Is crying really as healing as people say?

[carrieset]

I don't tend to be a big crier (sp?) on a regular basis, but when I do I let loose (at home).

I think that is why I have 2 fingers that are severely sore for many months since Laurence died.   I beat the crap out of the floor.  I was so angry after he died.

We all grieve in a different way.  Sometimes crying can be healing, maybe vomiting is, too. Did that every morning for a month after he died.

Prayers and hugs to all here,

Carrie

[cokieslittlegirl]

Gosh, if I could only stop crying.  I feel like every little thing makes me cry now. I never minded crying about something in the past, but now I just want to stop and it doesn't seem like I can.  Wondering if I am slipping in to a depression.  I function, I go to work, but I enjoy nothing anymore. It's all such a struggle to do. I know my Dad would not want me to be living this way. If I knew how to change it I would. Seeing a counselor again, started some meds, maybe this will help.

[teppuM999]

i dont know if crying helps or not. echoing cokie, everything makes me cry and i just want to stop. doesn't seem like i can
i want to be one of those people who can focus on the good that matthew did, but i can't.
sometimes i feel "pressure" and crying helps alleviate it if i just let it go, but then other times, if i'm panicking, crying just exacerbates it.
matthew always felt bad if he heard me crying.

[rita-grammy]

I am not sure....seems I cry most everyday the pain sometimes just becomes overwhelming and wraps me up in a dark cloud .....its scary because then I start to have dark thoughts ....I no longer want to exist without my Becca....at her funeral I did cry however for the most part I just shook and threw up  somehow my mind did not allow to accept...you could have hit me with a two by four and I would have looked at you and walked away.. I only remember bits and parts of her funeral....I guess it was my way of holding on to my sanity ...crying has never made me feel better...but, I just can't help it....tears come in the middle of a store when I see something she would have loved to have or someone who laughs like did ....just able anything sets me off....I think maybe if you try to hold back it may make you ill.....sometimes I cry , scream and beat my pillow ....all that pain and anger has to come out someway....and its best I take it out on the pillow ....then myself or another...let the tears flow ...I think we need to

Rita