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Spouse, Partner Loss / I need Web Healing
« on: October 06, 2012, 11:50:53 AM »
I'm back.  For many years I was a contributor to webhealing.  Then something happened that I will not bring up.  Dor those who don't know me I lost my 30 yr old son to suicide.  I found him.  We were so close.  He was my best friend and we were almost constantly together.  As his girl friend said "you 2 were connected at the hip".  I am still trying to get over that at least a little for 8 years now.

Then on December 2, 2011, I lost my wife of 46 years Bonnie.  I am at a total lost now.  I miss them so much.  This house use to have 6 people in it years ago, now it is just me.  My wife and I never got to enjoy these so called "Golden Years".  Now each day is filled with tears.       

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Lost My Love on Dec. 2, 2011
« on: December 22, 2011, 01:40:37 PM »
Trying to pout on calendar

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Spouse, Partner Loss / How Much Can a Man Take?
« on: December 14, 2011, 09:43:44 AM »
It has been awhile since I've been on the board, I am back now as I need the support of all the fine members.

I lost my only Son on June 13, 2004.  I will never get over that as we were so very close.  He took his own life with a hand gun I gave him at his request.  He was 30.  I found him and he had shot himself in the head.

Now on December 2, I lost my strength, my partner of 45 years.  My sweet wife Bonnie died of severe COPD.  We brought her home rather than have her die in a cold hospital.  My daughters and I were with here 24 hours a day and then watched her slowly die.

I am so lonely now.  A 5 bedroom house with nothing but wonderful memories that hurt so very much.

Sorry for being so dismal, but I can't help it.

Don :LA:

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Child Loss / Excuse Me, But
« on: July 06, 2011, 09:35:01 AM »
Before leaving the board I took quite a bit of noise about my statement.

Now let me ask you this Are you all glad that Casey Anthony is now a free woman?  Don't think her Mother and Father would of been too up set if she had rightly found guilty.

Just wondering how my so called friends feel about that?

Dopn't get upset Tom.  I'm leaving

Don

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Child Loss / How is it possible?????
« on: June 20, 2011, 08:18:32 AM »
I am not here to stir more controversy.  Now I see even Tom is against me.  You all are saying that criminals, rapists, child abusers, etc. all deserve the same consideration as your child?

Well, I'll tell you my Son struggled with terrets syndrome, learning disability
bi-polar personality.  Yet he held a job with the Public Works since the day he graduated, 11 years.  Bought his own house and paid taxes just like you and me.  He did not suck off the system like so many today.

Now would someone convince me that the murderer,etc should be allowed to live out his life while my son, your son, your daughter, is taken by our "God"?  I have to wonder what method he uses to choose.

I have to think that those of you who feel that way should make an appointment to see Tom as he can tell you what to say and what not to say

After 7 enjoyable years I will always be thinking of you all.

Don

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Child Loss / So Sorry For Offending Some
« on: June 17, 2011, 09:57:15 AM »
I have been contacted by Terry in reference to the statement I made to Rebecca questioning why the bad live forever and the good kids die so young.

I NEVER EVER was refering to kids with addictions.  How could I? my Mom was an alcoholic all her life.  I too am a recovering alcoholic for the past 24 years.  My Grand So is presently in State mandated re-hab for drug addiction and of course I want him to live a long life.  Addiction, Alcoholism Cancer are all diseases that people don't ask to have, I know that quite well.

My Donny was with some scum friends the night before he killed himself.  He was depressed and these lovely human beings talked him into doing a couple lines of coke.  That morning he shot himself in the head.....  Whether you like it or not I would love to be able to avenge his death, but he did it no one forced him.

I am sure all of you watch the news at night.  Do you not see the rapists, murderers, parents that kill their own children, the sick o's who abduct women rape and then kill them?  These are the people I was refering to.
When I was in Vietnam I saw so many good kids killed why the ones with records were not allowed in the service.  Sorry I guess I must of gotten hard over the years.

I am sorry for any I offended.  I have decided that it is time for me to leave the board.  I am an extremely honest person, honest to a fault my friends tell me.  Well that is ME.  I will express my feelings but never with intent to hurt anyone else.    I* have read things on here that bother me also but still appreciate the persons right to speak their peace.

I will miss the board as for the past 7 years it has helped to keep me going.  I also have gained a lot of friends who are no longer on the board but we keep in contact by e-mail.

I wish you all the best on this hard, hards journey

The time has come to say Good-bye, thank you for all your help and now I will not be able to offend anyone.

Don

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Child Loss / A Sincere Thank You from Donny and Don
« on: June 14, 2011, 10:14:04 AM »
I want to thank all of you who recognized Donny's Angel Day.  As you all too well know it was rough and full of tears.  With friends like I have on this site it sure made it a little easier.

Rebecca:  I know you are close behind me on this.  May I ask how many times, in your line of work, do you wonder why they took your boy and left some of your clients behind?  I know I sure do.

Again, thanks to all of you

Don

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Suicide Loss / Where Is Every One?
« on: March 20, 2011, 09:19:20 AM »
Dear Parents,

I need you to help me with this horrible trip.  My Son and Best Friend comitted suicide.  I found him in his home with the gun I had given him still in his hand.  I a combat veterand and retired Chief of Police totally broke down and still do occasionaly.

I feel better when I get a chance to talk about my Son as he was my life, now I just drift thru each day.  I had been with him in his work shop just hours before, he seemed fine and he told me he was.  He walked me to my truck with his arm over my shoulder and said he would see me in the morning.  That never happened as I have narrowed it down to around 6:30 am that he left me.  There were no good-byes even as close as we were.

Please think about participating on this board.  Yes there will be tears but there will also be much support.

Don

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Child Loss / Terry
« on: October 02, 2010, 08:56:46 AM »
Terry would you please contact me at my e-mail.  [email protected].
I have been trying to answer you with negative results.  Thank You

Don

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Child Loss / Thanks for your help once again
« on: August 12, 2010, 08:47:13 AM »
About a week ago I posted about my wife's cousin saying she sould get over the loss of our only Son.  I asked for suggestions as to what to say to the cousin and I got quite a few responses.

After thinking it over, and reading your comments, I have decided that we will just ignore her and try to understand what were dealing with.  I at first so wanted to blast her hard.  My Irish temper was up.  After reading your posts I have decided it is better to block those selfish people out of your life.

Thank you,

Don

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Child Loss / How Cruel, What to Say Back
« on: July 31, 2010, 08:28:49 AM »
Yesterday my wife was on Facebook with one of her cousins that was always close to her.  She asked how my wife was doing and she said "alright I guess".  Her cousin then responded with, "It has been 6 years get over it".  My wife is destroyed by her remark.

On here over the years I have heard the members with great come backs to those kind of remarks.  Can you help me out with some of them, I just have to say something back.

Thank You My Friends

Don

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Child Loss / Trying to enter on calendar
« on: June 12, 2010, 08:34:54 AM »
Sorry, just trying to post on calendar, but failed again.  My best wishes to every one.

Don

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Child Loss / Feeling Totally Useless and a Burden
« on: February 21, 2010, 10:00:38 AM »
Not sure if any of you have felt like this but it sure has hit me hard.  Donny is approaching the 6 year mark that he left me in June 2004.  I knew when I found him my life was over.

Since June of 2004 I have developed diabetes and must take insulin, doctor gives me so many pills but nothing works for my severe depression.  Am so short of breath, have develped PADD (Peripheal Artery Disease in both legs and can now walk only about 4o yards until the excruciating pain hit.  I get severe dizzy spells and have fallen down several times.  There is more but you must be getting bored by now.

I have no strength or desire to do anything.  When Donny was here I would cut grass with him each day and work on his new house.  Oh how I loved being with him doing things.

I just feel like I am useless and a big burden on my family.  My wife and daughter are doing everything I just to be able to do.  I have become a 6'4" 265 Blob.  Life was so good up until June of 2004, now I can't wait until it ends.

Sorry for such a depessing Post but was just wondering if anyone else has gone thru this.  Take care my Friends

Don

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Child Loss / Will Christmas Ever Be Merry Again ???????
« on: December 07, 2009, 09:12:37 AM »
 :( This will be our 6th Christmas without our Son, our only son and the baby of the family.  Christmas was always a GREAT day in this house.  We had presents galore for our 4 children even if I had to borrow the money.  The greatest joy in my life was watching them unwraptheir presents.  Yes it was pandamoneium but so much joy.  My wife bought the girls presents and I bought Donny's.  He passed away at 30 and every year we would go to his house for Christmas Eve and then be together on Christmas.  He so loved Christmas.

Christmas morning he would run into our bedroom with a cow bell because he was so excited it was Christmas.  This was at 4 am.  I can still see him so clearly with his excitement.  The first Christmas after all the kids had left home, my wife and I were putting up the tree by ourselves.  We both started crying as we missed the kids doing it with us.  Donny had just happened to stop in after we had just got done.  He had seen our sadness and asked what was wrong?  I told him and every Christmas after that he came over to help decorate the tree.

Well he has left us now and all that joy is gone.  We ghhave not had a tree up in 6 years or any decorations or lights.  We do nothing now on Christmas but wait for it to pass. 

Will Christmas ever be Christmas again?????

Sorry but like most of you the holidays will never be the same..
Thanks for letting me get this o ff my chest/

Don

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Child Loss / You Never Know When the Arrow of Pain Will Hit
« on: September 14, 2009, 08:03:27 AM »
Yesterday was the first football Sunday of the year.  Since Donny was about 5 he and I would watch games each Sunday.  He loved his 49ers and I love my Patriots.  He and I would travel to each home game of the Patriots as I had season tickets.  Still do but haven't used them since he left me 5 years ago.

His 49ers fell into a deep slump after so many championships and of course I would bust on him like he did on me when the Patriots were not good.  Yesterday, amazingly the 49ers managed to beat the Cardinals who are a great team.  When the game was over both my wife and I started crying very hard.  Donny would of been so happy and whooping and yelling like he use to when he was here watching with us.  It hurt so, so bad.  We just looked at each other and that was it the tears came heavy.  Will this pain ever stop?  Just over 5 years now and it doesn't seem much easier.  These breakdowns happen so often.

Sports were such a big thing for Donny and I for so many years.  Now it hurts to watch them.  This lifeis not right and is so unfair for us all.

Sorry, but I had to get this off my chest and this seems to be the only place that anyone cares.

Don

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