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CarolA

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It's been a long time
« on: September 27, 2016, 02:41:51 PM »
I first came to this board 13 years ago. My daughter, Vikki had just passed away. I didn't know where to turn to find help with the pain. I had friends and family, but something was missing. I had to be around people who truly understood. I was desperate. I found a lot of help here. The time passes slowly. It seems some days like it was yesterday. There are still days I think I need to call and tell her something. Those days really are hard. I still have good days and bad days. They aren't as bad now but I still cry. I cry when I hear myself talking about her. I cry when I hear of someone else losing their child, I know that pain so well and want more than anything to make it go away for them. There is no closure. Time does not heal all wounds. But we learn to live with them. Not sure anyone is here that even remembers me. My love to you all - Carol

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Re: It's been a long time
« Reply #1 on: September 27, 2016, 04:00:21 PM »
Hi Carol,

We all remember each other. How can we not? We are bound by the sharing of our pain. We can finish each other's sentences. We are family.

So nice to see a picture of your precious Vikki.  :love9:

Big hug to you.
Love,
Terry
"True friends will just sit in silence with you, cry with you and never turn you away. I came to this realization that people who don't go through what we do are what I call civilians and cannot understand and you might find hurt in friendships that now get fragmented or go away all together. I choose very carefully who I let in my life now." - Adams Brokenhearted Mama

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Re: It's been a long time
« Reply #2 on: September 27, 2016, 08:48:12 PM »
Like you, Carol, I found this to be the place that allowed me to survive and to live again.And yes,mas you say, with time we learn to live with that pain. I find that when I'm entering into new events, passing milestones, there's a resurgence of sadness and tears. For happy joyful events! We're in the process of buying a beach house, and I find myself weepy, knowing how much the boys would have loved being there with us and with their sister's little kids. For me it's 17 years since my Jimmy died in a car accident at the age of 21 and eight years later his older brother ended his life in suicide, age 31. I talk to my boys everyday. We all find ways to keep them present. The grandkids talk about uncle Jimmy angel and uncle Tommy angel. And they smile.