Haven't been here for awhile - have been so busy. Had a two yr old boy as a foster child and wow, did that keep me moving! Still have the teenage girls that I adopted and that is going well. The little boy went home earlier this week and that has been challenging . . . as you can imagine, his home situation is far from ideal, so it was hard to let him go. Also, having him around brought back many memories of Vince at that age, but that mostly felt good (bittersweet). I was selfishly hoping to have him for the holidays.
Anyhow, just wanted to drop in and wish you all the best through the holiday season - it is especially challenging. I know what you mean about people who don't seem to want to talk about your child. I am lucky in that I do have family that is fine with it and that enjoys talking about Vince . . . but I also have family that seems to feel awkward and exchange glances when I mention Vince, if you know what I mean. Maybe I am being paranoid, but I always imagine they are thinking "My God, it's been years and years, is she never going to get over it??" Of course, the answer to that question is: "No, I never, ever, ever am, and I don't want to." But maybe I am being unfair - maybe it is just that awkwardness people have when you talk about anything that reminds them of death in general, and the death of a child in particular.
Now that the 2yr old has gone home, maybe I can pop in here more. It's possible he will be back if his reunification doesn't work out. He was such a cutie and I would take him back in a second. Hopefully, his parents have truly managed to get things together and keep them together - - very iffy, but I have to keep myself from hoping it DOESN'T work out. Because that would be wrong, but . . . well, this is hard.