husband's 53rd birthday would have been 9-14

[mousewife]

Hi all,

I am just feeling badly about my husband's birthday, which is tomorrow, 9-14.  I still miss him and my life with him so much.  I feel so alone.

I like to donate money to a good cause in his memory on his birthday and Christmas, but haven't been able to get this done yet due to being ill this last week.  Hopefully I will get out tomorrow and do it.

It is just so hard and different to have no more celebrations and no one to shop for for special days.  I miss it.  I also miss that no one else even thinks about his birthday, or ever offers encouragement for these difficult times.  I know they think it is all over with and it doesn't even ocur to them.  I would just like for him to be remembered and for somebody to acknowledge his birthday. It seems the world has pretty much forgotten that he ever existed, but he did, and the world was a better place for it.

Thanks for listening,
mousewife

[carrieset]

mousewife:

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TODAY TO YOUR BELOVED!!! 

I know it is a shame people do forget.  Laurence's landmark birthday was July 31 -- he would have been 60 and looked like he was easily 50.  Did not look his age at all.  No one even mentioned his birthday and he had only been gone 7 months.

Your husband was still very young when he died.  What a shame!!!!!!!!   I know that ALONE feeling.  It sucks, to say the least.........

I will be thinking of you and him today.  I know the world was a better place for having him in it.  I hate that people forget that.

BIG HUGS to you,

Carrie

[laurenE]

Happy Birthday Mr Mousewife!!!  From your friends at webhealing.

Mousewife,

I have those same thoughts about my mother.  I take the time to drive 100 miles on her bday  just to put a balloon and flowers on her grave and am the only one who does so.   I am the only one who puts flowers on her grave on the anniv date of her death.   When my gma died 6mos after mom did,  no one mentioned her name, as if she didnt exist.   I was sure someone would, especially during gmas funeral,  as that was my mothers mother.   It hurt and I was sad for my mother.

   My mother was the black sheep but was used by her siblings anytime they needed money (not that she had it to give but she always sacrificed for them) or a free babysitter.  You would think they would take the time to thank her after death.  But why should they.  They didnt bother  when she was alive.

I guess it goes to show that we find out who are true loved ones are after we die.   Funny I would be the one.  She beat me to a pulp with her fist all of my childhood,  among other violent and sick things.
   
I guess it says alot about us too mousewife.  I'd rather be like you and I than to be like those who walk away and dont honor the deceased once they are gone.

Right now I am honoring you for who you are.  And I hope you do the same.  You deserve a little something special for yourself.  Go out to dinner in his and your honor, for who he was and the wife that you still are.   What a wonderful wife you still are to him.  And I think he knows that.  What a lucky guy!

your friend,
lauren

[Luvinmike]

Kind thoughts of strength and endurance sent your way Mousewife. I am so sorry, I miss my husband so much too. We are all here listening if you want to tell us a story of the two of you, how you met or what something you did together... If it helps please tell us about your loss.
I am sorry again and hope you find peace in a memory of a shared beautiful moment you spent with your husband. (((Mouse)))))
Terri

[cokieslittlegirl]

Happy Birthday to your dear husband!  I hope you can smile in his memory today.

peace and strength to you.

[mousewife]

Hi all,

Thanks so much for your recognition of my husband.  It helps my heart to see that at least four other people are thinking about him on his day of birth.  He did matter.  Also thanks for the thoughts for me.  It helps a lot.

Lauen,

I am sorry to hear of how you were treated as a child.  In view of that it seems an act of forgiveness and your love to continue to honor your mother.

mousewife

[georgiapeaches]

Happy Heavenanly Birthday Mr. Mousewife!

georgia.

[browneyedgirl]

Happy Brithday to Mr. Mousewife!

thinking of you on this day

[SoCal2010]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to your beloved husband.

That's a great idea about donating in his honor.

(((hugs)))

[Jap Jr]

Happy 53rd Birthday to your dear Husband ......

Jim's BD is the 28th and I wonder who will remember ........ mine is the 25h
We loved to celebrate them together; Jim's daughters is the 30th, my son the 6th and a good friend of ours the 23rd; September is a great month, was a great month.

Thinking of you ..............

((( Hugs ))) to you on this day .........

Kay

[pepper309]

I haven't reached my brother's birthday yet.  It will be in January.  I was thinking that I might get some helium balloons and write messages on them and then release them.  Then I might spend the day doing activities that make me feel good.  Even if no one else stops to remember your husband you can do things that make you feel good too.  Treat yourself to a spa day or do some activity that makes you happy.  I know that is eaiser said than done.  Someone wrote to me and told me that any time I am smiling my brother is smiling too.  I'm sure that the same holds true for your husband.  He would want for you to do something nice for yourself.  Hoping for the best for you today.