I'm new here have read some posts and realize just how much the Holidays are going to be way too hard this year.
My husband passed away the end of May, it was such a shock, I was numb for weeks and sometimes think I am still just numb. On his birthday, August 22nd my nephew passed away, again unexpected. I don't know which way to turn at this point. I have a 15 year old son, so I think I have to go through the motions I just don't know where to get the strength to do it any more. I'm soo very worried about Matt, my son, that I don't think I have taken the proper steps of greiving myself.
It's time to take those steps for proper healing, just don't know where to begin. Sometimes i think I'm going crazy, can't sleep or think straight, forget things and am just in a fog. Yes I beleive the Holidays are going to be real tough!
Hi Rosie, Welcome to Webhealing!
I'm so sorry for the recent loss of your husband and that of your nephew. Please send your sister my love and let her know there is support here for the loss of her precious son.
There are many articles posted and will continue to be for those struggling with the holiday season. It is the most difficult time of the year as it is all about family and what's most difficult, even moreso is the fact that it isn't just one day. It is months and the build up can be overwhelming. Please know we are here for you in every way.
My heart goes out to your son, Matt also. Such a fragile and confusing age, anyway and to have to deal with the loss of his Dad and his cousin, must be so trying for him.
I feel you've already taken those steps to seek healing by sharing your story and your feelings. There is nothing more important after losing someone we love so much, than to talk/share about them and how we're feeling as much as we can. I don't think you're going crazy, at all. That numb feeling and the inability to concentrate or think straight is normal when grieving, especially this early in your grief.
Try to take good care of yourself by resting, even if you can't sleep and snacking often on healthy foods and drinking plenty of water. Thinking back, I sure wish I would have taken better care of myself, but it's just too easy not to, when grieving a great loss.
Jason and Angela have shared their stories and offered support and caring as they can relate to the same difficulties when grieving and I'm sure you'll hear from many others. We make it one day at a time and with a lot of help from our friends. The people on these boards are awesome!
I look forward to hearing more about your precious husband when you are comfortable doing so. Feel free to post day or night as there is always someone here.
Sending hugs and lots of love,