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Crisis, Grief, and Healing => Sibling Loss => Topic started by: mary strain on November 17, 2011, 08:23:54 PM
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It has been quite awhile since I have been able to get into web healing. I finally figured out that I needed to contact Tom again. On Oct 9th my brother in law was killed in a car accident. It brings so many memories of Mark back. I have been trying to help my sister through this. I have been talking to her every day. I have still been making the stocking caps for Hope Lodge. They have a tree. It is made of copper and you can have a sayings put on it for your lost loved one. I now have one for Mark because I made so many hats. It felt so right to do that. I have missed you all and am to glad to be back.
Mary
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(((Mary))))
Gald to see you back, but I am so very sorry for the loss of your brother in law. Please know that my thoughts are with you, your sister and family.
Nice to hear that you're still doing the caps! ;)
Lots of love.
Pam
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Dear Mary,
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your brother-in-law! Yes, I can certainly imagine that such a loss must bring back many memories of your dear brother Mark. How good it is that you can be there for your sister and her family and that you are continuing to make your beautiful hats for the Hope Lodge Christmas Tree. I have no talent for sewing at all so I really admire those who can knit and sew. What a special way to remember people's loved ones. My heart goes out to you with the pain you are experiencing with the sudden and tragic loss of your brother-in-law. I have a brother-in-law too and he is extremely ill in hospital and barely hanging on to life by a thread. All the family is dreading his possible loss, including me. We all feel so helpless. All we can do is pray.
I just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you as well during this very difficult time.
((((Mary))))
Love,
Helene
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Mary ~ just wondering how you're doing and also your sister.
Please post if you like
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Browneyed Girl:
I am doing ok. I am trying to help my sister and her family. Sometimes it is hard. I try to be very supportive with her decisions. I try to talk gently to her and let her express herself anyway she can. I talk to her everyday. She has gotten sick with all the emtional turmoil. I will do the best I can for her. I love her so very much.
Love Mary
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(((((mary and mary's sister)))))))
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Hi Mary,
Thinking of you and your sister and hoping things are going well for you.
(((((((((Mary)))))))))
Love,
Terry
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Everyday I am talking to my sister and trying to let her get her feeling out without trying to make her like she was before her husband was killed. I know that she will never be the same. I dont want to be the sister that doesnt want to hear what she has to say. I know she hurts very deeply and if she want to talk about her feeling and Jerry that is fine with me. I love her so much and I hope I am helping her. I hate to see her in so much pain but all I can do is be there for her. Thank you So Much for asking. I read this sight daily to get insight on how I can help her and myself.
Love you All
Mary
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Sometimes just "I am here for you" works best.
Lots of love, Mary.
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Hi Mary,
It is good to have you back! You are obviously a wonderful support for your sister as she grieves for the loss of her husband and your brother-in-law. Coming from a broken - very busted up - family, I have not had that kind of closeness. Even with Lesley it was difficult because we were both so troubled from our past - the way we were 'raised' (if you can call it that). However, Lesley and I did have many close moments and shared a lot in spite of it all.
Your sister must feel how much you love her! The way you take time to talk with her every day is very special I think. It is truly a blessing to have that kind of closeness in a family, especially during times of grief which, as I have discovered, can go on for years and years.
With love from,
Helene
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(((((Mary))))
Thanks so much for the update. It was really good to hear from you. How fortunate your sister is to have you. Having someone to 'just listen' is what we all need the most.
We're always here to listen, too.
Love,
Terry
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(((Mary)))
Wondering how you're doing, and your sister....
lots of love.
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I am doing ok and I talk with my sister everyday and try to let her say what is on her mind. I have been thinking alot about Mark lately and know that his angel date is coming on March 8th. I cant believe it has been three years already. I have been doing the hats yet and meeting new people at Hope Lodge. I have been taking a lady shopping whose husband is going through chemo. I like her alot. I am learning more about myself by doing all these things. This has been very healing for me and I am so glad that I have come far enough in my grief that I can start to give back. I read this site every day and know that you are all helpful to me and I care about everyone of you.
Love
Mary
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I am doing ok and I talk with my sister everyday and try to let her say what is on her mind. I have been thinking alot about Mark lately and know that his angel date is coming on March 8th. I cant believe it has been three years already. I have been doing the hats yet and meeting new people at Hope Lodge. I have been taking a lady shopping whose husband is going through chemo. I like her alot. I am learning more about myself by doing all these things. This has been very healing for me and I am so glad that I have come far enough in my grief that I can start to give back. I read this site every day and know that you are all helpful to me and I care about everyone of you.
Love
Mary
Hi Mary,
Nice to see an update from you and glad to see you're now able to give-back. It takes time and a lot of that time has been devoted to your sister and the two of you are so blessed to have one another. Is your sister doing any better? Has she been able to move forward at all?
Love to you both!
Love,
Terry
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(((Mary))))
Thank you for posting. I, too, have been thinking alot about my brother, and, am also coming up on 3 years in March. I often wonder why I am reliving all of this again...I think it's beautiful that you're giving back....
lots of love.
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Hi Mary,
I too am glad to hear from you again and that you feel some healing happening in your life. How true it is that by giving of ourselves we not only see that other people are suffering too but also that we can make a positive difference in people's lives. Your close association and involvment with the Hope Lodge is truly wonderful. They are blessed to have a kind and loving person as yourself in their midst. I am thinking of you and, as Lesley used to say, I am sending you healing vibes, as your dear brother Mark's Angel Date approaches so close now.
With love to you,
(((((Mary))))))
Helene.