Is anyone still so tired?

[georgiapeaches]

Hi everyone,
I was just wondering if it was just me or is everyone still so very tired? I cant seem to get all of my energy back. I do have alot on my plate, but my husband was sick for along time so I always had alot on my plate, it was just alot different. I do have alot of stress, but I cant seem to ever feel fully awake, I am always so tired, anyone else?

georgia.

[Jap Jr]

Yes I am ........ I thought maybe I just wasn't getting along in my grief very well. I just can't seem to get into a routine of sleeping, no matter what. I walk, watch pretty much what I eat, but still feel drained. Crying still, so maybe that is why. Missing Jim so much more with the 1-year anniversay coming up ........ makes me anxious more. I feel alot of stress with my life; finances. I just pray I can stay afloat doing this on my own.

Some peace for all of us
Better days for you Georgia .....

Hugs

Kay

[tsurandy]

Absolutely! 

[carrieset]

Yes.......after almost 10 months.

I am up in the morning and four hours later am so exhausted want to go back to bed.

It is a weary road..........

I think our minds get so tired, replaying everything.

Peace to all here,

Carrie

[Luvinmike]

Nice topic Georgia, it is a big part of this grief. I like that Carrie said it is like replaying over and over, then the crying and pain. It is depleting. I am about 65% back and I am determined to have that energy again, that is a relief. That is progress to want anything at all. I have in eighteen months gained and now lost over 35 lbs. The no- sleep had me gritting my teeth to the point of needing dental work too. Now I am more rested. Not fully but it is an improvement over a year ago- crawling and body aches like the flu. I get the body aches now when I have a really busy week.
 I would say walking and eating right are paying off, but slowly. I need more energy too, so if you find ideas post them.
Thinking of you Georgia!
Terri

[cokieslittlegirl]

Me too. I have not had too many problems sleeping, occasionally I wake up in the middle of the night with so many thoughts and can't fall back asleep. Mostly, I pass out every night and get 8 hours of sleep.  And with that I am still exhausted it seems.  The thoughts, the grief, willing ourselves to plow ahead is all so draining.  I do think exercise is a big thing...I need to get in to more of a routine. I worked out all the time before my dad got sick, and now it seems so foreign to me. Weird. I know my Dad would want me to be taking care of myself. He was such a healthy man.

So just because  I AM getting sleep...doesn't make me feel any more rested. Sleeptime is the only part of the day I look forward to...

Wishing you and everyone days of strength and peaceful sleeps.

[laurenE]

I slept all the time for the first year or so.    9-12 hrs at night and then a nap in the afternoon/evening after work.   Grief is exhausting! 

[georgiapeaches]

Thanks guys, you know whats funny? that was my moms favorite saying "is it just me" I laught to myself when I say that, but I did think it was just me, even when I get a great night sleep, I could nap a couple of hours later, thanks again for the feedback. I guess we all need some rest. .

georgia.

[carrieset]

Gosh, back to wondering today why I am so exhausted.  ANd get enough sleep.

For me, I believe it is the mental rehashing of Laurence's illness, guilt issues that sometimes arise, financial stress, kids, the loneliness, doing it alone again, thinking about the good times before illness, and it goes on and on and on............

Yeah, very mental I am..........I'm weary.......

Next week is 10 months.  No wonder I'm tired. 

Carrie

[MISSINGYOU]

yes to all.

[bluegrass1965]

Hi Georgia, If you have not had a check up and blood work recently you might do that. I was so exhausted this past month that I slept through entire days almost, even after sleeping at night.  Dad had just died and I figured, that's what it is--part of the grieving and total exhaustion from trying to do everything. Well, I had a check up this week and am severely anemic and have an underactive thyroid.     I am sure that with all of the upheaval this month I would be tired anyway, but at least a blood test you can rule out any correctable medical issues.  I have not been eating great either which has probably not helped the anemia.  Just a thought.

::: uploading extra sleep for anyone who needs it :::::

[georgiapeaches]

Hi Bluegrass,
Thanks for that  , yes I did go to the doctor today and am getting bloodwork done, she also thinks I am perimenipausal  yeah explains alot. I think since I stopped smoking I went downhill? could that be? I think I need a new bad habit, well maybe not. I did get out last night and went to a baby shower for my neighbor and of course I had the heeby jeebies beforehand and didnt want to go and was thinking of any excuse not to go but I had a blast, it was small and just a couple of woman plus her brother who was super nice to me, we had so much fun, it was really a nice change of pace. now back to reality.  . hope everyone is doing well.

georgia.

[bluegrass1965]

I hear you, I had a hard time getting out and for several weeks I just avoided speaking to almost everyone, even going through the check-yourself-out lane at the grocery to avoid having to deal with any conversation while I paid. 

Especially right after dad died, I felt so fragile--like even a noise or someone looking at me strangely would cause me to shatter into a million tiny pieces.

[mt2186]

Yes, I'm constantly tired. I'm thinking of going out to get a coffee as I write this

[Luvinmike]

It is so tiring to be tired all the time! This is sort of funny now, I had a a terrible night' sleep, drove to work for 9 am and when I got there I decided to just drive past and go home. So I drove by, came home and called out. I was just too tired. Oh well. Something everyone wants to do once in a while I bet.I am glad I did it. It was 70% here today- and I painted my fence. So, we have to give ourselves a break when we can.
terri