Job interview

[Luvinmike]

Hi friends;
I am going on my second job interview since losing my husband 18 months ago. I got the job on the first one last summer, even though I cried during the interview.
The pressure got to me. I miss Mike. He would say,"Don't underestimate yourself!"
Well, this interview is for a competitive good job- I am afraid I will get nervous and blow it. I am keeping my perspective and not getting too worked up about it. I am actually taking Kevin's advice- nothing is as bad as losing our spouse, so if I cannot cope w/ the pressure I will just let it go.
I will be disappointed though as I have to put two kids thru college starting next year. Our daughter is already in college and son graduates in May. Big money- but I will not waste my brain on extra worrying. So, I just wanted to write this as it helped me just to tell someone, I get nervous being in charge of my whole family by myself- my parents need lots of help simultaneously, sigh...
I am proud of myself so far in this unimaginable life, so I guess it is just about not giving up sometimes. Well, thanks for listening. I wish everyone a little peace.
Terri

[Terry]

Hi Terri,

You'll do just fine. I'll be holding positive thoughts for you. And, if this is the right job, the one for you...you will get it, I'm sure of it. And, if it isn't, that job is out there just waiting for you!

Looking forward to hearing all about it!

Lots of luck & Big hug,
Terry

[bluegrass1965]

Don't give up!  Look at how far you've come and all that you have accomplished up to now....parenting alone is tough work even when the kids are older, and you are setting a great example for them about perseverence. Especially if you are also balancing the needs of your parents as well...I know from my own family that can be a full-time job on its own.

Be good to yourself as you prepare for the interview--try to eat well and get a little exercise, even if it is just a 15-minute walk around the block. When I had an interview I was nervous about I actually practiced breathing calmly so I wouldn't rush through what I was saying and get flustered when the big day came. It also helped to practice an interview with someone I trusted, who would tell me if I sounded hurried, waved my hands too much etc!

On the big day you can try taking a deep breath, thinking positive and considering the interview as an experience, not a test. You might get the job; you may not, but the next interview you will be even braver and more self-confident. ++++++ energy and peace to you.

[laurenE]

Cheering for you as you anticipate this job.   You can do it.   Keep us informed!!

lauren

[Jap Jr]

Terri;

sounds like good advice from our friend Kevin; and Mike - do not underestimate yourself; you are a wonderful person and deserve this job! think positive .

keep us posted - can't wait to hear you got the job!

peace and strength and a (((hug))) !!!

Jap Jr's Kay

[tsurandy]

Terri-
You are a wonderful person, I wish you the best, you can do it!  I am praying for you!  Will want to hear all about it!

Randy

[MISSINGYOU]

Terri interviewing is difficult in the best of circumstances. I am sure you are stronger than you think and feel. Head up take pride in yourself and breath breath breath. If it is meant to be it will and if not then you will find something else. God bless

elizabeth

[sevenofwands]

Hello Terri:

I want to say to you exactly what Mike would have said: "Don't underestimate yourself."  We are often our own worst critics!  I am sure you will do wonderfully well at the interview.  After being through what you have been through, and coping so well with all your family commitments, you are certainly "well qualified" to deal with almost anything IMO.
You deservedly are proud of yourself, and do make sure that shines through at the interview. 

I wish you every luck and success, and we look forward to hearing that you nailed that job!

Best wishes
Seven

[browneyedgirl]

Terri ~ wishing you good luck!  Let us know what happened!

You'll do great!

[georgiapeaches]

Terri,
You can do this! keep you head held high, you made it this far, I bet you never thought 18 months ago that you could make it this far right? neither did I. so keep that confidence with you. I'm cheering for you! you got it in the bag! go girl!

love, georgia.

[Luvinmike]

TANK YOU to everyone- I did not get to interview for this one- I think they already had someone picked as I was cancelled out with others- more proof of the competitive job market. I do have another interview Thursday and another lead- so I am staying confident and your warm words have helped enormously.
I know this stuff doesn't touch the real pain in life- like our losses, or anyone on this board's grief- but it helps sometimes to talk about the daily responsibilities sometimes. So I do appreciate it.
Thank you and I will let you know WHEN i have some success. I am wishing every single one of you a moment of peace and the knowledge that your grief is shared by many. I know it helps me a little bit and I am grateful for all of you!

[Lisasean2001]

Terri,

I am sorry that you did not land the job. However, as you said, that does not hold a candle to the experiences we have already endured. I do hope that you find a job that is suited to you and that it helps you in your journey.

Wishing you the best of luck in your future endeavors.

Sean

[georgiapeaches]

 
their loss!
georgia

[mousewife]

Teri,

I haven't been on for a few days so I didn't see your post till today.  I did stop and pray for you before I read that you didn't get to interview.  I know how you feel about interviews.  I have always been that way too, and miss my husband's support and prayer too.  It is good that you are finding some opportunities.  I have only had one interview since my husband died, and that was for a very difficult and low paying job that would have only lasted two months.  I told them in the interview that it wasn't a good match for me.

I also understand about the overwheming responsibilities of taking care of or helping your parents.  I have the same thing with my mother.

Regarding the need to talk about daily stuggles and responsibilities,  I also agree.  Yesterday after several weeks of having trouble with chipmunks getting into my garage and chewing through my wood frame and wallboard, and finding two dead ones in there that Journey had killed, I finally called an exterminator to come and kill them.  I felt so badly about doing this, and worrying about their suffering, I forgot to put the garage door up and backed into it.  Now I have even more to deal with.

I think you have a right to feel proud of yourself and I am happy for you that you are finding jobs to apply for and getting interviews.

Peace and Healing,
mousewife

[tsurandy]

Teri-

The right job will come along!  My prayers and thoughts are with you!

Randy