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Main / Lost another partner!
« Last post by leo on March 18, 2017, 07:24:22 PM »
Hello,
It has been about 6 1/2 years since I last posted...NEVER did I think that I would RETURN but here I am in anguish once again...I ask  myself "why me ", but there is no answer, life just seems like a series of random events and I  was once again very unfortunate...7 years ago I lost my beautiful, loving wife and partner of 33 years...a year later I met another wonderful woman...we shared 5 glorious years together...10 months ago, I lost her...OMG, why, why, why? I been in and out of my "Howard Hugh's shell"
many times, I am able to be a true recluse despite my liking to be around people very much...yes, very contradictory...am trying to get out more among people over the last several months...I detest being alone and the evenings are very, very traumatizing for me...
Leo
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Michael, how's the move?
« Last post by Terry on March 13, 2017, 01:49:09 PM »
Sent you a private message. :love9:
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Michael, how's the move?
« Last post by mjlasa on March 11, 2017, 02:26:39 PM »
I am visiting the new home but am not really comfortable here. Too many memories. Im starting to feel hopeless.
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Parent Loss / Re: Introductions
« Last post by Terry on February 26, 2017, 12:04:41 PM »

Oh Dina,

I'm so sorry to learn of the recent death of your Grandpop. And, I agree that regardless of whether they are sick or not, we're never, ever prepared to say good-bye to one that we love so much.

You have my heart.

Hugs,
Terry
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Parent Loss / Re: Loss of my Dad
« Last post by Terry on February 26, 2017, 11:59:13 AM »

(((((llewis)))))

I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious Dad. I understand the pain, the sadness. It's difficult as death is so final and we're left with the memories. Especially since you two were so close. I do think it's normal to feel the sadness. How can we not, when someone who has meant the world to us is no longer physically with us. Our brain knows it's true but it takes quite awhile for our hearts to catch up to that truth.

Not sure I have any advice, I only know that we all grieve differently. Some of us longer than others. There's really no right or wrong way to grieve and there's no time limit.

Welcome to Webhealing. There are others here who are grieving the loss of their parent, also. We find comfort when sharing our pain with others.

Let me know how you're doing.

Sending you a big hug and my love,
Terry
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Parent Loss / Re: Motherless by 17, parentless at 26.
« Last post by Terry on February 26, 2017, 11:50:43 AM »

(((((Bri)))))

I'm so sorry to read of the death of your precious Dad. Losing both parents is such a great loss, especially when so young. I certainly understand the pain as I've lost both parents and all three of my children. In fact, I was around your age when my Mom died at 48.

I'm glad you found us. Welcome to Webhealing.

What kind of support do you have in your life at this time? Siblings, friends? Is there a pastor or priest that you're close to? It really helps to sit down and talk with someone but we don't always have that in our lives and the reason for the importance of message boards such as Webhealing. I, along with many others found these boards to be a life saver; coming on to post at any hour or just vent the pain is helpful. There's always someone here and we never close. Like an online journal.

Please update when you have a chance so I know how you're doing.

Again, I'm so very sorry for the loss of your Dad and for the pain you're going through.

Sending you hugs, love & understanding,
Terry

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Parent Loss / Motherless by 17, parentless at 26.
« Last post by Bri on February 24, 2017, 01:14:55 AM »
I don't really know how to do this. I can't find a grief support group in the city I live in. I took social work and counselling in school, so one-on-one doesn't work for me because I'm too familiar with the process.

I've never felt so empty and alone. I survived after my mom died when I was 17 because I had my dad. I never got to say goodbye. Try to prepare. Say I love you one last time. She was 39 years old. She was poisoned one day and the next she was gone. I was the one who called the ambulance. They wouldn't let me stay with her for the ride to the hospital. "We're going to have to do things to your mother to save her, and you won't want to see".

I phoned my dad that day and told him mom was sick, that the doctor said she may need a liver transplant. She may need to be transferred to a bigger hospital, but it was going to be okay. We would travel to the big hospital today if needed.

By 2am, she was gone. How do you handle a new type of pain that you've never felt before? I collapsed with numbness. My dad rushed to be by my side. He never left me for a week afterwards.

And now, just 4 months ago, my dad dropped dead in his living room. My dad was meant to outlive everyone in our family. Tall, lean, an exceptional athlete. He was the healthiest person I knew. I didn't get his athleticism. I'm more comfortable being lazy than I'd like to admit. He was brilliant, too. He could do complicated algebra questions that he hadn't done in 30+ years, no problem. He worked hard his whole life for a good pension. He was 3 years away from retirement and more than ready to enjoy it. He was 51.

I'm 26 years old and parentless. My children, should I choose to have any, will not know their grandparents. I will not have my beloved dad to walk me down the aisle at my wedding. I will not have my beautiful mother to shop for a wedding dress with. I need them. What I wouldn't give to talk to them one last time.

I don't know what to do. I don't know how to go on. Help.
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Parent Loss / Loss of my Dad
« Last post by llewis on February 23, 2017, 07:31:02 PM »
This is new to me so I hope I'm doing this right. I lost my Dad on October of 2015. It's so hard for me to enjoy life anymore. My Dad was my best friend. I don't know why I'm feeling this way,every time I think of him or see a pic of him I just cry. So that's why I'm searching for answers. Is this normal, and how do I go on with my life and not feel so sad? Life is so hard without him. My mom has moved on and I kinda resent her for it. Idk how to feel anymore.? Any advice would be appreciated.
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Parent Loss / Re: Birthdays and Angel Dates - NEW!
« Last post by Dina Marie on February 22, 2017, 09:54:26 AM »
Can you please add William Elster Sr for February 13th as an angel date please. Thank you.
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Parent Loss / Re: Introductions
« Last post by Dina Marie on February 22, 2017, 09:53:26 AM »
Hi,
No photos to share yet. :( I lost my grandfather last Monday, February 13th now. I just don't know what to even do anymore. I come to work. I appear to folks that I am okay, even to my husband I am sure I appear okay, however in the inside, however on the inside I am just so sad. I do my best to tell myself to be strong because I have to however just having an extremely difficult time. I was very close to my grandfather. he had been sick so we expected it i guess, however, doesn't necessarily make it any easier. sigh...
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