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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Happy Heavenly Birthday Liz (((Chris)))
« on: February 03, 2013, 07:19:19 PM »
((((((Chris))))))))

Happy heavenly Birthday to your precious Liz. Hope today brings great memories for you.
Take good care,

Sonya

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: TEARS TEARS, I MISS LOU SO MUCH
« on: February 01, 2013, 09:09:07 AM »
((((((((Lisa))))))))

Good news about your Mom. Sounds like you are getting a little better if you can begin wearing shoes rather than the surgical one. Must be so frustrating as well as painful of course. Wishing you a speedy recovery and slow week at work when you return! xx

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: TEARS TEARS, I MISS LOU SO MUCH
« on: January 31, 2013, 09:52:02 PM »
(((((((((((lisa)))))))))))))

Just read this as catching up with older posts.

Sorry to hear that you have had to have surgery and that you mom is not very well.

I hope that you are reading this in a much recovered state and that your mom has had the treatment that she needs.

Hopefully you are in prettier shoes now! lol

Take good care,

Son xxx

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Update
« on: January 31, 2013, 09:46:39 PM »
((((((((Lou))))))))
(((((((Jean)))))))
((((((((John))))))

Thanks guys :) xxxx

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Happy Heavenly Birthday Jay - ((((TinaBeth))))
« on: January 30, 2013, 06:53:28 PM »
((((Tina Beth))))

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Update
« on: January 26, 2013, 09:25:26 AM »
Hi all,

not been on for a while so thought I would post a little update.
Like others I have a sense of çautious optimism'for 2013.

I have dcided that I now is the time for me to get out and about and meet some new people. Not made much of an effort since moving here but am now ready to.
So have told my friends of my plans and have been invited to join a treking group ( love walking and the outdoors, so perfect), another friend is looking into a climbing club ( I climbed a littel on climbing walls a few years ago and really enjoyed it), and went out with some friends last night for a brunch and some dancing.

One of my favourite things to do was cooking, I used to go down to the market with a cookbook, look at what was looking interesting and then flick through my cook ook looking for recipies over a coffee, before going and buying and then spending the afternoon cooking. My friends said I was a feeder but they all liked iti am sure.
Anyway, not done it in ages... So, pleased to say that I made lemon drizzle cupcakes the other day. Never made them before and never done any baking so was great. Have eaten far too many of them so they must have turned out well!

Small things but big deals.

SO yeah, generally optimisitc and looking forward. Still have grief, of course, work issues etc, but hey, thats just life, I am just really grateful to be looking forward and thought I would share.

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: New Year
« on: January 26, 2013, 09:03:07 AM »
((((((((((Jason)))))))))))))

Thats fantastic news. I am so happy that you are in love again and making plans for the future. You give me hope

Son x

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: 5 months
« on: January 26, 2013, 09:00:13 AM »
((((((((John))))))))))

good to hear from you, was wondering how you were doing.

I have decided that this year I need to get out there and make some new friends and socialise. Like you say, Its easy to live in a bubble.

Good luck with the move.I quite like living on my own now, although it was daunting at first.

Take good care,
Son xxx

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: So lost!
« on: January 26, 2013, 08:54:04 AM »
((((((((((((Rodney))))))))))

Hope that your situation is improving, both internally and externaly. You have been offered lots of excellent advice, which I am sure we all hope that you have not needed.
I wonder if you might consider seeking counselling of some form if you are unable to talk to your friends? Its a huge burden to carry alone.We are all here for you, but sometimes it is great to talk to someone non-judgemental who will listen and suppport you face to face. I went to one for a while and found it really helpful.
She encouraged me to talk through my confused feelings and also helped me to look for the positives in every day.

Take good care,

Sonya

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: New Year in Dubai (((Sonya)))
« on: January 26, 2013, 08:48:04 AM »
(((((((((Terry)))))))))))

Sorry i have not been on for such a long time.
I wasnt in DUbai, I was in Cumbria for the New Year in England. It was Tone's birthday on New Year's Eve so I avoid ll the party stuff, not ready for that yet.
I had a pretty good day and went to bed at 8:30am

 Got up at 4:30am and walked up Scarfell Pike (England's biggest mountain, probably tiny compared to US mountains!). The idea was to get to the top for dawn. We got a bit lost in the dark, strayed off the path but I think we still made the dawn, tricky to tell as the cloud came in on the top.

Bloody freezing, especially walking over the snow line when I am used to living in a desert! But I cannot think of a better start to the New Year! Absolutely beautiful and then a lovely big lunch after getting back.

Maybe I can start a tradition of celebrating New Year's DAy and looking forward, rather than New Year's Eve.

What did you do? Seems so long ago now but hope you had a lovely time.

Son x

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Thank you all for your caring thoughts.

So sorry that I have not een on here for so long. I did read them but somehow was not able to respond.

This year New Year's Eve was actually ok.

The run up to it was dreadful, the fear of remembering how awful last year was. But actually it was ok.

I took some yellow roses down to his rock at the beach. Sat and chatted to him for a while and listened to some music on my ipod.
When I was ready my friend picked me up and I went to hers for a cup of tea and just a general chat. About how we bth miss Tony, about how her boys are doing and the rest.

Went to bed at 8:30

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: My New Year
« on: January 26, 2013, 08:32:57 AM »
((((((((Jean))))))))))

Love it! We all deserve some optimism and  you wrote such a beautiful description of the learning that has come through this journey. I too am feeling cautiously optimistic about this year.

Son xxx

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: HAPPY BIRTHDAY KEVIN ( ZYLEN )
« on: January 26, 2013, 08:26:49 AM »
Happy Belated Birthday !!!!!!!!!!

Hope you had a great day xxxxxxxx

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Steps
« on: January 26, 2013, 08:24:14 AM »
((((((((((((John))))))))))))))

I love your post. It would be great if we lived in a society that was more open about grief and loss as well as joy and gain. Somehow dont think I will be introducing my first graders to the topic though...

(((((Terry)))))

I am so sorry that you have five dates in three months to get through. No wonder u feel broken, but I know you will get through this. You are the strongest person I know.

Son xxx

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Happy Heavenly Birthday, Kit! ((((( John )))))
« on: January 26, 2013, 08:17:43 AM »
(((((((John)))))))

Glad you are finding things to be getting slowly better. I found Tone's birthday this year a lot etter than I was fearing, certainly way better than last year. Will steal a little of your cautious optimism for myself too

SOn x

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