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Main / Re: Difficulty with Friend
« on: September 12, 2019, 09:25:00 AM »
Irene -  Sorry to hear about the troubles with this friendship.  Grief can put a strain on friendships.  When we are acutely grieving it is often difficult to reciprocate and be of help to others.  We are in a mess and our own troubles rightfully come to the top.  Friends of grieving folks need to be able to take care of themselves and be as kind and helpful to the grieving person while at the same time making sure that they are taken care of.  Many a friendship has been lost from this sort of dynamic.  If someone demands a one way relationship use caution and be sure to consider your own needs.   

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Main / Re: The Forums
« on: September 12, 2019, 09:12:22 AM »
Hi Irene -  good to hear from you and glad that you have had a good experience with the forums.  Sadly we are needing to turn things off so you may not be getting much of a response.  Tom

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Main / Re: The Forums
« on: August 23, 2019, 07:18:40 PM »
Thank you Barb, I appreciate the feedback.  What most don't know is that these were the first forums on the internet serving the bereaved. I started them in 1995 and they have been running since then.  Thousands of grieving folks have found their way here and it has been very fulfilling for me to watch the tremendous support that members here were able to give to each other. 

But it seems like the time to let things go and unless I hear a great deal of protests I will be turning things off.

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Main / Re: The Forums
« on: August 19, 2019, 09:29:54 AM »
Hi Lavonne - Thanks for your feedback.  I think you are correct that the activity level here is far too low for the boards to carry out their mission.  I will likely be closing them soon.

   

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Sibling Loss / Re: The Forums
« on: August 12, 2019, 01:25:16 PM »
Given the present level of interest I am going to make all of the boards with the exception of the MAIN board read only.  That means you can read them but you can't post to them.  If there is little activity on the main board I will then make that board read only.

Please respond here if you have comments.

Tom

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Suicide Loss / Re: The Forums
« on: August 12, 2019, 01:24:58 PM »
Given the present level of interest I am going to make all of the boards with the exception of the MAIN board read only.  That means you can read them but you can't post to them.  If there is little activity on the main board I will then make that board read only.

Please respond here if you have comments.

Tom

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Parent Loss / Re: The Forums
« on: August 12, 2019, 01:24:38 PM »
Given the present level of interest I am going to make all of the boards with the exception of the MAIN board read only.  That means you can read them but you can't post to them.  If there is little activity on the main board I will then make that board read only.

Please respond here if you have comments.

Tom

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: The Forums
« on: August 12, 2019, 01:24:17 PM »
Given the present level of interest I am going to make all of the boards with the exception of the MAIN board read only.  That means you can read them but you can't post to them.  If there is little activity on the main board I will then make that board read only.

Please respond here if you have comments.

Tom

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Child Loss / Re: The Forums
« on: August 12, 2019, 01:23:52 PM »
Given the present level of interest I am going to make all of the boards with the exception of the MAIN board read only.  That means you can read them but you can't post to them.  If there is little activity on the main board I will then make that board read only.

Please respond here if you have comments.

Tom

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Main / Re: The Forums
« on: August 12, 2019, 01:23:09 PM »
Given the present level of interest I am going to make all of the boards with the exception of the MAIN board read only.  That means you can read them but you can't post to them.  If there is little activity on the main board I will then make that board read only. 

Please respond here if you have comments.

Tom

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: How do I go on?
« on: August 10, 2019, 04:21:09 AM »
Amen to the idea of giving yourself permission to grieve.  That is the basics of it all.  The healing of loss and grief is directly connected to being able to tell your story and finding the outlets to be able to do that. Sounds like you have done that well.  Losing a spouse is tough.  One of the things that I have heard repeatedly is that losing a spouse is losing the one person who really "knew your story" and that is a huge blow.

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: The Forums
« on: August 10, 2019, 04:17:30 AM »
Thanks for the feedback Caspercat I am glad you have found some support via these forums.  The problem is that the participation has gotten so low that it leaves folks with a sense that they are alone here rather than a sense of support.  Maybe I should leave one of the forums up and running? What do you think of that?

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: The Forums
« on: August 06, 2019, 03:54:20 PM »
It seems there is very little interest in the boards at this time.  If I don't hear from someone about this I will do what I think is best.

Blessings

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Child Loss / Re: The Forums
« on: August 06, 2019, 03:53:47 PM »
It seems there is very little interest in the boards at this time.  If I don't hear from someone about this I will do what I think is best.

Blessings

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Main / Re: The Forums
« on: August 06, 2019, 03:53:21 PM »
It seems there is very little interest in the boards at this time.  If I don't hear from someone about this I will do what I think is best.

Blessings

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