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Child Loss / Candi's Angel Date (Martha)
« Last post by Terry on May 13, 2018, 09:34:56 AM »

Remembering precious :angel11: Candi :angel11: today on her Angel Date.

Sending you hugs and my love, :love9:
Child Loss / Happy Mother's Day to our Moms!
« Last post by Terry on May 13, 2018, 09:32:04 AM »
Wishing you all a very Happy Mother's Day! Although our Angels are watching us from afar, they are always with us. Every special memory of our precious babies lands on our hearts on this special day.

Wishing you all peace, love and gentle memories of your most precious Angels. :love9:

Mom to 3 Angels in Heaven
LeeB1 I am very sorry to hear about your loos. We never really are ever sure of the reasons and some of them do everything they can to insure they they aren't showing signs or leaving clues because they know if they do someone may figure out their plans and would try to stop them. I can only imagine your daughter is devastated. Try to make sure you are taking care of yourself and also your daughter. It will ease up but it will take time and it sounds like you already understand this. There isn't much I can say that will make it go away or seem easier. What helped me after my wife died was keeping myself busy. I don't know much about the situation as this is your first post in here and there is very little information to help me understand some of the background. So in this situation I may not be a good talker or advisor but if it helps I'm most definitely a good listener. From my being a vet and being around other vets and active duty I do understand. and know what it's like for the families and friends that they leave behind.
Child Loss / Re: Aproaching the 5 year Angelversary
« Last post by barb0617 on May 12, 2018, 04:39:11 PM »
Took me a few to figure out I had to log in to reply to your post.
Like you, I come here at the "special" times, when I need to be with those who know, who understand. I'm glad you were able to drive away from work that day to take care of yourself. It's 19 years since I lost my son Jim to a car accident, 11 years since his older brother Tom ended his life in suicide. I've done a good job rebuilding my life without my sons. I have two surviving daughters, two awesome grandkids. But still I struggle with Mothers Day without my boys. Still.
and we are all devastated.   Our family did clean up the mess, no WAY were we going to let anyone else attend to what had happened,  and we are soldering through as best we are able.

Even though I am (also) a trauma therapist, secrets were kept, I had NO idea what pressures there were or that there were any troubles at all ..... and now there's a 'Jack-sized hole' in the Universe.

I'm not even sure what I'm asking here .... crying all the time is not an option and I know, in a year of so, the pain will be less.

WE DIDN"T KNOW ANYTHING WAS WRONG! (except that he was having terrible bouts of gout and of arthritis in his damaged body.... from an early life motorcycle accident).  We DIDN"T KNOW ....if we had known we could have helped.

I'm finding out there were financial problems (secrets kept) .... and he may have felt he'd let everyone down.  I don't know ..... it's a truly devastating loss.
Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Introductions thread
« Last post by JustMark on May 11, 2018, 02:54:18 AM »
Hi robn375, welcome to webhealing. In dealing with my loss I have found this site helpful. None of us are experts on greif but we share things that have helped with others and get advice from others as well. So don't be afraid of talking about something that bothers you. We are about as non judgemental as they come.
Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Introductions thread
« Last post by robn375 on May 09, 2018, 09:53:34 AM »
Thank you for sharing.  Your words are what I have to say about Debby. It helps me to know that I am not in this alone but I would never wish this grief.   on anyone.  I wish you love and peace now and days to come.   
Child Loss / Happy Birthday, Donna! ( Shamanic Owl)
« Last post by Terry on May 05, 2018, 07:43:48 AM »
Happy Birthday, Donna!

Wishing you a peaceful, beautiful day! :occasion13:

Spouse, Partner Loss / Happy Birthday, Doug!
« Last post by Terry on May 05, 2018, 07:40:06 AM »
Happy Birthday, Doug! :occasion13:

I hope your day is beautiful!

Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Starting my journey
« Last post by JustMark on May 03, 2018, 10:58:01 PM »
Hi Teres, I'm sorry about your husband. I started coming here about a year ago just after my wife passed and I have found it helpful in here. Sometimes it may seem like no one is around and other times it seems someone is giving you an answer or advice just after you finish. There is really no specific way it works. You either post something your having a problem in adjusting to the loss of a loved one or something that is on your mind and as members come and go someone that either can relate or went through something similar will post a response. Sometimes it will be advice on things that worked for them and helped them other times it's just helpful knowing you not alone with the issue. I have found it helpful in dealing with the loss of my wife just by reaching out to talk or try to help others. There is no magical answer  to a problem and none of us are experts at what we are going through. We aren't judgemental as we all know none of us are any smarter or better or have all the answers. Probably just opening up is the most important thing and a lot of us learn it's ok just to listen and being judgemental would kill that openness. None of us really keep a set schedule I typically come here once a week but this last month I've had a rash of Dr appointments and things breaking at my house.   
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