Our Kevin has died

[laurenE]

I was informed today that our webhealing friend Kevin passed away on Aug. 30. His funeral was Sept 3.

  He is now with his beloved wife.   Many of you did not know that he suffered from lung and brain cancer.  He was only diagnosed a few months ago.

 My heart aches as I am sure yours does as well.
    
Let us use this time to remember our friend Kevin by posting our memories, wellwishes and thoughts here.  When an internet friend dies,  it is difficult to gain closure since we can not attend a funeral, bake a cake, or send a flower.   So let this post be our offering of our own grief of the dear friend we have lost.  I have a feeling Kevin will read every one of them!

Rest in peace our dear Kevin.

lauren

[browneyedgirl]

Oh my goodness, I cry as I type...he was so friendly to me, and often joined me in chat.

So sorry to hear of this.

Here is something he wrote to me...

" know what you mean - we become sort of like family in a  way, knowing what the others are going through and have been through and we can always count on each other for acceptance and understanding. It always helps no matter what the problem is to write a few words and post them. A big thanks to Tom for maintaining this site."

So sad....

[sevenofwands]

I am so so saddened by this news.  May you rest in peace, dear friend Kevin.  You always had a sensible, kind and insightful word for everyone.  This board will miss you so very very much, and I will miss you terribly.  I never met you in person, I don't even know what you look like, Kevin, and yet I now feel like a member of my own family has passed away.  I will remember too your sense of fun, and your humour.

I thought you would beat the disease, and I have a PM from you of 22nd August in which you sounded very optimistic. 

You sometimes used to refer to me as "Seven of Nine", so I now hope, Kevin, that you have met up with Betty somewhere out there way way beyond the stars. 


Your friend
Seven

[laurenE]

Wow, you heard from him just a week before he passed.  Bless his heart.  I so enjoyed his post and chatted with him in July or early Aug.  He told me that nothing he has ever gone through, health or otherwise,  was ever as painful as loosing his wife.    He used to say grief is not for wimps.

We had a good time chatting about our southern family.   We chatted in southern talk one time  and I would just laugh.  He had no idea that by doing that, it brought a little bit of my estranged southern family and tradions back to me,  if only just that moment. 

I'll so miss him,  even though I only chatted with him 2 times.  Reading his post over these last 2 yrs  just brings us all so close.  I encourage each of you to assign a friend to post on here if you should ever die so that we can gain some closure and talk about you.  We all know anything can happen at any moment and when someone stops writing,  its easy to assume they just got bored and moved on.  It would be nice to know for sure. 

lauren

[Donna B.]

My dear friend Kevin, may you rest in peace. Since Kevin had found out he had cancer we had started talking on the phone at least once a week, because he knew my husband died of lung cancer and I had been through breast cancer. I just knew he was going to beat this, he was so upbeat and seemed almost healthy hadn't lost a pound and was eating good. Now I am sitting here thinking I can not remember the last time I talked to him on the phone. I received an e-mail from him on Aug. 15th. It was a forward e-mail it simply said Dear God I pray for the cure of cancer. Amen. I sent it to several people. I feel so bad because I did not try and call him sooner. But after Laurens post I e-mailed him and tryed to call several times, than my daughter found the obit. on the internet. At first I couldn't believe it was him, but I talked to a coworker of his and he said it went fast. So now I feel like I have lost a good friend. After my daughter died he would call me to see how I was doing. That was Kevin, always thinking of the other person. He always said the cancer and what he went through was nothing compared to what his dear wife Betty went through and how he felt after she died. The comfort I can find tonight is that they are back together again. Love you Kevin.

Donna

[SoCal2010]

I feel in shock. I'm so sorry to hear the news. It seems so sudden.

His posts always had something upbeat about them. You could tell he was a positive person.

I will miss seeing his words. I'm glad he is with his wife again though.

[rita-grammy]

Rest in Peace dear Kevin....I will always cherish the very kind words he had for me when I first started posting after Becca's passing....He will be missed...I see him with his Betty...and he's happy....


hug my Becca for me Kevin


Rita

[Terry]

I don't understand???

Sweet Kevin, I am missing you so much right now but I am also angry and so very confused.

I spoke to Kevin after his last procedure, when the doctors discovered a new and different strain and assured Kevin that this was an excellent sign.
And they 'also' assured Kevin that this new strain could be effectively treated with chemo.

He had few side affects and all was going well, as his spirits were high and he was so, so very hopeful. And, this was the end of July.
(He was SO optimistic, he was making plans!!)

A week later, he met with his Oncologist, actually, he met with 'three' doctors and they, once again, assured him that everything was going well and they were very hopeful.
This was around the 10th of August??!!

And, not even 3 weeks later he is gone??!!

I could go on, but I will reserve any opinions/feelings I have out of respect for all those here who loved him and are missing him so badly tonight.

I have marked my calendar for September 23rd for 2010 and will every year that follows in remembrance of a wonderful and giving person. Kevin will remain in my heart forever.

Gone Too Soon....

I love you, sweetie....

Terry

[carrieset]

 

I am soooooooo sad to hear this...........I knew he was battling some health issues.

What a wonderful comfort and support he was to me during the last several months.  I am shaken by this............he was so optomistic and was such a caring man.

I am so sorry for him, his family..........he went through alot losing his wife, but so much encouraged me after Laurence died of brain cancer.

What a terrible loss.........makes me cry..........I don't understand why bad things happen to such a wonderful person.

May he meet his wonderful wife..........he loved her so much.

Carrie

[grainofsand]

It is odd how somewhere in my mind I came to a place thinking that as long as we are in Webhealing dealing with the death of our loved ones, we were 'safe' here.  You know, since we have to deal with the pain of our loved one being gone, we had our share of pain, so death shouldn't bother us anymore.  So very sad and shocking when death snatches another one from us.  


I met Kevin shortly after he lost his beloved Betty.  He was a regular in the chat room with a hand full of us that recently found this site.  There were many times he would leave the chat room open on his work computer just so no one would have enter a empty room.  In his healthier days, he was "always around" and I think it was easy to take that for granted that Kevin would always be there for us.

May you rest in peace Kevin.  You served mankind well with your love and caring.  

Here is his obituary and a place where you can send condolences to his family and friends.  We might post here what Kevin meant to us, but his family and friends will not see it.  We all should let them know how he impacted our lives here in webhealing.


Kevin James Kloubec
(March 26, 1948 - August 30, 2009)
Click on the blue and it will take you to his page

[laurenE]

Thankfully Kevin let some of you know who he really was so that this obituary can be shared.  Thank you for sharing it with us grain.  I did go and sign the guest book.

[sevenofwands]

I second what Lauren has said, Grain.  Thank you for giving us  the details regarding the obituary and book of condolences.
I have also signed that book.  Reading the other entries there I can see that Kevin was much appreciated and loved, and his work touched and bettered the lives of many people.
R.I.P.

Seven

[Terry]

Thank You Grain for posting this info about Kevin. You are so thoughtful. It doesn't matter 'what' is going on and on 'what' board, you are always there for everyone.

Biggest hug & lots of Love,
Terry

[grainofsand]

For anyone who would like to read about Kevin's dear wife Betty here is her Obituary:


Betty Sue Kloubec
(December 6, 1942 - February 14, 2008)

Click on blue to read

Many of us had the privileged to walk and cry tears along with Kevin through some of his hardest moments of his journey.  He grieved with dignity for the wife he loved so much.  I would like to honor his memory by remembering his precious Betty as well.  Kevin exchanged his tears of grief for the one he missed so desperately, for tears of joy in a twinkling of an eye when he left this place.

I lift my glass to make a toast to you both:  No more sorrow, no more pain...together always and never to be separated again !  Cheers !!!!

[SoCal2010]

Thanks for posting the link to guestbook. It was interesting reading about his life. He was a very accomplished man. I also noticed how in some of the messages people left they talked about him reaching out to them during tough times. The best people always die young, I don't understand it.