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Main / How can I help my mother get over my Brother's death?
« on: April 24, 2009, 11:44:06 AM »
Any advise on what I can do to help her?  She is seeing a therpist. 
What can I, or my other sibling do?

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Sibling Loss / Loss of My Older Brother
« on: April 09, 2009, 01:25:47 PM »
My brother Tony died March 29, 2009.  He was battling a long line of demons.  The mother of his son (8 years old) died a year and a half ago.  My dad found him dead in his bed, we are not sure yet what the cause of death.

In Januray, we did have a family intervension and sent his son to live with my mother, as we did not feel it was a safe envirmonment for a child.  Looking back, we (my mother especailly) are feeling like we did not do enough for him, but I keep telling myself that you have to WANT to get sober, and he did not.  I feel so bad for him, dying all alone.  We did go though his cell phone and he had called no less than 10 facilites trying to get help, also, he went to the hospital twice the day before he died, and no one did anything for him.   

Although my pain is great and I thought would get better with time, it has not.  However, it was only been a week and a half.  The real person/people I am worried about are my mother and his son, my nephew. 

My mother's life has basically stopped.  She does not want to do anything she once enjoyed.  She does not want to color the eggs for Easter this weekend for the kids, etc.  She lives in a tiny town, does not work, and has a lot of time on her hands, to think and relive all of her regrets. My nephew seems to be doing ok, but they say that children grieve differently.

I feel like I am going on with my life as if nothing has happened.  But I do know that I need to go on with my life, but how do I relay that to my mother?

Tony was my big brother, I looked up to him, and I miss him dearly.

I love you, Tony.  I hope you are in peace now, and have no more pain. 


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