Author Topic: Loss & or Lost?  (Read 1587 times)

vjw

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Loss & or Lost?
« on: March 13, 2015, 08:25:06 PM »
When my mother passed
I became hyper sensitive ti the phrases
centered around the words loss or lost
She is not lost I know exactly where she is.
Now, my husband has passed
I don't hear those words
maybe my hearing is bad.
I hope that folks are more aware
of how empty those words are.
Thank you for hosting a place to release thoughts surrounding our grief.

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Re: Loss & or Lost?
« Reply #1 on: March 16, 2015, 07:41:11 PM »
Very good point vjw.  I remember a mentor of mine back in the 1980's was holding a staff meeting at our counseling center and a new therapist was introducing herself to about 20 staff members.  She made the bad mistake of saying "We lost my mother last year" and my beloved mentor bellowed from the back of the room with the deepest strongest voice you can imagine "Where'd you lose her!"  He went on to explain to her that euphemisms were not helpful and that the fact is that people don't get lost, people die. 
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