Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
December 21, 2014, 06:26:45 AM
Home Help Search Calendar Login Register
News:

  Show Posts
Pages: [1] 2 3 ... 5
1  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / It has been 5 years today on: June 04, 2009, 07:56:13 AM
 I havent been to the board in quite a while..when the board changed its forum I had a hard time with it and couldnt seem to figure out how to post Ronnies pictures...I am here today to say hi to all of those who helped me through the first days, weeks, months and years...I dont think I would be here now if not for all of you..And I would also like to say hi to all of the parents that have come here after me and that I am so so sorry that you are here...but you will be able to hold on a little tighter with help from others here...
 One thing that never seems to leave even after that overwhelming grief leaves..is the thought ' I still cant believe you are gone'...I know that you are gone but I cant  believe you are gone..This is one of my fleeting thougths from time to time..and i woke this morning rolled over in bed to look at Ronnies picture and that was my thought...I sat here at my computer and I saw that a candle had been lit at Ronnies website so went to read it, I lit one then had tears for a while...
 I am sending out healing loving thoughts to all of you in hopes that I can help in some small way...

Love Karen
Ronnies Mom
2  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / Re: WHILE SITTING AT THE BANK on: January 23, 2008, 02:44:16 PM
Hi MArtha,
   Its been a while but after figuring out what my password was I started scanning through the posts looking for some of the old webhealing friends i had from the old board..I read your post and it is sad how these things can send us into a panic....
   I lost my Mom a little over a year ago and my 42 yr old cousin about 4 or 5 days before that...I wound up going to my cousin Stevens wake the day after my Mom passed and my sister and I balled our eyes out..then I came home and starte dplanning for my Moms funeral the following Saturday..It came to be that the only ones making the plans out of me, my sister, brother, father and my daughters were me, and my two daughters...funny how things work..I think I was already through teh shock of losing someone so close that although I grieved for my Mom dearly I had the strength to carry on, if that makes any sense..For my sister, brother and Dad it was their first really close loss and they were beside themselves...but what I am trying to say is that when you have to go, and I have passed on a couple wakes since Ronnies passing, YOU WILL HAVE THE STRENGTH when the time comes...My cousins death wasnt expected, he was so young...but my Mom was 75 and in failing health for a few years...Such is the natural flow of life.......sending big big hugs and I hope otherwise you are doing ok.

LOve and hugs, Karen

WWW.RONNIE-HETU.MEMORY-OF.COM

www.myspace.com/guardian_angel_815
 
www.myspace.com/lostnationcreations
3  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / Re: Today’s Discussion Topic: What is grief to you? on: October 17, 2007, 10:38:59 AM
Grief is a path I have been put on...not of my own choice....that I dont want to be on .....that will nevr change...

Karen Ronnies Mom

www.ronnie-hetu.memory-of.com
4  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / Re: tears don't stop on: October 17, 2007, 10:35:37 AM
Rebecca,
    I am hoping for softer days ahead.

Love and hugs,
Karen Ronnies Mom

www.ronnie-hetu.memory-of.com
5  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / Re: October 2,2004 on: October 05, 2007, 02:56:48 AM
Kathy,
   I passed Ronnies 3rd anniversary in June...It seems so long ago and yet it seems like yesterday..How can it be.....My heart breaks for you...these days are so hard and not worth trying towear the mask.......


Karen Ronnie's Mom

www.ronnie-hetu.memory-of.com
6  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / Re: Please pray-Brother, Sister, Friend Die In Crash: on: October 05, 2007, 02:53:47 AM
That is so horrible...I cant imagine the pain these familys are in...

Karen Ronnie's Mom

www.ronnie-hetu.memory-of.com
7  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / Re: I feel so down.. on: June 14, 2007, 07:40:37 AM
Brenda,
     I look at the calender often...and I see your beautiful Jessica on the pages with my Ronnie.....It is just so painful..Funny how we can feel each others pain..we are tuned into it....I am hoping our 4th years is a little easier...I know what you mean about staying around for the others..I have to too but if I dont pass on in the way I was intended I believe I wont see Ronnie..Im not religious or anything it is just a feeling I get..So I keep plugging along..Sometimes better than others...Im sending a great big hug to you as you approach Jessica's 3rd angel date.

Love Karen
8  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / Re: Donny's Third Angel Date June 13 on: June 13, 2007, 07:48:18 AM
Don,

  I am sending you a big hug to give you comfort on this very very sad and painful day..

www.ronnie-hetu.memory-of.com

Love Karen
9  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / Re: POEM-I Still Live On on: June 13, 2007, 06:24:48 AM
John,

     That is a beautiful poem.Thank you so much for sharing it with us..

Love and hugs,
Karen
10  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / Re: Today's Question-The Day The Music Died on: June 12, 2007, 10:41:24 PM
1.   What is your name and the name of your son or daughter, and how old was s/he when s/he died?
My name is Karen and my sons name is Ronnie.He was 21...just turned 21 two months previously.

2.   What did your son/daughter do all day, before the end? What happened to him/her?
Ronnie was working on his trans am with his sisters bf who is a mechanic.His girlfriend Erin was visiting..   

3.What happened during the last few hours of his/her life? I worked the night before so I am not exactly sure. I know he was going to the parts store and dropping his girlfriend off at work and then coming back to work on his car.

4.   What happened during the last few minutes of his/her life? What did s/he do?
Ronnie had dropped his girlfriend off at work and was headed home and got approx. 3.2 miles from the house.

5.   Was anyone else present at the time of his/her death? Only strangers.

6.   If no one was present, who was the first person on the scene? When and how did that person show up to find him? I was told a man on a bicycle stopped to help Ronnie

7.   What did that person do after finding him/her? He told Ronnie to hold on help was on the way

8.   What did the law enforcement officers do after they showed up? I believe it was the rescue that responded first, then the police who closed the street down till close to midnight (the accident happened at 2:46pm on a sunny clear day)

9.   How did you find out that your son or daughter died? What were the exact words that were said?
The police drove up and parked across the street from my house. They didnt arrive until almost 5pm. Ronnie had been dead over 2 hours. I dont remember the exact words.It is a blurr

10.   And what was your first response?
Im not sure..I know I sat down and then htey called my daughter in from out side and then we left with the police to go to the hospital.

11.   Is there anything else you want us to know about the day the music died in your life?
I remember walking into the ER with the police and my daughter and people in the Er were looking..I must have had alook of shock on my face. When I walked into the room that Ronnie was in I know I started to collapse but I think my daughter caught me Im not sure and I screamed because they shut the door..As I type the tears are starting to flow and it feels like yesterday...not three years ago...I rember a priest sat with me before or maybe after I saw Ronnie to ask me what I was going to do..My daughter Jessica was sitting beside me and I asked her to call Auntie Donna (my sister) and ask her to call hte family and tell them..i called my other daughter Stephanie and told her and said I didnt want her  driving until Scott got home...Ronnies girlfriend Erin arrived at some point and his friends Jen, Bobby and Scott came.His friend from work came...I have so mnay fragmented thoughts..I was told that someone had put up a cross at the accident scene..My girls wanted to put a picture on it so people could see my beautiful boy..Flowers were brought and candles were brought.SOmeone left a skateboard, doritos, life saver ggummies, yogurt...ROnnies best friend went awol form the army to be at Ronnies funeral and asked to bury his urn but did this after we had left the site..I reemmber sitting at the cross with candles burning to 2-3 am..Erin would call and ask me what I was doing and I would ask where are you and she would say at the cross..this would be 9-10 or 11 at night...I would get in my car and go sit with her..On Ronnies first angel day my daughter Jess and I both not knowing where the other had gone wound up at the cross and stayed till 3 in the morning....SHe told me she sat in her car the day after Ronnies 3rd angel date..Im sorry I wasnt closer I would have been there..
 I will in time learn to live with this pain but I will never get over it or forget the beautiful boy that I had for 21 years....

Love and hugs to you all on htis very very hard journey of pain,
Karen Ronnie's Mom

www.ronnie-hetu.memory-of.com
11  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / Re: I did it! 20 miles! on: June 12, 2007, 10:10:01 PM
Barb,

   That is great...I would have loved to do the walk..In 05 I walked in the compassionate friends 'walk to remember those gone too soon'....it was ahumbling experience to walk with so so many people who had lost a loved one...

Love and hugs,
Karen
12  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / Re: Donny on: June 12, 2007, 10:06:57 PM
Don,

    I am here with you..It is such a hard journey..Just know that I am thinking of you and Donny and knowing that he will be with you.

Love and hugs,
Karen
13  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / Re: I feel so down.. on: June 12, 2007, 10:05:22 PM
Elaine,
    I am with you..we will both try to go on for our angels, with our angels help until we can do it on our own....

Love and hugs,
Karen
14  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / Re: am i wrong on: June 12, 2007, 10:03:19 PM
Martha,
   You arent wrong..this is such a hard journey..My sister called on Ronnie's 3rd angel date to tell me that not a day goes by that she doesnt think of Ronnie and she wanted me to know that..Aunts can feel this pain too but our angels wouldnt want us to stop living...and the little guys can put a smile on our faces like no one else..Enjoy them and the smiles they give you..

Love and hugs,
Karen
15  Crisis, Grief, and Healing / Child Loss / Re: Happy and sad is life now on: June 12, 2007, 11:05:45 AM
Deb,

   I will keep you and huby in my thoughts today and hoping for a speedy recovery for him so Friday will be a blessed day for all..

Love and hugs,
Karen
Pages: [1] 2 3 ... 5


Login with username, password and session length

Powered by MySQL Powered by PHP Powered by SMF 1.1.20 | SMF © 2013, Simple Machines Valid XHTML 1.0! Valid CSS!