Golden Rules

[sevenofwands]

Hello to all:

This evening going through some old boxes of papers and stuff I came across this page:

Ten Golden Rules for Myself

1. I should give myself the same care and attention  give others
2. I am not an endless"resource" for others.  I must stock up on "reserves" and not get too drained.
3. I have needs which may be different from my family, my friends or my collagues
4. I do not have to say "yes" to all requests - or feel guilty if I say "no".
5. I have the right to be treated with respect as a worthwhile, intelligent and competent person
6. I do not have to have everyone's approval all the time to know that I am trying my hardest
7. Time for unwinding is time very well spent.
8. Making mistakes is not a disaster- I can learn from these and it allows other to as well.
9. I must be fair tomyself and remember, at all times, especially in the face of criticism, anxiety and difficulties THAT I AM DOING THE BEST THAT I CAN.

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Sounds to me like a very healthy recipe ....

Best to all
Seven

[sevenofwands]

Grief is so exhausting, and can take so much out of a person, that he or she becomes overwhelmed.  The problem can then be compounded by trying to please everyone, by doing too much, by compensating, often through a mistaken sense of guilt.

I think this is a valuable golden rule:


"NO!" is a Complete Sentence.
""You are a good person even if you say no to someone. You are enough! You are a valuable and necessary part of this mosaic of humanity. Love yourself enough to say NO! You are enough just as you are and making excellent decisions that shape your world. Release any judgment or self-criticism; you cannot be all things to all people. You can be true to yourself, your values and your inner needs.""

[georgiapeaches]

very well said, Seven

georgia.

[tsurandy]

Seven, thanks for posting this.  I have a lot of trouble saying no!  I find myself doing things I really do not want to do.

[browneyedgirl]

This is great, Seven, thank you!!

[Donna B.]

Hi seven you always have the best advice. Thank You for this one, really needed it.

Love Donna

[sevenofwands]

Donna!

It is great to see you here.  I do hope things are a bit easier for you.
As Winter sets in, it can be a hard enough time of year, and the recession does not help either!

Tsurandy:

Thank you too.  It is quite a trick to learn to say "no", and to please oneself, in as far as that is possible.   And yet, doing so places one in a better position to then "do" for other people.  Seems paradoxical, but it isn't.


Good to see you too Browneyes and Georgia.

Best to all
Seven

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