Hi Lacemaker, I'm sorry about your mom and I know it's hard with mother's day coming. It's ok to cry, we know and understand. With me it was my father and father's day. To be honest every holiday the first year he was gone was rough. The various holidays were much easier after the first year. That first father's day I spent a few hours at his grave site and I talked to him and I think he listened. To this day my younger brother still doesn't have the strength to go to my dad's grave site. If it's only been about a month for you, I don't know why anyone would think you should be over it by now. It takes a while and it's quite an adjustment when one looses a parent. My dad died in 2001 but I didn't deal with his death until 2005. It's one thing to know someone has died is different then when someone accepts the death of their loved one. Two different ball games altogether. You also mentioned watching you mom's death and having night mares. The loss of sleep alone could be zapping your motivation to do anything around the house and effect a persons concentration. Could also lower a persons frustration threshold and signs of irritability. You may want to talk to your Dr and perhaps they can prescribe a mild sleeping aid or even recommend you see a psych doctor for an evaluation. You may not be aware of it but you also described the classic symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder. If your doctor does recommend a psych doctor that's ok too. You don't have to be a vet like me to have PTSD. Witnessing or experiencing any traumatic event can cause it and there are treatments for it with a high success. It could also be short term if you have it. Only thing I am saying is talk to your doctor and see what they recommend. As for me I start with a new psych doctor the 28th this month in dealing with my wife's death. I dealt with PTSD and depression for years and made tremendous progress. I'm also smart enough to know I don't want to take steps backwards so I keep taking steps forward and get help when I need it. So it's something you may want to look at as an option.