A useful site

[sevenofwands]

I know this is not directly related to grieving, but I have never tired of recommending this doctor's site.  There is much good advice, and insight.

www.drjoecarver.com

Look at the articles on this site.

Best wishes
Seven

[sevenofwands]

http://www.innerfamilyarchetypes.com/articlesarchetypekeys.html

"The Inner Family Archetype Model is the ultimate roadmap into understanding ourselves and others. It helps us get to the root of who we are and why we behave the way we do, and understand how we relate to other people. Working with this model brings out the best in us by helping us get rid of our inherited negative patterns of behavior,....."
"Most important, it allows us to be true to ourselves and to others, to give and receive more love and to become who we are really meant to be.
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[sevenofwands]

I thought I would slip in this short report, as it has a bearing on the difficulties of adolescent, and the resultant grief that parnts can feel.

http://www.psycport.com/showArticle.cfm?xmlFile=knightridder%5F2009%5F11%5F12%5F%5F0000%2D2353%2DPH%2DHLT%2DInternational%2Daward%2Dfor%2DTemple%2Dresearcher%2D1112%2Exml&provider=

[sevenofwands]

Leaving Home: The Art of Separating From Your Difficult Family by David P. Celani
"Dr. David Celani meaningfully, forcefully, and poignantly confronts one of the most common pschyo-social issues of our time and of times past: the plight of the dysfunctional family and the attendant paradox of their offspring being unable to separate from them in adulthood to live their own lives. Dr. Celani beautifully addresses this problem and offers valuable guidelines for its sufferers. "

Review:
Why, after a childhood of emotional neglect and abuse, would a man move next door to the very parents who caused him pain? And how can a woman emerge from her mother's control in order to form healthy adult relationships?

Giving up family attachments that failed to meet our needs as children, David Celani argues, is the hardest psychological task an adult can undertake. Yet the reality is that many adults re-create the most painful aspects of their early relationships with their parents in new relationships with peers and romantic partners, frustrating themselves and discouraging them from leaving their family of origin. Leaving Home emphasizes the life-saving benefits of separating from destructive parents and offers a viable program for personal emancipation."