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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Denise's Angel Date (((Bob))
« on: July 29, 2013, 06:47:06 AM »
Thank you for remembering.
It has been a hard time. The second year was harder than the first, in ways. Hard to believe...still.
I miss Denise every moment. I still visit her grave with roses once a week. I have dated but nothing serious. Just have to keep on keeping on.
Still struggling with my beliefs. I want to believe so very much. I search and search...it is exhausting.
I attribute good things that happen to me to her. Maybe I am silly. Maybe I am just being human.
When I find a dime on the street...I think of Denise and this group.
Thanks again for remembering. The best to everyone. May you find peace.
Bob
It has been a hard time. The second year was harder than the first, in ways. Hard to believe...still.
I miss Denise every moment. I still visit her grave with roses once a week. I have dated but nothing serious. Just have to keep on keeping on.
Still struggling with my beliefs. I want to believe so very much. I search and search...it is exhausting.
I attribute good things that happen to me to her. Maybe I am silly. Maybe I am just being human.
When I find a dime on the street...I think of Denise and this group.
Thanks again for remembering. The best to everyone. May you find peace.
Bob
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Well, I did it ...
« on: October 26, 2012, 10:15:38 AM »
Congrats, John! 
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Well, I did it ...
« on: October 14, 2012, 04:40:17 PM »
Good news, John. Kitt would approve. She loves you and wants you to be happy and live. Good luck.
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: One Year Ago....Oct 9, 2011
« on: October 12, 2012, 05:46:00 AM »Hi Andy..Yes the one year anniversary is perhaps one of the hardest ones. I am sorry for the grief and sorrow that it brought to you.Well said.
You say many things and all are so true. I really can relate to all of them. And you are right..I think grief for our wives will be with us to our graves. Like you I cannot forget the horiffic memories of the day my wife died. I can never really stop loving her...if anything my love for her as grown since her death. Like you I know I have changed alot since my wifes death..it has seemed like an eternity since her death. Other people expect me to be the same man as I was, but those days are over. ANdy I think I am going to rejoin a grief group sometime...I am so sick of not being able to talk to people about my wife, so sick of accomodating their sensibilities. I hope you get through your grief andy, get through those dark moments between the anniversaries when all you have are your love for your wife, and your grief for her, and nobody is near. Take care friend (((andy))) arthur
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: One Year Ago....Oct 9, 2011
« on: October 10, 2012, 05:41:39 AM »
Andy, you are in my thoughts today. Haven't posted in a while. Been suffering alone and struggling to come to terms with Denise's death. But I feel and understand your pain and wanted to let you know I am sharing your feelings.
Bob
Bob
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Lou came for a visit
« on: September 25, 2012, 12:30:42 PM »
Nice dream, Lisa. Thanks for sharing.
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Emoticons
« on: August 23, 2012, 09:23:42 PM »
I wasn't getting emoticons either. I changed my profile, particularly the "Look and Layout Preferences" section. I selected "lots" from the drop-down list under Current Smiley Set, saved my profile changes and viola....smilies! Good luck. 
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Tone's Angel Date ((((( Sonya )))))
« on: August 23, 2012, 09:08:25 PM »
((((Sonya)))) My heart is with you.
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: I ran away
« on: August 23, 2012, 09:05:29 PM »
(((((Ann)))))
You have to do what is best for you now. I have turned down invitations, skipped holidays, been hold up alone in my troll cave for DAYS.
We have all suffered a tremendous loss. To those who understand it doesn't matter. Those that don't understand don't matter.
You have to do what is best for you now. I have turned down invitations, skipped holidays, been hold up alone in my troll cave for DAYS.
We have all suffered a tremendous loss. To those who understand it doesn't matter. Those that don't understand don't matter.
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Bill's Birthday ((((roseygirl)))
« on: August 23, 2012, 09:01:11 PM »
((((Rose)))
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Good money after bad
« on: August 23, 2012, 09:00:21 PM »
Ditto. I have overspent, over eaten, over worked, over exercised, and damned near ended a 19 year run of sobriety...anything to keep the brain busy. But when I turn off the light at night or wake up in the morning all the pain and memories come flooding back.
Don't beat yourself up, Mark. You're doing what you're doing till you find your feet again. Hang in there. Awareness of the problem is 90% of dealing with it.
Don't beat yourself up, Mark. You're doing what you're doing till you find your feet again. Hang in there. Awareness of the problem is 90% of dealing with it.
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: the begining of the end
« on: August 20, 2012, 05:39:11 AM »
(((((Jason))))) You loved her, she loved you. Love forgives everything.
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: A ANGEL'S KISS
« on: August 15, 2012, 10:04:36 AM »
Very nice. Thanks for sharing.
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Update
« on: August 15, 2012, 08:41:49 AM »
The lady (Lisa) I have been seeing lost a SO via cancer, just as I did. My twin daughters are grown (22 years old) so I think they are just happy to see me occasionally smile again. Denise's son's (my stepsons) and I have grown closer and both are happy that I have found someone.
I just wanted someone to have dinner with once in a while. Someone to talk to or call at the end of the day or when something of note happened.
I am learning. The relationship I had with Denise was organic....it grew over time. At times I fumble and make mistakes in this relationship, just as I did with Denise. But like Denise, Lisa has been patient, kind and understanding. She gives me enough room to find my way.
Good luck to both Jason and Ray and thanks to Terry for the info.
Bob
I just wanted someone to have dinner with once in a while. Someone to talk to or call at the end of the day or when something of note happened.
I am learning. The relationship I had with Denise was organic....it grew over time. At times I fumble and make mistakes in this relationship, just as I did with Denise. But like Denise, Lisa has been patient, kind and understanding. She gives me enough room to find my way.
Good luck to both Jason and Ray and thanks to Terry for the info.
Bob
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Sonya & Tone's Wedding Anniversary!
« on: August 15, 2012, 08:31:57 AM »
Best wishes, Sonya. (((((Sonya)))))
Bob
Bob