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[patty]

Hi, today is John's birthday.  It's the end of the day here at our little shop, it's the time when I would bring out the small birthday cake that I had baked to share with our 2 employees, we'd sing happy birthday, John would blow out his candles and we'd look forward to another year.  64.  Will you still need me, will you still feed me when I'm 64?  Remember that Beatles song?  Who would think that John wouldn't be here for his 64th birthday, it's still unbelievable even though it will be 5 years this coming April.  Birthdays are so hard, aren't they?  Well, he's here in my heart, now, forever.  I still miss him so much.  Thanks for listening, Patty

[Geraldine]

Dear Patty

It does not matter how many years since Jonhny left you, birthdays are I think the worse dates we never forget them, I just had a birthday myself and I remembered the things we would do, I was teary that day and I suppect I will be sad on that date for the rest of my life, the thing is they are still in our heart, we must always remember this, they live in our heart their place will always be there.

((((((((((((((((PATTY))))))))))))))))

[Lonnie]

Patty: I know that the birthday of John was so sad because you miss him so much. I wish I could give you a hug. What kind of shop do you have? I pray that you find comfort and peace in the days to come. I also know the holidays are so difficult as well. Losing a spouse must be absolutely horrible. I have seen my mom go through it, losing her love of 44 years, and it tears your heart out. They are such a part of all that we are and all that we do. Hugs-Lonnie

[Irene]

Hi Patty,

   I agree that it doesn't matter how many years go by. The birthdays and other special days are always full of memories and reminders of how much we miss our loved ones. I hope that good memories brought you some peace.     
     
     
   

   

[mbminton]

The "64" heading caught my eye because my fiance, Bill, and I used tease each other about that Beatles song.  We were both 5 and 6 years away from turning 64 but looked forward to those birthdays.  Yeah, birthdays are the pits.  This June 6 was Bill's 60th birthday and I had planned to celebrate it big-time with all of our friends and families.  Unfortunately, he died 9 months too early of inoperable pancreatic cancer.  I keep reminding myself to celebrate the happy days of his life, like birthdays, so I still threw a party for him up at his gravesite the weekend before his birthday.  I sent out invitations, had his favorite cake, balloons, etc.  Most of my friends thought I was crazy, but my true-blue friends and his mother and brother came.  They even brought cards for Bill.  I have encouraged all to keep sending cards because I am keeping them in a zipper-pouch and will take them to him when I join him.  Everyone brought a lawn chair and we sat and talked and reminisced.  On his real birthday a few days later, I went up by myself and released the balloons up to heaven to Bill.  It all made me feel so much better!  So go ahead and keep bringing out the birthday cake and singing every year.  It's hard as the dickens, but try to remember his life.  He is still celebrating with you.  It's almost Christmas now, and after a year and a half, I still cry a lot.  Now I am even getting an upset stomach, probably because of the stress of missing my Bill.