Been Away

[Rebecca]

We were in Aruba and I have not had a chance to catch up on here yet.  We are leaving again on Friday for Fla for Thanks, going with our daughter and SIL. It is very tough but I have to do this for my daughter.  Thanks has always been my most favorite holiday, and I can see Jason sitting to my right all the time.  While away, we went on a tour.  On the tour, there was a church.  Now you all know I am Jewish but I wanted to go into the Church to look at it.  There was a woman there lighting a candle and I watched her.  She turned to me and said:  My son died last Dec and I was in Aruba when he died.  She startedt to cry.  I said, I am so sorry but I know exactly how u feel for I lost my son almost 5 years ago.  She said what is his name and I said Jason. She lit a candle and said his name.  There had to be a message here.  Why would I be the one who watched her light the candle? Anyone have an ideas?
Rebecca Jason's Mom

[Annie1973]

Dear Rebecca,

As we walk through this life it can be so easy to feel alone in our hurt. Consider the chances of you being the ONE who was there in Aruba, a Jewish mom who just happened to want to see THAT church, and there, lighting a candle for her son was a lady that could be a blessing to you and you to her.
I don't know about anyone else, but when I envision you in that church watching that mom light a candle for her son and yours, I clearly see Jasons hand clasped in yours.

Much love,
Annie (Dans mom)

[Jeanneb]

God guides us...you listened... you were where you needed to be and so was she.

Jeanne
Philip's mom forever

[Terry]

Rebecca,

I'm so glad to hear you went away and Aruba is just lovely and something we all need to do, for our sanity. Good for you!!! And, how awesome meeting this woman in this church and sharing of your sons. I don't think this was a coincidence, at all. I also believe we are all connected by degrees, if you will and are destined to meet and always with a higher power setting the stage.

Jason is with you, always. How comforting this must have been for you and it warmed my heart, reading your post. And, thank you so much for sharing your awesome experience.

My Love,
Terry

[Brenda Taylors Mom]

Rebecca, I think our children are together and they plan these things. I dont think it was a chance meeting... what are the odds. Your boys brought you together.
Love
Brenda

[lwuest]

Dear Rebecca,

I think Aruba was 'heaven sent' for you and I am sure Jason put some heartfelt work into making sure you walked into that church and met this lady who also lost her son, but wanted to acknowledge you loss by lighting a candle for Jason.

I no longer believe in co-oincidences where bereaved Mothers are connected.  It's happened to me twice.  Both times when I was taking a trip just to get away.  I wasn't being rude, but I also wasn't inviting conversation.  The last time was just a month ago when I ran away to Las Vegas all by myself.

I sat next to a lady at a slot machine for about an hour, we chit chatted a bit, but not much.  She said she had to leave to meet her hubby and said they were getting ready to celebrate a big anniversary and her daughter wanted to plan a party.  She told me she didn't want a party.  She felt  happy because of the love in her marriage but so very sad  because their son had died five years ago.

We talked for twenty minutes or so, and shared a hug and went on our separate ways.  I was not looking to meet her, in fact I didn't want to talk to ANYONE.  But, somehow we crept into each other lives.  I'm glad we did.

I think that is what happened to you in Aruba.  You were supposed to meet that lady.  Maybe because she just lost her son and you, a little further in your journey, gave her hope. 

Hey, this whole journey stinks, stinks and I hate it.  Most times I try to choose the positive route but it doesn't always work.

Anyway, Rebecca, I think it was a special gift from Jason.  Take care and try to enjoy Florida

Linda

[WendyRN]

I am also of the opinion that "coincidences" are really just planned moments in time.  Part of the master plan.  I've said before that I am not part of an organized religious group but I am spiritual in my own way.  Which is every bit as valid and important.  Rebecca, I bet your "chance" meeting was anything but.  That brief encounter meant to help sustain your belief in a higher power and life beyond.  Perhaps this mother needed you there, that moment.  And you her. 

Wendy, Keith's mom

[Erics Mom]

Well- I have been "away" for many years-- something made me come back to this board- the place that kept me alive almost 13 years ago when my son, Eric, died.  And then I read your post and related......3 years ago- on the 10th anniversary of Eric's death- we asked people to commit a random act of kindness in his honor.  My husband, son and I went to one of the Lake Erie islands for the few days and being winter there was really no one onto whom bestow this kind act.  On our way home we stopped at a McDonalds.  I bought a gift card thinking I would just give it to a fellow diner on my way out....but there was no one else in the restaurant!  All of a sudden this older woman came in for a take-out order.  I followed her out the restaurant- I"m sure I made her a bit nervous- and then I handed her the card and told her why I was doing so.  She suddenly started crying and told me that one year before her grand-daughter was killed while at a local college!  And I thought the same as you- what put me in that place at that time- handing out a McDonald's gift card to this woman.  She talked for a long time and then left....I think we both were left a little "lighter" for our meeting.  The world works in mysterious ways!
Karen