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Child Loss / Re: Spam problems
« on: November 15, 2012, 06:44:25 AM »
Well, I think I have a temporary fix.  I started a new usergroup called nospam and have only allowed that group to post and reply. I added anyone who has been on the board for the last three weeks or so.  If you have been active in the last couple of weeks you should be able to post and reply.  If you can't post or reply, email me at [email protected] and let me know and I will get you up and running asap.

so sorry for this mess.  Keep our fingers crossed that this will be at least a temporary fix.

Tom

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Spam Problem
« on: November 15, 2012, 05:56:24 AM »
We are continuing to have problems with spammers.  I will be working on this today and you may find that you are unable to post or reply.  Hopefully this will all be fixed in a short time.  Sorry for the mess.

Tom

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Child Loss / Spam problems
« on: November 15, 2012, 05:55:54 AM »
We are continuing to have problems with spammers.  I will be working on this today and you may find that you are unable to post or reply.  Hopefully this will all be fixed in a short time.  Sorry for the mess.

Tom

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Spammed!!!!
« on: November 14, 2012, 02:05:46 PM »
My apologies for the spam.  I am not sure exactly where they are getting in but we will find out and stop it.  These are basically robots that post spam on message boards where they can find entry.  They are harmless in a way but very annoying and injurious to the peacefulness that we usually enjoy here.  For that I do apologize and I hope you know I will be working on this to rid us of this mess.

Tom

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Child Loss / Re: hello and the blog
« on: November 14, 2012, 04:46:13 AM »
Badly chewed plant!  Yeah, I think that is close isn't it? I think sometimes of desert flowers when I think of the bereaved, folks able to bloom with very little water, lots of sun beating down and soil that is mostly sand.  I love desert flowers!

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: hello and the blog
« on: November 13, 2012, 02:09:48 PM »
lol not managed to get onto the chat room yet and no idea what google+ is! Although I love Mama Terry, I am way behind her in ICT knowledge! x

Google+ is googles answer to facebook.  In many ways it is a marked improvement.  Not much happening there as far as grief goes but we can change that.   :icon_mrgreen:  They have free video-=conferencing that allows up to 10 people to talk to and see each other.  Lots of possibilities.

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: hello and the blog
« on: November 13, 2012, 08:17:28 AM »
Hi Tom,

correct me if I am wrong but I believe that you are the instigator of this site.

I just want to say a massive thank you. This place and the amazing people on here have helped me so much and I thought I would share that with you and my heartfelt gratitude that you had a great idea and followed it through.

Thanks :)

SOn x


Hi Sonya -  Yes, I am the instigator!  Thank you so much for your kind words.  It's great to hear that the site has been of help to you.  I am always thinking about ways to improve things and lately I think that google+ may be something we should look into.  If you or anyone else is on google+ please do circle me and I will reciprocate.

Thanks again.

Tom

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Spouse, Partner Loss / hello and the blog
« on: November 09, 2012, 06:01:35 PM »
Just wanted to say hello to everyone.  Terry and Pam are both away from the boards for just a bit so I am checking in.  If there are problems let me know. 

Wanted you to know that I have started a blog for webhealing.  You can see it here:

http://webhealing.com/blog

I will be posting there and will also be taking guest posts.  If anyone here would like to contribute please email me at [email protected] and put blog in the subject heading and put your post in the body.  I can't guarantee that it will be published but you never know.  We will be looking for short posts of about 500-800 words that will be helpful to those who are grieving.  Whatever has helped you, share it and let's see.  Also any ideas about dealing with the holidays would be great to post.  At this point it is all fairly new so we will play it by ear.

Blessings to all!

Tom

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Child Loss / hello and the blog
« on: November 09, 2012, 05:59:54 PM »
Just wanted to say hello to everyone.  Terry and Pam are both away from the boards for just a bit so I am checking in.  If there are problems let me know. 

Wanted you to know that I have started a blog for webhealing.  You can see it here:

http://webhealing.com/blog

I will be posting there and will also be taking guest posts.  If anyone here would like to contribute please email me at [email protected] and put "blog" in the subject heading and put your post in the body.  I can't guarantee that it will be published but you never know.  We will be looking for short posts of about 500-800 words that will be helpful to those who are grieving.  Whatever has helped you, share it and let's see.  Also any ideas about dealing with the holidays would be great to post.  At this point it is all fairly new so we will play it by ear. 

Blessings to all!

Tom


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Main / Re: The interesting turns of life and death
« on: September 13, 2012, 04:45:29 PM »
Lauren!  What a magnificently beautiful and touching post.  My eyes are filled with tears. Bless your heart!  Thank you!

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You are very welcome Zylen.  Please feel free to contact me if you have any ideas of about making this a safer place.

Off topc -- I have been doing videos on facebook and should probably be posting them here.  The latest one is here http://facebook.com/webhealing  It's about 2 minutes on the disdain our culture sees in grief and some history about sadness.

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That should read that health care professionals and researchers should contact Tom before posting.  Please don't worry about this.  They have been politely told for years that they are not welcome here on the boards.  There will be no change in that policy.  In order for people to feel a sense of safety here we know that having intrusive visits from even well meaning others can shut down peoples sense of community and the feeling of being free to say what you want.  We will continue to do our best to maintain a safe place here for those who are grieving. 

If you have any questions about this please feel free to ask.

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Child Loss / Re: Reintroducing Ourselves
« on: March 19, 2012, 09:09:35 AM »
HI Peggy -  You jogged my memory when you mentioned Bill Chadwick.  I loved Bill and haven't heard from him for quite a while.  I hope he is doing well.  Bill did some fantastic writing on overcoming our judgement of others around our loved ones death.  

Thanks for jogging my memory and for also reminding me that you were one of the originals!  

I guess I should also re-introduce myself.  I am the one who started these boards back in 1995 following the death of my father.  My dad was a research scientist who loved to see technology helping people so I couldn't think of a better way to honor him.

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Sibling Loss / Re: job
« on: December 06, 2011, 05:29:11 PM »
Helene -  So sorry that things are piling up and it's feeling overwhelming.  If you are thinking of suicide please know that there is help available.  A quick google search can put you in touch with many resources.  One of those resources might be this link:

http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/

Blessings to you.

Tom

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Child Loss / Re: An Introduction
« on: September 20, 2011, 01:28:48 PM »
Hi John - Welcome to the forums.  I'm glad you found something in the snake book.  That's good to hear and thanks for bringing it up.  Blessings to you in dealing with the volumes of grief that come from the death of a precious daughter. 

Tom

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