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Re: Birthdays/Angel Dates/Anniversaries - NEW!
« Reply #60 on: October 30, 2015, 02:27:25 PM »
Hi Patti - Welcome to Webhealing.

I'm sorry to read of the recent death of your husband, Gary. Feel free to post on the Spouse Loss board for support. They are a great bunch over there....very supportive.

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Re: Birthdays/Angel Dates/Anniversaries - NEW!
« Reply #61 on: August 10, 2016, 08:07:24 AM »
I lost My Kathleen on 3/20/16 after a 6 year battle we both waged with lung cancer. I have started my one year journey through important dates with her birthday on 7/22.  The second hurdle is 8/15; our 24th wedding anniversary.  She was the love of my life and I miss her terribly.  I am seeing a grief counselor for the second time today. I am anticipating Thanksgiving and Christmas to be just as sad.  God help get through this

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« Reply #62 on: August 18, 2016, 10:10:52 AM »
Hi Skip,

I'm so sorry to read of the recent death of your precious wife, Kathleen. These dates are very difficult, especially the firsts. The anticipation of them which could affect us weeks even months before seem to be just as heartbreaking. Your wedding anniversary that just passed had to be especially difficult.

We get through the holidays one at a time and do the best we can. There are a lot of posts on the holidays with tips and other ways to help cope that you may find helpful. Feel free to read them at your leisure.

Always remember that this is your grief, your feelings that have to be considered. Try not to be swayed by others opinions on how to grieve or even how long. Family and friends may need to be offered guidelines as you travel this journey of grief. "The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe for living (grieving) that suits all cases." -CG Jung

Know that we're here for you.
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"One thing I've learned on this journey (it's been a year and a few days since my husband, Tom, died of cancer), is that in the beginning, there is a lot of the one-step-forward-two-steps-back shuffle." - RobinBlue - Spouse Loss

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Re: Birthdays/Angel Dates/Anniversaries - NEW!
« Reply #63 on: August 30, 2016, 11:07:02 PM »
Hello.. It's been so long since I have been on this site.  I am here because yesterday 083016 was Maureens's 5th b day since she died on 041416.  As with all other of her B days since she passed away, the day was uneventful and just like any other day for me.. Another day without Maureen.   Even though yesterday was her b day Inhave long realized that Many days seem like her b day because she is no longer alive and I can't help but miss her so very much on those days.  A years, 5 years of b days without her in them. Thanks for letting me post I have no one in my whole life now that really understands.what losing your spouse means.  I have no other outlet in this world but this forum to tell what she meant to me.  Take care. I don't know if I'll ever post again here but I do know I'll nev3r stop loving and missin your dear Maureen no matter what happens.
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Re: Birthdays/Angel Dates/Anniversaries - NEW!
« Reply #64 on: September 01, 2016, 01:45:08 PM »
Hi Arthur,

It was so nice to see your post. I've missed you.

I posted Maureen's Birthday last year but never heard back from you and I thought you left us. Good to know that you're still reading.
There are many new members that could benefit from your sharing as they, too feel very alone.

You and your precious Maureen are always in my heart. :love9:

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Terry
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« Reply #65 on: September 19, 2016, 08:30:06 PM »
Hi Terry..
Thank you so much for your post and I really appreciate the kind thoughts and prayers. I missed you too and I can never forget your and other kindness here that have helped me to heal from losing Maureen.  Not a day goes by when she isn't in my thoughts.  Recently I have felt guilty about not helping one of Maureen's relatives who has suffered severe dementia in her old age. I know if Maureen were alive she would want me to visit and help, but this woman, Maureen's Aunt, lives in a distant city that would require a lot of planning for me to get there, and I honestly don't know if I could retain my composure if her aunt would even remember who I am. Her aunt is in good hands and is being cared for in her illness and old age, and I still suffer from frequent migraines while trying to hold down a full time job.  So I am struggling about what to do here as a visit has become problematic.
    Yes I'll post again here Terry I hope that what I have gone through can maybe help someone who is grieving for their lost spouse. Thanks for inviting me back. Take care Terry I hope you are doing well too!
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Re: Birthdays/Angel Dates/Anniversaries - NEW!
« Reply #66 on: September 27, 2016, 12:33:04 PM »
((((((Arthur))))))

You are always welcome here, my friend and never need an invitation. I fondly refer to Webhealing as my online home. I know that others feel the same way. No matter how much time has passed we can always stop by, share our thoughts and count on someone reading or responding.

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Terry
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Re: Birthdays/Angel Dates/Anniversaries - NEW!
« Reply #67 on: April 29, 2017, 06:00:07 AM »
Jim's birthday is June 20, 1957
Jim's angel date is April 13, 2017

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Re: Birthdays/Angel Dates/Anniversaries - NEW!
« Reply #68 on: May 01, 2017, 06:19:16 AM »
We will remember Jim on his special dates. They are posted on our calendar.

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"One thing I've learned on this journey (it's been a year and a few days since my husband, Tom, died of cancer), is that in the beginning, there is a lot of the one-step-forward-two-steps-back shuffle." - RobinBlue - Spouse Loss