one year anniversary comeing up

[dragonlady2865]

This Friday makes it one year my step mom passed away.  I honestly didn't think it would hurt this bad.  I still miss her so bad.  Just the other day I caught myself picking up the phone to call her.  And on top of it all my dad is acting strange, not himself.  He will yell at you for no reason but hethinks there is or he comes up with stuff where you just there and go HUH??  I know he is griveing in his own way but I am worried he is loseing it.  Well thank you for listening.  I will probably be around for awhile as it all feels so fresh like it all happened yesterday.  Thank you all again for being here.

[Luvinmike]

Dear Dragonlady;
Sending you strength to continue on through this grief and loss. Sorry to hear your Dad is struggling. Maybe check on his diet and even with his doctor, maybe get some help. Take good care of you to keep yourself healthy. Sorry you are missing Mom2.
Terri

[georgiapeaches]

Hi Chris,
Glad to see you back, sorry your feeling bad, sorry about your dad, its hard. It really helps to talk or write things out, I thought things would get alittle easier after the year anniversary, they just get different. Like Terri said, drink plenty of fluids and get plenty of rest, thats the best thing to do, take care of you.

Georgia.

[bluegrass1965]

I don't know how old your dad is, but I agree with the other posters....if his behavior has changed suddenly it would probably be a good idea to take him for a check up and discuss these issues with his doctor.  This is expecially true if he been put on any new medications in the past few months. You could ask his doctor to do a depression screening also.

It may be that your dad is feeling some of the same emotional pain you have described having about the first anniversary of your stepmom's death. Since everyone grieves in their own way and on their own schedule, even if he was pretty much functional for a year he could still be having a rough time over that.  Try to be patient with him and with yourself.  You could also do something special together on the anniversary to celebrate her life. 

My dad just died about last month but even the 1-month anniversary of his passing was horrible and I cried off and on all day. I can't imagine what a whole year will feel like.   :-( 

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