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Lost my babygirl and can't cope
« on: August 24, 2016, 03:43:24 PM »
Gave birth to a beautiful babygirl on august 3 2016 the only problem was she was born stillborn. I feel lost everytime i try to talk to her dad about her or even just my family they act like she never existed. How have other parents dealt with this.


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Re: Lost my babygirl and can't cope
« Reply #1 on: August 25, 2016, 10:01:38 AM »

I'm so sorry to read of the death of your angel, Shayla. My baby, Sal lived just days after he was born. He died in my arms. Others who haven't experienced this great loss cannot understand the depth of your pain. I also went through hearing the same cliches over and over again. *You have other children* and *at least you didn't have years of memories;*I could go on, just know I understand.

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Re: Lost my babygirl and can't cope
« Reply #2 on: August 26, 2016, 05:08:23 PM »
My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 11weeks. A mother knows her child from the moment of conception. You knew your daughter and dreamed your dreams for her from the day you knew she existed. No one can take away her existence and who she is to you. Those who seem to do that either lack the capacity to empathize or they love you so much that they want you to be free from pain, to be ok, to be who you were before this tragedy. The parents here, we know what it is to suffer the loss of a child, whether at 11 weeks gestation or stillborn or 21 yrs old or 31 yrs old or whatever. Your loss is real. Your pain is real. As time goes by, it won't hurt so very very much. Know that I care.