You will find a lot of the things in your house will trigger a memory or several memories both good and bad but probably mostly good. You may find rearranging some things may help after some time or changing things in your house somewhat. It's really hard to say what works and what doesn't so all I did was mention things that helped me during that first month. Also what helped me was our dogs. They come and check on me, got me motivated to take them on walks and helped gave my mind a rest from those continuous memories in the house that would flood in. I know ir's hard for you right now so for now just take it one day at a time and one step at a time.