Get Over It

[JuliansShadow]

Death affects everyone; no one is exempt from it. At some point we all lose someone precious. It's inevitable

I had recently lost a cherished photograph of my little brother; I carried it everywhere in my wallet. Sometimes looking at him with his smile would cause me to tear up and bawl, othertimes I couldn't stop laughing at the shenanigans we pulled growing up.

Our mother keeps the original negatives of this particular photograph; I'd emailed her asking for a copy or the negative so I'd never fear losing his picture.

I received a phone call the other day, in it our mother said "This is the 3rd picture you've misplaced, you obviously don't care about them. Just get over Julian and stop being so depressed." No words can describe the betrayal I felt.

My mother is a accomplished nurse but she sounded so cold and indifferent.

Has anyone else ever had this happen?

[georgiapeaches]

Dear Juliansshadow,
First I want to say I am so sorry for your pain. And yes I have experienced this and I can say alot of people on this site have also, if you look back at earlier post, some you will see on this very subject. People can hurt your feelings so badly without even realizing what their saying. My daughter has a box of my husbands stuff, just shirts and little objects, pictures and such, everywhere she goes, she takes it, so I know how you feel. Maybe your mom was just having a really bad day herself? Maybe really missing your little brother Julian and needed to vent on someone? I know it happens, I've done it myself, as bad as it sounds. When the bad days roll around its hard to hide them. Maybe talk to her, tell her how you feel? I hope you feel better, wishing you peace.

Georgia.